Relationships:The complex inter connections - Page 3

Originally posted by: coolmeet

Nice post and I can feel ur pain as my elder sis had also been through all this.But not completely.I tell you why?

Some months ago ,I told my didi abt Krpkab and told her to watch it and also told her about how this realistic story is a copy of her life. But she asked"Tu aisa serial dekh rahi hai Jo tu kabhi nahi samajh payegi"

And I guess she was right because there's a difference of 7yrs between us and when she was going through all that my parents kept me away from her issues.

Whereas , I have never been in such a situation . I simply love my in laws and they love me.We stay here in Delhi ,whereas my mil lives in Aligarh and whenever I go to her place(our place) ,mujhe lagta hai main apne maayke (mamma's house) ayee hun.

Agar kabhi main apne hubby aur in laws ke bare mein bataungi toh aap believe nahi karoge. Touchwood hi karti rehti hun main.

That's the reason I think of each character of this serial.Jaise dikhte hain ,waise hi main IF pe likh deti hun.

Originally posted by: chucklebuddy

Hii Anita! Awesome analysis! :)

I was watching Friday's episode with my mom and trust me I was clapping inadvertently to many to Soha's dialogues. My mom said the children will ask such questions to parents, especially a mature kid like Soha will definitely ask many more questions like this in future. I have been told that even my dad softened towards everyone after my mom conceived me. :)

Originally posted by: rock&roll

Gid Bless u dear..and ouchwood..may your relationship with ur hubby and inlaws be like this always😊.The problem of inlaws looking down or mistreating the dil is a seemingly common one in India..but I do hope all such inlaws face the music and realise the mistake they have done .Hope ur sister is doing good and is over her troublest

Originally posted by: rock&roll

Thank u 😃

Yes,kids do ask a lot of questions and if a parent has been committing a mistake consistently,they can really make that parent very uncomfortable.They ask a lot of questions and can be very straightforward and to the point.

My son asks a lot of uncomfortable questions to my hubby which leaves him fuming or gaping(As the case may be😉).Children definitely say things that we as adults may hesitate to ask or say😊

Originally posted by: rock&roll

I really liked today's episode.After a week's crapfest,I thought we got something good.

From my pov,the episode reinforced two very important lessons of life

1)The role of both parents,and the relationship between them, in the upbringing of the child.

2)The importance of having a good relationship with the daughter in law of the house.

Many spouses believe that it is ok to abuse /illtreat/look down on the other spouse.They believe that being ultra sweet and caring to the child while ill treating the other spouse is just fine because in their twisted minds they feel that they are being nice to the child and are taking out their anger on the spouse only(who they dislike/can't get along for some reason)

Unfortunately ,they couldn't be more wrong.

The relationship of a child with the mother is connected through the father and vice versa.More importantly,the relationship of the child with the mother/father is heavily dependent on the relationship between the mother and father.Where a child sees disrespect/abuse between parents,the child will sooner or later start disliking the abuser.Over time anything the abuser does will never be enough to win back the love of the child.

The same holds for mothers in law too..Many MILs stupidly think that they can ill treat their DILs and get away with it.They couldn't be more wrong.If they ill treat their DIL,their grandchildren will hate them for life.I am sure Soha is going to ask Ishwari many uncomfortable questions.

If Ishwari doesn't mend her ways and doesn't salvage her relstionship with Soha,she will lose Soha forever.Soha may forgive Dev because he is her father but she will never forgive Ishwari

I am not implying that Dev is an abuser or Sona is a victim.I am just trying to state the importance that their interrelationship holds for Soha.Sona already has an existing strong relationship with Soha.Whereas Dev is on the back foot.If Dev wants to win Soha's heart,he first has to win back Sona's heart.If the li'l girl sees that her mom loves/respects someone she will automatically love him.If he continues to fight with Sona,then how much ever he may try,Soha will never fully accept him.

Dev,change ur route.The route to Soha's heart is not through her bedroom window or lunch boxes and toys.The route to Soha's heart is through Sona's heart.And this is true for any parent.The best way to win your child's heart is be just,fair and show respect to your spouse.

In my own personal experience I have seen that since my inlaws treated me poorly,my son lost respect and love for them.They also tried to poison his mind against me.It was the worst thing they could have done.Children will hate anyone who speaks against their mom/dad.Over a period of time ,he started to dislike the idea of going to their house.Nowadays he hardly goes there.I sometimes feel sorry for them. Inspite of everything,I still feel that they are old and deserve to be with their grand child.But my son refuses to go there ...and I don't want to force him

Life goes full cycle and sometimes we cannot change things even if we want to

your thoughts are welcome😃

Originally posted by: chucklebuddy

Anita di it is!😃 Neenga tamil thane!😃

True that! That too kids these days are way too mature and understanding!😆 My nephew is 9 and talks more than his age😆 My cousin, her mom and dad, her hubby and his mom are all there to look after him - but he is unmanageable!😆 Even my tenant's kid, who is 3, talks more stuff than what is expected of his age. My manager's daughter, who is 7, had asked me embarrassing questions during our meets!😆😆

Originally posted by: ashakd

Hey Anitha, read your post on the go and was not able to reply. Just utilizing a relaxed weekend, to spend some time reading some thing about KRPKB.

I loved a few points from your post:

point 1: 1)The role of both parents,and the relationship between them, in the upbringing of the child.

so true yaar, its a collective effort, with each filling in the gaps that the other partner has.

Point no 2: The relationship of a child with the mother is connected through the father and vice versa

👏👏 time and time again, this is proved. Love your wife/ husband unconditionally, and see the love and pride in your childs face.

Point 3: Dev,change ur route.The route to Soha's heart is not through her bedroom window or lunch boxes and toys.The route to Soha's heart is through Sona's heart.And this is true for any parent.The best way to win your child's heart is be just,fair and show respect to your spouse.

👏 bingo!!!!!Dev please, just win Sona asap, then you will get "PAPA", asap too..

I always believe what you give others, comes back to you double fold. Do good then get blessed, but cause harm, then God save you.

But then this is in real, in serials its ''babaji ki tullu' 😛

All said and then, KRPKAB has entertainment unlimited.