A wife is no mother...EDITED after Dev Sona confrontation - Page 3

Originally posted by: Pehchaan.Kaun

😛 He thinks he has right on his daughter, without any responsibility, without any efforts, without any concern about the child's mother.

Forget about Soha, Sona should have asked Dev if he is ready to father a child which he is absolutely not as shown in today's episode. 😆 Like Dev is for Ishwari - the meaning of her life, Dev thinks Soha is one for Dev - someone to add meaning to his apparently-over life...But children are not supposed to be used as a tool to repair someone's damaged life (Sorry Tia, had to take from your post)... Parents should provide a meaning to their children's life.

Originally posted by: preethik

Hi sia. I differ slightly here. Dev did feel emotion for sona when he saw the birth certificate. His first dialogue was sonakshi maa ban gayi! He was happy for her at least that's what I felt.

Now that he's gotten over that highly emotional moment his natural instincts kick in i.e. to blame sona as he always does. If you think that dev is going to be grateful to sona or if he's going to think about her struggles 2 days after his discovery of soha then think again.

A man who has not yet introspected about his part in his failed marriage for 7 years will not think about sonas struggles so soon.

I think this confrontation with sona will let him see her struggles & also the fact that she did come to see him with the kid. But dev being dev would continue to blame her.

Hopefully the cvs don't go down that route because frankly it's getting a little tiresome when every guy in sonas life is picture perfect except the guy she loves & she's clearly still in love with him.

seriously - all you women who think Sona is correct are out of your minds!

Originally posted by: s7278909a

seriously - all you women who think Sona is correct are out of your minds!

Come on people! You are a woman in the first place and it takes a woman to understand another woman! Esh is not going anywhere - and expecting her to change / understand etc is ridiculous. She is a parent..

It is upto Sona and Dev to work out ways to make the relationship work and understand how Esh is and so on..

Sona is totally to blame for the break-up in the marriage. Why dont you guys get it!!!

Originally posted by: s7278909a

seriously - all you women who think Sona is correct are out of your minds!

Come on people! You are a woman in the first place and it takes a woman to understand another woman! Esh is not going anywhere - and expecting her to change / understand etc is ridiculous. She is a parent..

It is upto Sona and Dev to work out ways to make the relationship work and understand how Esh is and so on..

Sona is totally to blame for the break-up in the marriage. Why dont you guys get it!!!

Originally posted by: s7278909a

seriously - all you women who think Sona is correct are out of your minds!

Come on people! You are a woman in the first place and it takes a woman to understand another woman! Esh is not going anywhere - and expecting her to change / understand etc is ridiculous. She is a parent..

It is upto Sona and Dev to work out ways to make the relationship work and understand how Esh is and so on..

Sona is totally to blame for the break-up in the marriage. Why dont you guys get it!!!

👏 Sarcasm

Sia,

A wonderful post with a very pertinent question. Even I had exactly the same question for Dev since the beginning of the season 2. If he could forgive his mother and all the other Dixits at the least to the extent of being cordial with them, then what was it that made him Sonakshi unforgiving in his eyes.


I then realised that probably it's because for Dev , Sonakshi and him were always ONE! Remember his dialogue 'Tum aur mai toh ek haina' during the episodes after the first break up. And Dev has always been someone who never valued himself, his priorities, his happiness and his needs in the first season. So a man who never valued himself before his family can't be expected to value someone whom he considers to be his other half in the literal sense. For Dev, love is all about this sense of being ONE. This very flaw in him of not being able to see Sonakshi as individual first (and then a part of him) led him to treat her the way he treats himself!

And when Sonakshi dared to break away from him and his love, he felt utterly betrayed. "How could Sonakshi run away from me when we were/are supposed to be one?". For Dev, it's far easier to forgive others for their mistakes but forgiving himself and someone whom he fiercely believed/believes to be one with himself is a very difficult thing to do. As much as he hates Sonakshi, he hates himself as well. He knows that he has committed blunders in his marriage. But acknowledging his mistakes means acknowledging the reasons that caused Sonakshi to take the step that she did. And this would only mean disillusioning him of his glorified love where the faulty notion of two souls being one led him to not treat Sonakshi with respect and dignity!

Originally posted by: gudima

That's why I want sona to marry jatin

Because Dev need biggest jhatka to come out of his bubble world

Because till now he know that he has not lost sonakshi

He will come on line only if he will loose her

Anyway yaar how much anyone try to defend him now there is not a ounce of humanity even left in him

This is not the Dev I watched in first episode

Nothing can shake Dev I feel. A third angle in love is not needed to invoke love. Dev has indeed become a devil.

Originally posted by: JazzyM

Very true. ...A bad after taste for sure!

Dev has forgotten all his misdeeds, his mother is now his bagawan again... The pre-nup stated that the child will not have any rights on Dev. I know, Dev didn't orchestra the note but his bagawan did it, so, why is she going against what she wanted...???

The thing is Sona did not tarnish Dev's image in front of Soha. Why can't he understand that and be grateful.

Sona brought the baby to Dev's house...what happened there?

You know what I wish...let Dev and Sona share Soha's custody. Let Soha have her biological dad but let Sona move on...This relationship is a real killer (the worst part is, I love Shareer's acting but not the character).

Sona should move on with another guy, even if it's not Jatin. Have a relationship where her emotions matter, she has her partner's full support and most importantly she is respected. Dev can go and hang himself with jealousy.

Dev is becoming a psychopathic

Totally agree with you. Sona loved this man so much and this relationship ruined her life. She will not make the mistake of trusting him in love ever again. Don't know what the next track will be but Dev will be so aghast to see Sona's indifference after his papa-beti hangover gets over.

Originally posted by: tia.o

<font size="3" color="#663366">You are absolutely right, Sia. Soha raised a question today that Dev had no answer for. If he was not good for her mother, how will he be good for her.</font>

<font size="3" color="#663366">Sona had a lot of opportunities to make Soha hate Dev and she didn't need to lie for it. If she had just said truth and nothing but the truth, Soha would still hate Dev.</font>

<font size="3" color="#663366">But Sonakshi glossed over everything and said the pg version to Soha.</font>

<font size="3" color="#663366">Yet Dev goes and accuses her how could she be so beraham to keep his daughter away from him. Seriously?</font>

<font size="3" color="#663366">Did he think that how could she have the heart to make sure his daughter didn't find out his misdeeds including mistreating his mother and not to mention other women while she was sleeping in the room beside his in the hotel?</font>

<font size="3" color="#663366">Did he think how did she get through an obviously stressful pregnancy with added medical complications, threat of miscarriage, mountain high debt, homeless with her whole family's responsibility on her head?</font>

<font size="3" color="#663366">Did he think that in spite of his company throwing out her family from their home, him throwing out of his life twice, and him saying disgusting things to her, how she found in her heart to tell his daughter that he is a good man?</font>

<font size="3" color="#663366">Dev may be obsessed with Sonakshi. But he is a selfish man who is not capable of seeing anyone's problem but his own.</font>

Tia, most women are this self-sacrificing and compassionate in life that I wonder what are they made up of? I am so unlike any of such females. It is commendable to have such patience in life, but are uch men deserving enough is my question. Becoming parents can be a joint decision, but it is more taxing for a mother than a father - both emotionally and physically. So how does the society decide that both have equal right on a child? And with men like Dev who are so selfish and insensitive, they should really rot in hell.
I have an internal fight with myself - Dev always needed to redeem himself. But today I feel more hatred towards him versus earlier. why? I guess because when Dev-Sonakshi were Man-Woman, they were equals but with Soha coming into picture and Dev coming to know of the reality, I feel he is much worse as this woman is now much higher in order and yet you throw attitude at her is shameful. Not to say that Sonakshi deserves more respect after becoming a mom to Soha, but I feel every man who wants to be a father, has to be 100 times more respectful to the mother of his child - because by nature's call, they are not capable of giving birth and that womb is a living woman and not an object, that will give you an elevation and profound happiness for life!

Sorry I got carried away... Too long and not sure if this makes sense!