This was bound to happen

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ankita44

@ankita44

Beginner

Posted: 8 years ago

Hello guys. So as we all know that unfortunately, as of now, Devakshi have separated and would remain so for 7 years, after a gap of which they will meet and the story will progress further.

But it was bound to happen. My mother and I usually watch it at 9.30 together. And from the day Devakshi got married and seeing the possessive nature of Ishwari, my mother would always say that , "ISHWARI toh inka ghar tod ke rahegi(Ishwari will break Devakshi's relationship one day)."

Pre-nup... Phew !!! The reason being that she thinks only she has the right on Dev and she cannot tolerate anybody else making him happy.. Women like Ishwari exist in our society.. It isn't that Moms should not love their children...But they should be able to understand that after a certain period of time, they should let their children live freely...The foundation of such a thinking should begin from day 1...that parents should mould their children in a way that they should be able to differentiate between right and wrong, they should be able to take decision as well, and usually when children love you for absolutely no reason but that comes straight from the heart, their decisions reflect that as well...And secondly , Ishwari-like women have a very strange thinking process.. They are cunning but in fact, they donot have their own brain..they are instigated by women like GKB to burn their homes...It's important to not let other people command your home...In this case, I suppose as Ishwari didn't ever use her brain and believed all that GKB said, it has been inherited by Dev as well... He believes all that is said by her mother and doesn't understand that sometimes, parents can be wrong...But there's nothing serious in it... DEV and ISHWARI both keep on supporting each other even when the other person does some mistake..We hold Vicky and RadhaRani responsible for all that has happened... But why exactly should they be blamed solely !!! Ishwari and Dev play an equivalent role in falling prey to their traps...

But as we know, tough lessons are learnt the hard way... and here the hard way has been paved by Devakshi's separation... I am seeing it as a way by which Dev and Ishwari would firstly understand the 'Aansteen ke saanp' were living in their home...they would learn that it's not good to be timid in front of people like GKB and Vicky... Since Dev and Ishwari are assumed to be 'shareef', so they are easily fooled by RadhaRani and Vicky...Straight trees are cut first, they rightly say...

And here I would like to say that I absolutely love this show because I find it realistic... I have seen a marriage fail due to these reasons, but sadly , like Devakshi, they won't be having any season 2...And certain messages that the show has fallen light upon are( Well, many of you have already pointed that out, I am just pointing out certain things about what I feel):

1. Neha :

Fall in love, live the love and marry your love ! Right ??? No...That's easier said than done...Love requires respect, trust and adjustment from both the sides... They say love is a great thing...yes that's right... But compatibility is one great thing.. at which Ranveer and Neha failed miserably... Money played a great factor.. Sadly but in reality, money does play a great role.

2. Bahu should not always play the Sati Saavitri:

As far as I can remember, at certain points, Sonakshi retaliated back to Ishwari.. This is one great relief considering other shows.. though I don't like it when Ishwari pretends to be the victim whenever Sonakshi says anything that doesn't fit in her ideology, but it's great that Sonakshi plays a bahu who knows what 'self respect' is...

Certain other things I want to talk about:

1. RadhaRani played a great great great role in Devakshi separation... But I am really surprised why doesn't her cunningness work in case of her own son, Vicky.. Simply, because Vicky knows about her nature and makes it clear that he wants to have a peaceful married life...

2. Neha is one character that wasn't worked upon so much.. She could have worked, living a life full of dignity rather than involving in kitchen politics,

And finally, I say, ek hasta khelta relationship barbaad ho gaya..Money and ego got in between and destroyed everything.. I just hope that the season 2 plays a great role in character evloutions...like Dev finally acknowledging that it's not bad to follow : Suno sab ki, par karo wohi jo khud ko sahi lage.. Ishwari learning how GKB put kerosene on the ashiyana of Devakshi, but ultimately how she was the one who threw a burning matchstick and put an end to it...

About Sonakshi, she should learn that decisions shouldn't be made in haste... sure , she did try to return the money but in doing that, she mortgaged the property..that was a decision taken in haste.. But I believe , her ideology represents the modern-day woman's thinking.( I may be missing some points where Sonakshi was wrong, sorry , I missed some episodes in between!)..

That's the beauty of show..the flawed characters, the grey characters...

And whatever happened, can only be healed with time...

They rightly say, it takes a second to fall in love but a lifetime to forget it...

I believe, the Season 2 has immense potential, primely because it relates to the realisations, realisation of what went wrong, how did it go wrong and how can the damage be lessened(it cannot be undone, it can only be minimized)...

P.S. These are purely my views.. Everybody is entitled to their own opinion.😛 Constructive criticism is welcomed.

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zam123

@zam123

Voyager

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Posted: 8 years ago

Excellent post, I too have witnessed this type of situation in real life, fortunately that marriage survived because the Man took a stand and did not allow anyone to come between him and his wife not even his mother.

I too feel that post leap, it is a realisation track for all. I hope the CV's show the realisation for everyone, not just Sonakshi, Dev and Ishwar.

some of the things I want CV to deal with which i am hoping will be shown.

1) Ishwar - that Sonaski was the right person for Dev and Family (Ishwari kept saying that Sonakshi can not understand how it was to be homeless, bring up children without support. Understands that just because GKB gave shelter to her that does not mean to turn a blind eye on her meanness and stealing.

2) Dev - He too kept saying same as his mum. Not give proper rights to wife. Not to be so obedient that you can not understand what is right/wrong, what self respect is for oneself and others.

3) Sonakshi, when you go through very hard times, bonds are made, which later on are difficult to break and allow other people to come in. Mother and child bond. Not letting go of the control. Fear of trusting.

4) GKB - Her husband and son leaves her, has to fend for her self.

5) Vikky - Whatever he gains by tricking Dev loses in business and has to work on his own to start all over. Elena leaves him.

6) Neha - Understands that money does not buy happiness.

Edited by zam123 - 8 years ago

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cscs

@cscs

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Posted: 8 years ago

Wonderful post. 👏

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WeRockTheWorld

@WeRockTheWorld

Sparkler

+ 6

Posted: 8 years ago

Wonderful post !! and well said !!

But I am not going to have any expectations primarily because in the last season they showed EVIL win over GOODNESS !! So , it is not necessary in this episode they have to take a path of realisation of what went wrong and then ppl getting corrected. So I am going to watch this show with an open mind .

Like last time dont want to feel cheated by seeing the promo!! I am still not completely recovered from the last season's journey!! 😭

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vayu_prachi

@vayu_prachi

Inactive

Posted: 8 years ago

Hi Ankita,

Beautiful post!!!
Even I have seen a beautiful relation bite the dust due to family pressures...here the couple wasn't married...let me share the story

The boy was working in pune and the girl was working with some NGO at Indore...the female was extremely career oriented and the boy's family was a little skeptical of it from the start
The guy was being sent to Belgium for a project and the female decided to quit the job and get married and go along with him
Things went so ugly in the first meeting among the families that the couple had to call it quits!!!
But since this is real life so unfortunately no second chance...the guy even tried contacting her again but the female had already moved on in life!!!

All I m trying to say is in India families do play a pivotal role and especially if it's love marriages
The couple can't get tired of trying but this also comes with a pre requisite of knowing ur family really well...where dev majorly faltered

Also I have hopes from the new beginnings...let's wait and watch!!!

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pkbdas61

@pkbdas61

Dazzler

Posted: 8 years ago

Ankita, well written, excellent post.

However, i have to disagree on one thing. If realisation does not come within a certain time of occurance, it will never come even in 1 year, forget 7 years. this in itself is a fundamental flaw.

Sona loved Dev unconditionally. Did she put any conditions?
Sona told Dev that she will not compete by complete the relationship. Did she ever compete?
Sona put up with all the nonsense flung at her by every member of Dev's family. Did she ever complain?
Sona told Dev that she is being made to feel a stranger in his house and not a part of it. Did she ever feel welcomed?
Didn't Dev know that Sona is not welcome in the Dixit house?
Dev lied repeatedly for short term happiness. Did he ever try to address the root of the problem?
Not once did he try to tell Ishwari or GKB or Neha that they were wrong.
Even towards the end, when Sona's family was accused of being swindlers, he chose to be quiet.
Does he not know that Sona was being unfairly targetted?
He knows that he is wrong and did not do anything for the only person who loved him unconditionally.He also knows that he was all she had in that house and he badly let her down
Even at the end, he could have told her that he will resolve all things, even if she did not believe him, but he did not. He knew he could have. if he had taken a decision to chose Sona over Ishwari, he could have spoken louder in actions than mere words.

Forget realization, he knew it all along.

If the writers want to show that realisation has come after 7 years and only after seeing a child, i feel sorry for their fanciful view of relationships, emotions, feelings, virtues, love, marriage etc. I downright pity them.

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Posted: 8 years ago

Originally posted by: pkbdas61
Ankita, well written, excellent post.

However, i have to disagree on one thing. If realisation does not come within a certain time of occurance, it will never come even in 1 year, forget 7 years. this in itself is a fundamental flaw.

Sona loved Dev unconditionally. Did she put any conditions?
Sona told Dev that she will not compete by complete the relationship. Did she ever compete?
Sona put up with all the nonsense flung at her by every member of Dev's family. Did she ever complain?
Sona told Dev that she is being made to feel a stranger in his house and not a part of it. Did she ever feel welcomed?
Didn't Dev know that Sona is not welcome in the Dixit house?
Dev lied repeatedly for short term happiness. Did he ever try to address the root of the problem?
Not once did he try to tell Ishwari or GKB or Neha that they were wrong.
Even towards the end, when Sona's family was accused of being swindlers, he chose to be quiet.
Does he not know that Sona was being unfairly targetted?
He knows that he is wrong and did not do anything for the only person who loved him unconditionally.He also knows that he was all she had in that house and he badly let her down
Even at the end, he could have told her that he will resolve all things, even if she did not believe him, but he did not. He knew he could have. if he had taken a decision to chose Sona over Ishwari, he could have spoken louder in actions than mere words.
Forget realization, he knew it all along.

If the writers want to show that realisation has come after 7 years and only after seeing a child, i feel sorry for their fanciful view of relationships, emotions, feelings, virtues, love, marriage etc. I downright pity them.

Awesome...such clear thoughts

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gaurimisha

@gaurimisha

Inactive

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Posted: 8 years ago

Originally posted by: pkbdas61
Ankita, well written, excellent post.

However, i have to disagree on one thing. If realisation does not come within a certain time of occurance, it will never come even in 1 year, forget 7 years. this in itself is a fundamental flaw.

Sona loved Dev unconditionally. Did she put any conditions?
Sona told Dev that she will not compete by complete the relationship. Did she ever compete?
Sona put up with all the nonsense flung at her by every member of Dev's family. Did she ever complain?
Sona told Dev that she is being made to feel a stranger in his house and not a part of it. Did she ever feel welcomed?
Didn't Dev know that Sona is not welcome in the Dixit house?
Dev lied repeatedly for short term happiness. Did he ever try to address the root of the problem?
Not once did he try to tell Ishwari or GKB or Neha that they were wrong.
Even towards the end, when Sona's family was accused of being swindlers, he chose to be quiet.
Does he not know that Sona was being unfairly targetted?
He knows that he is wrong and did not do anything for the only person who loved him unconditionally.He also knows that he was all she had in that house and he badly let her down
Even at the end, he could have told her that he will resolve all things, even if she did not believe him, but he did not. He knew he could have. if he had taken a decision to chose Sona over Ishwari, he could have spoken louder in actions than mere words.
Forget realization, he knew it all along.

If the writers want to show that realisation has come after 7 years and only after seeing a child, i feel sorry for their fanciful view of relationships, emotions, feelings, virtues, love, marriage etc. I downright pity them.

Hello Sir. I could not have agreed more. That is what I think the writers are not going to show ...ever..Dev realizing anything because he knew everything all along...also the fact that his mother will never actually accept Sona. When he knew about the prenup, his reaction was more like"Yes mom, i expected this from you", he never felt let down by his mother because he knows her in and out. He also knows his incapability to go against her wish and be happy. So in a sense , he was actually expecting Sona to understand and be there for him even if he can not be there for her. He always knew he could not help Sona everytime in Dixit mansion.

I feel this is the fundamental characteristic of Dev.

Edited by gaurimisha - 8 years ago

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saumiee

@saumiee

Rocker

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Posted: 8 years ago

Excellent post👏

Though I have never witnessed a marriage breaking because of external factors like this, my father when hears me talking about the show always mentions how real it is. Marriages do break because of external factors and families and there is little you can do about it. Unless the girl and the boy themselves are firm to sustain the relationship, the bond is sacrificed in the name of family, ego and what not. Like you said, real life may not always have a season two but I am glad DevAkshi got this chance.

If season 1 was about letting the evil win, about ignorance and foolishness, Season 2 will be about defeating that evil, of awareness and overcoming all those weaknesses.

Unless the writers don't emphasise on how bad the vices are, how will they show the goodness properly?

I am really looking forward to phase 2..and your posts.