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The complex Psyche of Dev. This is not in support of his actions/inaction's but just to view him as an individual with deep rooted want for acceptance only from his lady love why is it?
His Mother the person who literally molded him for who he was. We as parents always push our children to be the best they can, get good grades we say, succeed we say, be a good human being we say and a lot of other things.
Children want to please that is a common trait that all children possess so Dev wanted to please and how could he please by becoming successful.
He did not have a father figure or rather had a weak one ..I am not saying that single mothers or Dads cannot raise strong children but children do need strong role models whether it is Moms or Dads. That is why many young Men who are children of single mothers have idols that they worship like a Basketball player or someone else.
He was devoid of friends because Easwari never allowed him to have one , he was not close to his siblings because Easwari did not allow that..So what did he have? a mother who doted over him and in return wanted a son who worshiped her and so he did just that.
He lacked the Emotional Quotient because other than his mother he really did not have an emotional connect with anyone ; enter Sona like a breathe of fresh air in his life. The words he told Sona though look romantic in the surface was all about his need or obsession to be loved by the other person exclusively..This is where the first disconnect was Sona loved Dev but she came from a family where there was no exclusivity only inclusion and so the ideologies clashed the more Sona wanted to have an inclusive family the more Easwari position was threatened the more Easwari was threatened she threatened Dev in the end he was this person just swinging from one to another why because the only two person he had in his life was Easwari who expected him to be a certain way and Sona who wanted him to be a certain way ( this was unconscious) that is why he said he wanted to be a better man when he was with her..because he knew he really wasn't. Into this dynamics comes another Family who are inclusive too the Bose's they did not understand the Easwari dynamics because we only know what we are exposed too and they weren't. Under these circumstances any marriage will not succeed because Dev was being pulled in all directions and lacked the personal strength to balance and Sona really did not understand this lack of balance.
All the stalking the obsessive behavior the possessiveness, the anger all stemming from his lack of Emotional maturity and the root cause is his Mother..who never let him GROW UP
This Dev seemed to have woken up he is still doing all the things he should but wants to live for himself and Reenters Sona again a Sona who looks different, acts different and in essence really does not need him or anyone else Just like Easwari wants to be needed by Dev Dev wants to be needed by Sona it did not happen in season 1 and by the looks of it is not happening in season 2 . I do not know what the new entry is for or purpose but maybe in life if we had a chance to 'Do Over' things maybe all of us will rectify the things we did wrong..Maybe this is a time to rewrite the Rang ..the colors in permanent markers so it does not wash away when the going gets tough. And Easwari realizes that her Son has really Grown Up
Closing with this quote from a book which has an uncanny resemblance to what is happening now in the story
The sense that in his mother's view, he had let down his family just by being who he was... was a failure of acceptance that he was never going to get over. He just wanted to live, honestly and out front, with no apology. Like everyone else. To love who he loved, be who he was... but society had a different standard."
J.R. Ward, Lover at Last
P.S We can hate him , be appalled with his actions but seem to not ignore him and the makers have created that affect and for that they need to be commended for creating the character of Dev Dixit
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