Originally posted by: _Payalj_
Sorry everyone for being absent but had some personal exigencies.
Coming back to the show, I think it is moving towards a track where even Bijoy will be shown the mirror and made to realise where he has gone wrong . His karma of always humiliating his son and differentiating between his children is going to bite him very soon.
No wife tolerates such insult of her husband, no man likes to be insulted thus in front of his inlaws. Most probably saurabh will go and start staying with his inlaws.
Then for bijoy will come the time to practice what he preaches. Only then he will understand Dev's perspective . I am not defending Dev here because both Ishwari and Dev were at extremes and wrong. there is no doubt about it, but bijoy was no less with his rigidity and false pride and only aggravated the bad position.
If he had for at least once set aside his pride, then the situation would have been different. For example after the slapgate, if instead of being worried about his personal insult, he had thought only as a concerned father, called home a scared and subdued Dev and asked him to guarantee his daughters happiness, security and respect in Dixit house, he could have moved mountains. Dev at that time would have taken firm steps (including financial guarantee) to ensure Sona's well being.
But then for bijoy his pride always exceeded everything. Therefore, obviously when the entire gaggle of elders was even more immature and self centered than their children, then it had to become a tamasha. And that is what Devakshi married life became.
You maybe correct in that the CVs might paint a negative picture of Bijoy and I will find that hard to digest. As it stands today, I think Bijoy is an ordinary father, pretty realistically portrayed. Why he chooses to treat both his children differently is just because every parent knows - different strokes for different folks. All children are different, their needs are different. We can try and bring them up with similar values but their age, school, friends and hormones will have the ultimate impact. Was Bijoy wrong yesterday - in hindsight yes but at that moment, his worry for his one child was more than the other and he did what he did. Without being right most times, he couldn't have brought up such lovely children and for that I think we should not judge his parenting skills.
Did Bijoy take slapgate as his personal insult? Of course he did. Should he have put that aside and been asked Dev for his daughter's happiness? Pragmatically, no! Why would I want my dad to speak to my husband about my happiness putting aside his humiliation? What does that say of my husband? What does that say of me? So, no Bijoy did the right thing.
Actually at the slapgate incident you know what could have helped - if Ishwari managed to put aside her disappointment with her son and said "Dev, yeh tuhne kya kiya. I am sorry Bijoy, baisahaab. I am sorry my son hurt you. This is not the sanskaar I have given my child. Lets sit and talk this through."
This is the world today, isn't it? We are easy to accept someone who under performs and write them off but with someone who is performing well, we always expect more!!
The only way out for the Dixits was to take the money from Sona and then hope to build the relationship. You can't knock a person down in the name of money, slap them and then expect them to be the wiser one with a big heart. Sorry absolutely not!
Bijoy is the dad your average Indian family lacks. If every father of a daughter is like Bijoy, there will be no husband abusing his wife incidents or even families abusing their DILs in India.
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