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Some time before DevAkshi were married, Dev had asked Sona if she was ready to accept him as he was. That life with him would be difficult and that he was not a simple man to live with. He had asked if Sona was ready for a relationship that came with a lot of baggage. Sona had agreed with all her heart and promised to accept Dev (and his burdens).
When Sona left Dev, it is this promise she broke (for right or wrong reasons).
Ever since Season 2 started, I had been upset with Dev for blaming Sona as a reason for their breakup. Yesterday, I understood him. The episode was uniquely/strangely done but it sent very strong messages.
That Dev still loves Sona consciously (and not subconsciously that we all know 😳) and blames her only for leaving him, hurting him, breaking her promise of accepting him for what he is. He didn't pride himself for a being a strong or perfect man but whatever was there of him, he had given to Sona and she had agreed to take him for what he is - with his flaws, weaknesses, imperfections, and burdens. He had expected her - and unreasonably so - to forgive him for all his faults, love him despite them. But then, that is love! It is not something that comes in ideal packages. It is not something that we can explain logically always. When we love someone with all our heart, we expect that person to forgive us even when we know we have made mistakes. In Season 1, Dev apologized for most of his mistakes (except that last BIG one but then the situations were 🤢). On that fateful day, he had made a choice - overriding his mother's latent (but very clear) wish - to live his life with Sonakshi. But she had not understood. She had broken her promise and left him. Yes, he did say those hurtful things, perhaps meant them too - but it was his anguish that spoke that day. And Sona didn't understand, took everything on face value and left.
That is what Dev blames her for. He asked her to leave and she left.
He holds Ishwari responsible for their breakup - so his behavior towards her is irrevocably altered. That is not the case with Sona. His 'hatred' is temporary - as long as she doesn't remember her promise and comes back.
Yesterday's episode had beautiful nuances. Dev was strained under the flood of emotions, withholding himself, masking his thoughts in humor but putting his point across clearly - Sona is his life. Still.
There may be many viewpoints about whether Sona should or shouldn't forgive Dev. Perhaps she shouldn't - at least not if it was real life. But then again, the heart has its own reasons of which reason knows nothing! She loves him - despite everything - but whether she can accept him with all his limitations is what remains to be seen. Dev hasn't grown up (he is still a child at heart who longs for love and acceptance) but he has changed where it mattered the most to DevAkshi - he has found his own voice and can stand up to his mother now. She doesn't control him anymore.
I forgave Dev yesterday. And I would look forward to Sona doing the same too 😊
PS: I am not justifying Dev's actions in any way. I'm just trying to understand him and analyze if as a couple on a TV show, they can still make it 😊
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