The Complex Psyche - Page 2

Originally posted by: gaurimisha

Excellent Post!!

I understand Dev. Thats why I do sympathise with him.

The only problem I feel he never applied his high education in his real life, it was limited to his business. He applied Ishwari's formula to his personal life and it broke everything.

He is a complex character. He appears childish in many situations. I am appalled at him, may be I expected way too much from somebody with such business acumen and high level of intelligence.

All said and done, I dont exactly hate him because I still believe he is not evil personified.

Originally posted by: Ashsat1

Wow great post, may I add something? I always thought of Dev as an circus elephant. As a child, he was forced to obey. Baby elephants are are tied down with many heavy things and are shown that they cannot escape, so as an adult they don't realize that they can escape if they try, because emotionally they are caught. Before leap, I thought Sona would be the one to show that he can escape. But Dev wrapped in his own misery did not listen, and in a way, a reverse psychology worked on him when Sona left. He began to question his own identity, and became a rebellious elephant, he is still emotionally trapped (as shown in yesterday's epi with him caring for his mom) but he has realized that he can escape. But will he realize his cowardliness and escape?

Originally posted by: sbadam

Sabita ji, (hope I can address you like that, I am soumya by the way)

This is one of the beautiful write ups on Dev. He has been conditioned from his childhood to be as his mother wants to gain rewards...the more I see him, understand him, I feel like he was like a lab monkey growing up... who got rewarded for the good things(in his mother's eyes)...and got a not so approval look from his mom for bad things( the things Ish didnt approve of/ like)...so he has carefully tuned himself so that he walks only on those spots which he knows his mom was ok with...But with Sona, his inner self comes out...all the hidden things that he always wanted/wished for himself...the dialogues that he spoke to Sona in their early days of courtship...makes more sense now as you have pointed out...I am so looking forward for him to confront himself...the wrongs that he and Ish have done to mess up things so badly for all three of them...

P.S. I personally know a person who is like Dev(not the obsessive kind in him) but who has been conditioned in certain way growing up, that now they no longer think about them self...all they want to do is keep others happy...I dont have any problem in that but I also believe that first we need to help ourselves to help others...it is as simple as this...be happy yourself then you can be/give happiness to others😊

Thanks again, it has been always a pleasure to read your posts😳😊

Originally posted by: gemini54

Thanks for the reply. I want to address the one in Bold if I may. I have 2 boys ( as most of you know) My older son is so wise beyond his years so mature but when it comes to emotions he is like a child. My younger son on the other hand is very, very strong emotionally the same upbringing but two people turn out differently I often ask myself why is that? and the only logical explanation that I could think of is I was very young when I had him, was quite emotional and reacted emotionally to his every hurt so he learnt that from me..when my younger son was growing up I grew up also and he emulated more things from his father the logical one. So just because one is one way in Business does not mean they are the same personally.

Originally posted by: Jade0001

An Excellent Analysis

Dev grew up on shaky grounds he had to mature and be the man of the house always trying his best to protect his mother

Ishwari on the other hand gave him the responsibility to take the family out of poverty which indeed is a good thing , where she went wrong was not allowing him to interact with his sisters or have friends making him fragile for the future

according to Ishwari all she needed was Dev and he needed his mother this made her happy as a parent that her child is obedient and she is on the right track in growing him up .

Dev loved his mother he still does , he respects her and devoted his time to her made sure she was happy but she did not really see that her son was happy with his wife she had thought that Dev can only be happy with his mother again she was wrong

Dev has learned the crueliest lesson about his family more importantly about his mother and his wife

he had always expected both to work through their problems but come together and make him happy which certainly didn't happen

Originally posted by: rock&roll

Wow... Awesome splendid piece of writing.You seem to save your best posts for my busiest days ;)

Finished watching the eppy at 2 am last night..and then couldn't resist the temptation to check IF just once( I know I have to enroll at the nearest KRPKAB de addiction centre;))... and what do I see ?? An awesome post by you at 2 am at night...To reply or not to reply.. that is my question :)).. My logic and tiredness get the better of me. So I half heartedly go off to sleep... and now on my way to work,I am replying to ur post on a priority basis :))..Great piece of writing

Yes,Dev is an enigma and we can all understand only parts of him.Sona is more relatable.As u hv rightly pointed out ,his desperate need for acceptance,lack of a friend and an upbringing without a father figure have had a huge impact on his personality.Ar times I love the man, at times I hate him and then at times I feel really sorry for him. It is his erratic behaviour alternating between childlike vulnerability and a manifestation of gross hatred / vengeance that bring about this feeling.On the contrary,my emotions or feelings for Sona's character hv been more consistent.

Finally I decided that Dev is a child at heart. Lovable and vulnerable, giving his all at times..but an incorrigible illogical spoilt brat screaming for attention at times.Like a spoilt kid he does the wrong things for attention,does things without thinking about its consequences and of course always looks for acceptance. and validation.

The problem is that along with these childlike qualities he has a man's ego and irrational anger.And of cpurse, he is an adult, not a kid. So qualities which are endearing in children are irritating in adults .Also he is headstrong and wont listen . So he cant be scolded and taught to differentiate right from wrong like a kid can .

Net net we have Dev the dilemma:)
Great post. Loved it

Gotta go now. Typing from my i phone.. so plz excuse any typos or mistakes.:)