The Judgement Day!!! EDITED! - Page 24

Originally posted by: .IamShonali.

Great points and such learning lessons for us! Especially the unmarried lot! Let's not get stuck with Devs.

You know only male character in the history of Indian Televisoon that I have ever liked is Sanskaar from Swaragini. He was a no nonsense kinda guy. You could also call him male version of Sonakshi! Amazing characterization like Sona.
So all gals, just find Sanskaar if you can handle
And all guys, only find Sonakshi if you can handle

Originally posted by: Pehchaan.Kaun

One thing I would like to mention here today in Tia's post which I refrained from posting in those individual posts earlier - discussions about strong women.

I have read few posts where one justifies that how staying in an abusive marriage throughout life and finally coming up as a winner is strength. No second thought about it.👏Kudos to the women who do that, kudos to the mummies and aunties of us who did that in last generation. Kudos to the ladies who HAD to do that and who came out with flying colours. I can safely say I don't have that much strength ever.🤗

But having said that - I would also want to mention that those are not the standards of strength. Those are the highest or epitomes of strength. And expecting women to endure till that point is exactly what is against the concept of Feminism. Feminism doesn't speak about strong characters. When I say I am feminist, I don't mean I have the utmost courage to go through any situation in life and then testing myself whether I can win or not. No. It is about equal rights where I will have options like Men do to TOTALLY avoid that difficult situation for me. It's about having an alternate option of living my life in my own terms and condition, married or unmarried, staying in an abusive marriage or getting divorced, choosing the groom's family to stay with or mine. Men enjoy the privileges in society not because they are strong, but because they get options. I would like to have those options for me to choose what is right for me. I think all those women who had put up with so much of abuse in their marriage would HARDLY like their daughters go through the same, and given an opportunity they would let their daughters live their own life, in their terms. I cannot imagine a victim of previous generation wanting me to get married to an abusive husband and family stating 'I have done the same, this is how it works, everyone has to do this, why not you? You will come out stronger'. Thankfully all ladies around me, INCLUDING my MIL believes that today's generation should NOT go through the stuffs they were made to go through. This itself shows that despite acknowledging their strength, we cannot call it an ideal situation and we shouldn't look upto it as a reference point to measure strength. Sometimes people believe that compromising with abuse etc are part of life and that would make someone better human being (stronger etc), but when it comes to their daughter's life, compromise is not the first thought in their mind, they want to provide the best for their daughter and that is how it should be.👍🏼

Taking pride in a lifetime struggle is one thing, but when we feel resistant to provide the same type of life to our near and dear ones (sisters or daughters), we give it a lot of thought. That itself calls for an introspection of the decision to choose to continue such life and the overall meaning of that struggle, isn't it ?

Originally posted by: ---Andromeda---

I liked Sanskaar a lot too.He was one of the finest male leads I had ever seen.Infact I watched SR only for him.After a while I got bored and left watching.😆Bored with the show I mean.Not with Sanskaar.😳

Now coming back to Sanskaar's character,he was as you said,Sonakshi's twin.He was sensible,smart and level headed.He knew what he had to do and when.He had his flaws but that only added to the beauty of his character.He was tactful too.

And like Sonakshi,Sanskaar too tended to become weak in front of the woman he loved.Just like Sonakshi used to become vulnerable in front of Dev pre leap.That is something which I would consider to be a minor flaw in both of them.

Originally posted by: Pehchaan.Kaun

One thing I would like to mention here today in Tia's post which I refrained from posting in those individual posts earlier - discussions about strong women.

I have read few posts where one justifies that how staying in an abusive marriage throughout life and finally coming up as a winner is strength. No second thought about it. 👏 Kudos to the women who do that, kudos to the mummies and aunties of us who did that in last generation. Kudos to the ladies who HAD to do that and who came out with flying colours. I can safely say I don't have that much strength ever. 🤗

But having said that - I would also want to mention that those are not the standards of strength. Those are the highest or epitomes of strength. And expecting women to endure till that point is exactly what is against the concept of Feminism. Feminism doesn't speak about strong characters. When I say I am feminist, I don't mean I have the utmost courage to go through any situation in life and then testing myself whether I can win or not. No. It is about equal rights where I will have options like Men do to TOTALLY avoid that difficult situation for me. It's about having an alternate option of living my life in my own terms and condition, married or unmarried, staying in an abusive marriage or getting divorced, choosing the groom's family to stay with or mine. Men enjoy the privileges in society not because they are strong, but because they get options. I would like to have those options for me to choose what is right for me. I think all those women who had put up with so much of abuse in their marriage would HARDLY like their daughters go through the same, and given an opportunity they would let their daughters live their own life, in their terms. I cannot imagine a victim of previous generation wanting me to get married to an abusive husband and family stating 'I have done the same, this is how it works, everyone has to do this, why not you? You will come out stronger'. Thankfully all ladies around me, INCLUDING my MIL believes that today's generation should NOT go through the stuffs they were made to go through. This itself shows that despite acknowledging their strength, we cannot call it an ideal situation and we shouldn't look upto it as a reference point to measure strength. Sometimes people believe that compromising with abuse etc are part of life and that would make someone better human being (stronger etc), but when it comes to their daughter's life, compromise is not the first thought in their mind, they want to provide the best for their daughter and that is how it should be. 👍🏼

Taking pride in a lifetime struggle is one thing, but when we feel resistant to provide the same type of life to our near and dear ones (sisters or daughters), we give it a lot of thought. That itself calls for an introspection of the decision to choose to continue such life and the overall meaning of that struggle, isn't it ?

Originally posted by: tia.o

Now that I look back, I think all Dev meant is that he loved Sonakshi in a romantic sense and not in a platonic friendly sense, that's all. We were the morons who thought he meant something more profound.

Originally posted by: ---Andromeda---

@bold,those were the keywords I guess.He loves Sona as a man loves a woman while he loves Ishu like a son who loves his mom.

Tell me now which love is greater??😉😆

Originally posted by: gaurimisha

son-mom love...he is her Shravan Kumar. Shravan Kumar himself never married...and so I always maintain Shravan Kumar ho to shaadi mat karo...😆

Originally posted by: ---Andromeda---

But he is Kaliyug's Shravan Kumar right??😆And he wants to have everything.😆

Originally posted by: tia.o

Honestly Ashi, when Dev said today that he had bad luck, I was thinking that at least you can take solace in thinking that your love didn't betray you, didn't let you down. But the woman who believed in you, she can't even take solace in that because for her, the biggest let down, the biggest betrayal had come from the man whom she believed twice and who left her side twice. She must have felt like a fool and lost trust in her judgement to the point that she could not even have a casual, no strings attached relationship after you like you were having. So whose luck is worse?