why do indian women give in to there in laws

So I am looking at several Indian serials and even though they so educated intelligent women they are always giving in to there in laws desires...it is sad...and if all the serials follow the same story I am starting to think this is what really happens...I am Indian but I am from the west Indies and we don't give in so easily...and it is not that we are disrespectful but we decide our lives not our in laws...and I often wonder y is it so hard for Indian women to do so especially when u can stand on ur own feet...I know this is easier said than done...but I love this show and the cast is doing justice to the story...but I think it is time for dev to be with his sona...she is alone and she needs him...yes he said it matters not to him if she conceives or not and that shows how much he still loves her but he has not realise the pain he is going to put her through for his maa...I just find that these serial parents emotionally black mail their children and that is toxic...and now dev accidentally slaps bijoy...and the one good thing is that bijoy is speaking the truth...it is his daughter who is suffering... and dev cannot understand that all he is thinking of is his maa... I still maintain that sona should not see the prenup only dev and let him see how deceitful she really is...and only then he will know the jem he has is sona...right now I have no idea where this story leads...but we have gloomy days ahead...radha needs to get out of the house...

I dont know about others, but my dad is like Bijoy and I have seen people from my older generation suffer cuz theirs weren't one 🤔. If there is support from the bride's side, no one would dare touch the bride at the in-laws place.

Even after witness so much mess up tracks after marriage...Even prenup will go to favor towards Ishwari...Her Goddess image for her son will be untouchable till last episode of this show.

I don't know about others but myself, my friend circle, circle of people I know and work with, there is not a single lady who has given to illogical demands of her in laws. Accommodation after marriage is two ways it's all but natural cause two people with separate set of upbringing, culture thinking and mentality and penned together so understanding and accommodation is necessary. Nothing more than natural I have heard and seen from people I know.

I think the sacrifice happens a lot when they are staying in a joint family and there is multiple emotional dynamics being played out. As a woman, Indian women are taught to adjust, make the in-laws happy. Generally this is the guidance given, not speak your mind, be respectful but do what you want etc. So I think there is an inherent fear in married women and a need to integrate into the grooms family. Mind you, none of these are expectations of a SIL, they can do as they please. I also feel like the words like paraya ho gayi etc. which I have seen actual people use does not help the case. Education has nothing to do with this. A women can have a Phd in Mathematics but if her MIL has a Phd in emotional blackmail like our dear Ishwari, then god save her!

I am an Indian and stay also in India.

Originally posted by: srilotus

I am an Indian and stay also in India.

Actually ,everything depends on how we present ourselves in front of our in laws.

Agar hum khud hi doormat banna chahte hain toh obviously humare in laws humein dominate karenge.

Agar hum shuru se hi unke samne khud ko strong dikhayenge toh woh bhi aumein support karenge .

Jahan tak mujhe lagta hai yeh sab serials mein hi aisa dikhate hain(condition n all) but reality mein aisa kuch nahi hota.

Bijoy ka interfernce definitely divorce tak toh le hi jayega.

Ok.. So you do feel that whatever Ishwari, GKB and Neha are doing/have done already to Sona is not enough and it's Bijoy's protective attitude that will take them to divorce?

that poor father was asked to get out of the house, when they had come over to talk about Ishwari's whereabouts... Later his daughter came to her maternal home after bearing the brunt of MOM-Son's 'alag pyaar' for each other and even here, she was told to come back by the sad husband to hail goddess mata. then she was literally asked to get fertility treatment done at gun point and you say it is Bijoy's 'interference' that can lead to divorce?
If Ishwari's grand -interference could not lead to divorce how would Bijoy's tiny little advices that you term as interference lead to divorce?

Originally posted by: JShukla

Ok.. So you do feel that whatever Ishwari, GKB and Neha are doing/have done already to Sona is not enough and it's Bijoy's protective attitude that will take them to divorce?

that poor father was asked to get out of the house, when they had come over to talk about Ishwari's whereabouts... Later his daughter came to her maternal home after bearing the brunt of MOM-Son's 'alag pyaar' for each other and even here, she was told to come back by the sad husband to hail goddess mata. then she was literally asked to get fertility treatment done at gun point and you say it is Bijoy's 'interference' that can lead to divorce?
If Ishwari's grand -interference could not lead to divorce how would Bijoy's tiny little advices that you term as interference lead to divorce?

Originally posted by: srilotus

So u r accepting that Sona is a doormat...woh khud ko nahi bacha sakti isliye uske parents((Bejoy) ko interfere karna padta hai.

Can't Sona herself handle the situation?

I do think that Sona has become a doormat and in her efforts to please Mom-Son duo she is taking a huge dent on her self respect.
Where Dev is concerned, I feel she really can't save herself.
Also Bijoy does the right thing by telling her in-lws that there is a strong support his daughter has in her. Else they will continue to be torturous to her.

Yup- she cant save herself, hence needs Bijoy 😆

Originally posted by: JShukla

I do think that Sona has become a doormat and in her efforts to please Mom-Son duo she is taking a huge dent on her self respect.
Where Dev is concerned, I feel she really can't save herself.
Also Bijoy does the right thing by telling her in-lws that there is a strong support his daughter has in her. Else they will continue to be torturous to her.

Yup- she cant save herself, hence needs Bijoy 😆