Sacred Vows

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gemini54

@gemini54

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Posted: 8 years ago

In Marriage the Bride and the Groom take vows ..Vows considered sacred and Vows which are supposed to be for eternity

Christianity

In the Name of God,

I,xx, take you, xxx, to be my husband,

to have and to hold

from this day forward,

for better, for worse,

for richer, for poorer,

in sickness and in health,

to love and to cherish,

until we are parted by death.

This is my solemn vow.

Hinduism

With the first step, we will provide for and support each other.

With the second step, we will develop mental, physical, and spiritual strength.

With the third step, we will share the worldly possessions.

With the fourth step, we will acquire knowledge, happiness, and peace.

With the fifth step, we will raise strong and virtuous children.

With the sixth step, we will enjoy the fruits of all seasons.

With the seventh step, we will always remain friends and cherish each other

Jewish

Harei at m'kudeshet li b'taba'at zo kedat Moshe v'Yisrael.

Behold, you are consecrated to me with this ring according to the laws of Moses and Israel.

V'erastikh li l'olam, v'erastikh li b'tzedek uvmishpat uv'chesed uv'rachamim V'erastikh li b'emunah v'yada'at et Adonai.

I betroth you to myself forever; I betroth you to myself in righteousness and in justice, in love and in mercy;

I betroth you to myself in faithfulness, and you shall know G-d

Marriage in Islam is viewed as a religious obligation, a contract between the couple and Allah. . The only requirement for Muslim weddings is the signing of a marriage contract.

I have highlighted what I think is the most important from my view on what binds it together Yes, Love is an important component but aren't the others important too?

In this story were Sona and Dev there for each other for better or worse?.
Were they supportive of each other and remain friends and cherish each other?
Did they betroth themselves in righteousness and in Justice ?
Was theirs a contract ..a contract that bound with understanding?

Life takes us places but Love brings us Home..Will this second journey of Dev and Sona finally bring them Home but with a new understanding of what marriage really means?

Thoughts?

P.S I hope I quoted the religious tests correct if not I apologize do not want to offend

Edited by gemini54 - 8 years ago

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dbrk

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Posted: 8 years ago

Very nice post!

Love is not enough for a successful marriage.
Love is definately the basic foundation of this institutional building but understanding, communication, trust and standing by and for each other are other levels of this building called marriage.

Dev and Sonakshi had got the foundation right but rest of the levels were weak and the building collapsed but because the foundation was so strong they again and again getting back to each other.

Hope this time when they reconstruct the building they use correct material in correct quantity.

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Tia.0

@Tia.0

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Posted: 8 years ago

Good point. Regardless of religion in all marriages the bride and groom promise to love, honour and protect each other's honour and dignity.

Marriage vows make two people as two bodies, one soul.

After marriage husband wife become one entity, legally, socially, spiritually.

Families should not forget that when treating their daughter-in-law as an outsider and husbands should not forget that when keeping their mouth shut as their wife is being mistreated.

Similarly, the same responsibility falls on the wives to make sure their husband's honour is protected as well.

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pkbdas61

@pkbdas61

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Posted: 8 years ago

Excellent post..

I can comment on the Christianity part as i am familiar with it. The marriage vows are man made .. the actual view is as follows -

when woman was created, adam, the first man, named the woman eve, for she was brought forth from one of his ribs.. and therefore, it was said.. "For this reason shall a man leave his mother and father and be joined to his wife and the twain shall be one flesh"...and "what GOD has brought together, let no man put asunder". In marriage man and woman are not two but one. It is referred to as a 'mystery" , which indeed it is.

Most people who get married out to go to a counseling session to understand and unravel this mystery before entering into actual marriage. Any marriage that is not founded on this "mystery" is headed for disaster. It is a precious treasure that is cherished, and preserved till death.

Coming back to Dev and Sona, it is not sacred vows but more of bow, wows! Today, THE DEV DIXIT made a promise of being THE DUSHMAN to Sona.. so in essence he is just barking because his history only tells that he does just the opposite. Has he even kept one promise? so if he is promising to be her dushman, he will land up as something else.. a good sign indeed.

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gemini54

@gemini54

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Posted: 8 years ago

Thanks I loved what you wrote in Bold so apt

Originally posted by: dbrk
Very nice post!

Love is not enough for a successful marriage.
Love is definately the basic foundation of this institutional building but understanding, communication, trust and standing by and for each other are other levels of this building called marriage.

Dev and Sonakshi had got the foundation right but rest of the levels were weak and the building collapsed but because the foundation was so strong they again and again getting back to each other.

Hope this time when they reconstruct the building they use correct material in correct quantity.

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gemini54

@gemini54

Voyager

Posted: 8 years ago

Thanks for correcting my understanding..that is from all the church weddings I have attended..of course ..you hit the nail with the line in bold..Both Sona and Dev marriages were let asunder by too many people in their marriage

Originally posted by: pkbdas61
Excellent post..

I can comment on the Christianity part as i am familiar with it. The marriage vows are man made .. the actual view is as follows -

when woman was created, adam, the first man, named the woman eve, for she was brought forth from one of his ribs.. and therefore, it was said.. "For this reason shall a man leave his mother and father and be joined to his wife and the twain shall be one flesh"...and "what GOD has brought together, let no man put asunder". In marriage man and woman are not two but one. It is referred to as a 'mystery" , which indeed it is.

Most people who get married out to go to a counseling session to understand and unravel this mystery before entering into actual marriage. Any marriage that is not founded on this "mystery" is headed for disaster. It is a precious treasure that is cherished, and preserved till death.

Coming back to Dev and Sona, it is not sacred vows but more of bow, wows! Today, THE DEV DIXIT made a promise of being THE DUSHMAN to Sona.. so in essence he is just barking because his history only tells that he does just the opposite. Has he even kept one promise? so if he is promising to be her dushman, he will land up as something else.. a good sign indeed.

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rock&roll

@rock&roll

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+ 2

Posted: 8 years ago

Beautiful post..Wonderful thoughts👏

Dev and Sona Ver 1 loved each other madly and completely.Their love was never in doubt.But love alone maketh not a successful marriage.

A marriage needs patience,communication and trust.Their marriage lacked these things

I think they communicated more with each other when they were dating.They had more personal space and time then.After marriage they made the Dixit household a priority and relegated themselves to the background..Dev continued to make every attempt to be the best son and Sona tried to win the medal for best dil...Net result:They lost out on being husband and wife to each other.

They were immature and wanted too much too fast.More patience and going slow on some things would have helped them.Of course,they did what was only natural.In their 20s people set out to change the world.When they reach their 30s they realise that changing others is impossible and merely maintaining your identity is a big blessing in a marriage.

I don;t think they trusted each other enough.They attributed negative intentions to actions at times and did not understand where the other person was coming from.This stemmed from lack of communication to start with.And of course,in ver 1 they both behaved like immature kids who saw the whole world with rose tinted glasses.They paid the price for being too naive and too trusting of everyone.

The love is still intact.It is just covered with a sheet of hatred.When the sheet is removed,the real emotions will surface..and this will happen soon.I am sure Ver 2 of Dev and Sona will be a roaring success.They will be more patient,tolerate no nonsense from others and also not want any kind of certification or medal from anyone for best son or dil.This learning is the positive side of the "haseen sitam" of waqt and zindagi😊

Edited by rock&roll - 8 years ago

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rose4ever

@rose4ever

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Posted: 8 years ago

A promise is a cloud; fulfillment is the rain.

The vows created a beautiful dream but there was no work done to make it their reality.The feelings,wishes,opinions,validations of others became more important for Dev & Sona than their promises to each other.They lost whatever respect, trust and friendship existed between them because of that.And without that their marriage was doomed to fail.

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