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I really liked today's episode.After a week's crapfest,I thought we got something good.
From my pov,the episode reinforced two very important lessons of life
1)The role of both parents,and the relationship between them, in the upbringing of the child.
2)The importance of having a good relationship with the daughter in law of the house.
Many spouses believe that it is ok to abuse /illtreat/look down on the other spouse.They believe that being ultra sweet and caring to the child while ill treating the other spouse is just fine because in their twisted minds they feel that they are being nice to the child and are taking out their anger on the spouse only(who they dislike/can't get along for some reason)
Unfortunately ,they couldn't be more wrong.
The relationship of a child with the mother is connected through the father and vice versa.More importantly,the relationship of the child with the mother/father is heavily dependent on the relationship between the mother and father.Where a child sees disrespect/abuse between parents,the child will sooner or later start disliking the abuser.Over time anything the abuser does will never be enough to win back the love of the child.
The same holds for mothers in law too..Many MILs stupidly think that they can ill treat their DILs and get away with it.They couldn't be more wrong.If they ill treat their DIL,their grandchildren will hate them for life.I am sure Soha is going to ask Ishwari many uncomfortable questions.
If Ishwari doesn't mend her ways and doesn't salvage her relstionship with Soha,she will lose Soha forever.Soha may forgive Dev because he is her father but she will never forgive Ishwari
I am not implying that Dev is an abuser or Sona is a victim.I am just trying to state the importance that their interrelationship holds for Soha.Sona already has an existing strong relationship with Soha.Whereas Dev is on the back foot.If Dev wants to win Soha's heart,he first has to win back Sona's heart.If the li'l girl sees that her mom loves/respects someone she will automatically love him.If he continues to fight with Sona,then how much ever he may try,Soha will never fully accept him.
Dev,change ur route.The route to Soha's heart is not through her bedroom window or lunch boxes and toys.The route to Soha's heart is through Sona's heart.And this is true for any parent.The best way to win your child's heart is be just,fair and show respect to your spouse.
In my own personal experience I have seen that since my inlaws treated me poorly,my son lost respect and love for them.They also tried to poison his mind against me.It was the worst thing they could have done.Children will hate anyone who speaks against their mom/dad.Over a period of time ,he started to dislike the idea of going to their house.Nowadays he hardly goes there.I sometimes feel sorry for them. Inspite of everything,I still feel that they are old and deserve to be with their grand child.But my son refuses to go there ...and I don't want to force him
Life goes full cycle and sometimes we cannot change things even if we want to
your thoughts are welcomeš
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