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Loved your perspective!
I completely agree that Sona's fear is what is driving her current behaviour. I also think it's a pretty wonderful bit of storytelling that Sona is being forced to understand Dev's point of view in this situation by facing the same fears herself, and unconsciously mirroring his initial reactions. Once you have something you thought was impossible to get, it's not easy to let it go, even if that is the right thing to do. Even though Sona's quick recovery surprised me at first, it also humanised her, and I am really glad the writers didn't go the cliched route and give her the absolute moral high ground.
In fact, the moral absolutes that Sona has inherited from Bijoy are precisely what is being challenged in this marriage, and with her entry into the Dixit household. When she asked Dev to tell her about his relationship with his mother, he couldn't really articulate what made it so complicated. But by being in the family, and being in these awkward positions herself, where the absolute truth comes secondary to other concerns, from illness to maintaining peace, Sona can begin to understand more substantially than if he had tried to tell her in words why Dev is the way he is. And again, in the end, this will remind her why his relationship with Ishwari creates his need for her, rather than threatening it.
I am thoroughly enjoying this storyline because it's all about questioning those moral absolutes. What Dev did was patently wrong, and for someone looking in, Bijoy's reaction of uncontrolled grief, rage, and an impulse to abandon the relationship seems like the most logical, a reaction that we expected Sona to mirror. But here we see the immense change in Sona, now that she actually understands how difficult Ishwari is to live with, how unpredictable her moods, her health, and her favour are. She was angry and apalled at Dev, no doubt, but her first instinct was not to leave, but to open communication... that shows her deep commitment, and her understanding over time that Dev's actions, impulsive and unthoughtful though they may be, are never malicious. She understands and accepts Dev in a way that Bijoy, with his absolute and unchanging ideas, cannot.
Rather than punishing him, she is trying to make him understand the magnitude of his mistake, how much it hurt her and will hurt his mother. And I think Ishwari's knee-jerk reaction, and the blame for the lie falling on Sona, will really hit home her point that, as much as he might try, Dev can't control the ripple effects of his actions.
Arjun
