Originally posted by: malikakas
But the context of the conversation matters.
Radha telling Vicky is clearly with an intent of harming Elena in the long run.
Of course context matters. But don't take the half context, take full.
Radha gave that advice to Vicky who is fully capable of forming his own opinion and responsible for his actions as an adult.
Dev gave the advice to a little boy, starving for affection from his parents who only gets attention from him and tries to impress him.
Which one of these do you think will cause more harm in the long run?
Golu started a conversation with Dev about a bossy girl. As far as Dev knows Golu may be the one being bullied. So he's telling her to stand up against a bossy girl.
Again, you are mixing up bossy and bully. All bullies might be bossy, but not all bossy people are bullies.
And if Dev was not sure if Golu was being bullied, he should have asked more questions before telling him to teach her a lesson and attach that to the idea of pseudo machismo that if he does not teach the girl a lesson, manhood will loose their prestige.
What Dev said was proactive. As in go to school, teach the girl a lesson or the entire manhood will be shamed by you.
What Sonakshi said was reactive. As in if a boy bullies you, give him a push.
So if pushing is violence then Sonakshi gave Soha to follow her father's footsteps. Didn't Dev push Sonakshi? Twice? Once when he was not even threatened physically?
I also believe like Sabita and you that violence is not the answer.
But if someone is threatening you physically, pushing them away is not unnecessary violence. And that's exactly what Sonakshi taught Soha because she knows that Soha won't unnecessarily use physical force if she is not threatened physically considering her empathy for a total stranger and logical and fair way of making decisions.
She didn't tell Soha that if she doesn't do what she has been taught, she will be shaming her family and the entire womanhood.
But Dev tied his advice to macho pride to an impressionable little boy.
The result? When his friends taunted that he won't do anything, he recalled his idol, Bigcha's advice and stole Soha's lunch box.
He is six years old. So teaching a lesson means making a little girl go without food all day which is bad enough.
If he was a teenager, the way of teaching lesson to "bossy" girls might not be that innocent.
So no, what Dev taught Golu can't be justified by any means.
And just to make it clear, if Sonakshi finds out that the boy in question is Elena's son, her advice to give a push if he bullies Soha would still be valid. However, she might go and talk to Elena about telling her son not to bully her daughter.
But will Dev tell Golu to teach Soha a lesson for being bossy or else "boys ka naak kat jayega" if he finds out Soha is his daughter? Or suddenly bossy will start looking synonym for confidence to him?
But then what else can I expect from a man like Dev who has double standard for everything.
