Dont Fall in love Sonakshi!! - Page 4

Originally posted by: _Payalj_

Sonakshi is and will always remain an idiot in love. Even at the age of 36 she believes in fairy tales.

Dev loves Sonakshi and it is a fact which even Sona is aware of. That never was the point of contention. The problem was Dev never lifting a finger to protect his love and forever trying to appease mummy.

So sona like am idiot would again let bygones be bygones and enter the Dixit madhouse.

But the story would differ from season one in a few salient points :

1. Sona will no longer try to win Ishwari's love or GKBs acceptance. They are going to get Shit in return of Shit.

2. Dev was brought up with the notion that he is God's gift to humanity. He also had lots of money. So he had never imagined that he could be dumped. Even when he had asked Sona to get out he was hoping that she would come back and say sorry. Just see his expression in the scene when Sonakshi puts her foot out of Dixit house. That is also his main grouse till date. Mujhe chod diya.

3. Now Dev knows that he is dumpable and will not repeat the same mistake of taking Sonakshi for granted.

4. Howsoever beti jaap he might be doing somewhere in his subconscious he knows that beti ke saath maa free. Just wait for his expressions when he finds about Sohas condition. He will pat his back for producing such a smart child. He might do some nautanki in the beginning to save his ego though.

5. It's not that easy for Ishwari to poison Soha against Sona. Soha has been born and brought up by Sona. She might get angry on Sona for a day or two but will start crying when the time comes for her to sleep. Poisoning would have been successful if Ishwari had access since childhood. Using Soha by her would further alienate and anger Dev

So I think the future episodes are going to be enjoyable with Ishwari getting her dues. I know people will say that Dev should be punished first. He has already been sufficiently punished and is still being punished only. It is acceptance of mistakes by him that is needed and that will happen after the natal cord with Ishwari is fully cut

Originally posted by: ltelidevara

Agree with you Nitu. Dev's love is unconditional. Not Sona's . I liked what Shavi said in her post. She is playing three roles.Bijoy's daughter Soha's mother and Sonakshi Bose.

Like you said the one we see in jungle who is soft and concerned towards Dev will change once she reaches home. She will be Bijoy's daughter and try to satisfy his false pride as you said.

It is always Dev whose love was questioned and demanded proof. Sonakshi who refused to even hear Dev during the last break up who preferred her father's ego over her husband's feelings was never asked to prove her love.

Irony of life now Dev has to prove himself before his daughter also and he is readily going ahead.

I disagree with TM who says Sona will lose everything I mean Soha. No. Iswari or no Iswari Dev will never let that happen. If such situation happens he will leave Soha for Sona and withdraw himself from making any effort to win Soha. He won't let Iswari hurt his daughter's emotions. He won't tolerate if his daughter is on the verge of losing her mother.

Sonakshi need not fear. Her daughter's father will safeguard her rights before claiming his rights.

Originally posted by: rock&roll

Interesting take...I especially loved the last part of Osho that u have quoted.Mature people do indeed rise in love because of their attitude towards love and due to the security and confidence that they have in their relationships.

I don't believe that Ishwari can turn Soha around so fast.The kid is too mature and too heavily influenced by Sona to be turned around even in 10 years time.Ishwari might have turned her around if Soha had been born and brought up in the dixit mansion,but now,it is a next to impossible task.Sona knows this and though she is scared(like any mother) of what Ishwari will do,she is also confident in the upbringing and value systems she has given to Soha.

I believe that both Sona and Dev are both unconditional in their love.I would not rate one person's feelings above the other.But Sona is a more mature person and thinks more clearly.This reflects in her relationships. Dev is more spontaneous and this too reflects in the way he handles his relationships

Sona's love for Soha is completely unconditional.(just like any mom).Dev's love for Soha is also unconditional.He is not imposing anything on her and is giving her space and time.If he was possessive he would behave like Ishwari(hell bent on making her Suhana dixit or get into a custody battle).

However Sona and Dev's love for each other was never completely unconditional.That is why they split.Sona imposed conditions in her love too...pushing Dev to do his own work ,insisting that he call her mother as "Maa",her manner in handling the 5 crore issue etc .Not to say that Dev didn't impose conditions..He did too..And many more probably..but the point I am trying to make is that both imposed conditions.

If their love was mature,they would have behaved very differently.Mature people express opinions and then back off by giving space and choice.If Sona had told him that she would like him to do his own work and talked to him about it and then backed off,that would have been maturity.If she had said that she was hurt and upset by him not calling her mother "maa" and then said that the final decision would be Dev's ,that would have been mature love.She was immature.So he forced,pushed and gave him ultimatums.That is conditional love. Dev did the same..He also pushed and gave ultimatums...

Each of them believed that their actions were justified because they loved the other person and they were doing this for the benefit and improvement of the other person..But that is where they were wrong..Love is about acceptance and gentle nudging towards improvement while walking hand in hand.Pushing someone towards an action when the concerned person is not prepared or willing to do it is not love,it is conditional love.Both Dev and Sona put conditions,ifs and buts in their love...and to top it all they burdened their love with unrealistic expectations.Their love couldn't carry the weight of their expectations and was crushed before it could bloom.

Finally...though I have huge sympathies for Sona and what she had to tolerate in the Dixit household,I do have a hypothetical question.If roles had been reversed and Dev had moved in with Sona,wouldn't Bijoy's behaviour have been almost as bad and intolerable?Wouldn't Dev have been subject to constant criticism and comparison to Bijoy(the perfect husband and dad?).Wouldn't Sona have been caught in a catch 22 between Dev and Bijoy?If push had come to shove what would she have done?And where would our sympathies lie then?😊

And if Dev had kept Soha away from Sona for 6 years,wouldn't she move heaven and earth for Soha to call her "Mumma"?Would that make her possessive or would that just make her a normal mother yearning for her child?😳

Originally posted by: dhank

@bold this broken promise of sona is easily neglected dev reminded her humne promise kiya that we ll together solve d prob he called her n no of times..she first shun dev ...

You said the fact.

@pushpull and if freak. I have been watching the show in the hope that something like this happens. Let's keep our fingers crossed and be optimistic. 😊

Very nice post WeRockThe World! Completely agree with your view.

Originally posted by: ltelidevara

Agree with you Nitu. Dev's love is unconditional. Not Sona's . I liked what Shavi said in her post. She is playing three roles.Bijoy's daughter Soha's mother and Sonakshi Bose.

Like you said the one we see in jungle who is soft and concerned towards Dev will change once she reaches home. She will be Bijoy's daughter and try to satisfy his false pride as you said.

It is always Dev whose love was questioned and demanded proof. Sonakshi who refused to even hear Dev during the last break up who preferred her father's ego over her husband's feelings was never asked to prove her love.

Irony of life now Dev has to prove himself before his daughter also and he is readily going ahead.

I disagree with TM who says Sona will lose everything I mean Soha. No. Iswari or no Iswari Dev will never let that happen. If such situation happens he will leave Soha for Sona and withdraw himself from making any effort to win Soha. He won't let Iswari hurt his daughter's emotions. He won't tolerate if his daughter is on the verge of losing her mother.

Sonakshi need not fear. Her daughter's father will safeguard her rights before claiming his rights.

@Bold, You are saying they broke up because Sona chose her father's ego. Do you mean when Dev said 'Leave' and kept quiet when she asked 'Is this what you want?', Sona should have just stayed behind?

You also say Dev's love was unconditional but from the above it sounds like his condition was 'What ever I say, however it hurts you, you have to stay to prove your love'. No? If his love was unconditional why exactly did he let her walk away? Is it because she said 'I hate you. I shouldn't have married you. I am leaving'??

I am not saying Sona's love is unconditional. I believe, the amount of love you can give is unconditional but there is always a reason for love even if it is blind!

Say, I accidentally collide my car on to a cyclist outside my gate while reversing: However minor but an accident nevertheless. Isn't it my duty to apologise, take care of them until the ambulance arrives, give them my insurance details and then call my insurance company to say what has happened. Thats responsibility isn't it?

So why exactly didn't Dev go after Bijoy Bose and apologise? Why didn't he call Saurabh and Sona to discuss the implication of this incident on his investment in their mutual business now? What exactly was he waiting for? If Bijoy and Sona should have acted independently, should he have treated them independently? Asking Sona to come home and seeking forgiveness to Bijoy must have been two separate tasks?

Okay thats real life and Dev is a reel person. What beats me is why then do real people justify such reel characters. Reel or real right is right and wrong is wrong, No?

Originally posted by: WeRockTheWorld

In season 2 as I see the journey of Dev and Sonakshi, I feel Sonakshi never had stopped loving Dev. After seeing Dev doing everying to get acceptance from his daughter she is kind of soften her attitude towards him. On the other hand Dev's love is more like a possession. Before he wanted to possess Sonakshi and make her his own. Now its his Daughter. He will do anything to make her accept him as his father.

Now comes Ishwari , why do I feel she will use Soha this time to unite Dev and Sonakshi so that she can get Soha to be become Suhana Dixit. And my heart says Soha is going to fall for the trick because she always wanted her parents to be together. You cant entirely blame Soha because Sonakshi has never bad mouthed about Dev or his family. She has said that they dont like her ...but they will accept Soha...So from a 6yr olds point of view ...their fight looked like something that can be sorted out...as she will not understand the games of her smart Dhadhi...once she gets Soha in her control...she will kick Sonakshi out of the house again..and as far as Dev is concerned all he needs his daughter ...he has gotten over with Sonakshi !!And this time Sonakshi will not have her parents too because Saurabh would have got married and ofcourse his wife's mom wouldnt want Sona to live with them...I see Sonakshi leading a lonely life with out any one...working as a nutritionist in some rural hospital...

You might wonder why I made this post because I have always felt Sonakshi is blind in love. Not just with Dev but in every relationship, with her father, Soha , Dev , Asha , Saurabh..etc

When we say love is blind . What do we mean by it...well to my understanding its a love that is unconditional and selfless. Sonakshi's love is unconditional. That is why even today inspite of all the difficulties she was still there for him and helping him to get close to their daughter. Somewhere in her heart she knows , she might loose Soha too to Ishwari hence she got the contract done...but my question to Sonakshi is , what will happen to you my dear when your own daughter will stand by Dev and his mom...I know you are brave...but be prepared to loose Soha too..

If she has to avoid another lose ...then she shouldnt stay blind in love...she should understand that her love for Dev is selfless and unconditional but Dev's love for her comes with unsaid conditions and bondage.

My dear Sonakshi dont fall in love again rather RISE IN LOVE!!

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Sharing few words from Osho which I had read online.
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"Immature people falling in love destroy each other's freedom, create a bondage, make a prison. Mature persons in love help each other to be free; they help each other to destroy all sorts of bondages. And when love flows with freedom there is beauty. When love flows with dependence there is ugliness.

A mature person does not fall in love, he or she rises in love. Only immature people fall; they stumble and fall down in love. Somehow they were managing and standing. Now they cannot manage and they cannot stand. They were always ready to fall on the ground and to creep. They don't have the backbone, the spine; they don't have the integrity to stand alone.

A mature person has the integrity to stand alone. And when a mature person gives love, he or she gives without any strings attached to it. When two mature persons are in love, one of the great paradoxes of life happens, one of the most beautiful phenomena: they are together and yet tremendously alone. They are together so much that they are almost one. Two mature persons in love help each other to become more free. There is no politics involved, no diplomacy, no effort to dominate. Only freedom and love."

I have always felt that Dev-Sona have a strangely balanced equation - by that I mean,

Originally posted by: dhank

@bold this broken promise of sona is easily neglected dev reminded her humne promise kiya that we ll together solve d prob he called her n no of times..she first shun dev ...

Both love each other but the way they love each other is different...my reason for this post was not to prove Sonakshi was rt or Dev was rt etc...but to bring in different approach to love and how it affects...I highlighted Sonakshi's journey and not Dev's is primarily because I have not been able to understand him completely...and one day I hope to pen down his journey of love because he is my favorite character ...I have never seen or read such a deep unpredictable character...

Having said that I do have my sympathies for Ms Bose...My heart says she is going to lead a very lonely life...I hope I am proved wrong by the CVs.