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Posted: 8 years ago
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I usually read this forum to see different POV of members here and realised 5 mins of scenes between dev n his mom has made him from husband goal to worst ever husband on the planet.
Not defending him as his actions are totally wrong but we know this is the common problem in our society where mamas boy takes much longer to come out of Ma Ka pally.
Sona is an educated girl n she knows she has two uneducated orthodox women to deal with. Also she knows Dev also in order to make things write for his family takes hasty decision only to realise after sometimes that he is completely wrong.
Dev addressing his MIL may hurt sona but that doesn't mean he disrespect his MIL so I feel sona should try to understand Dev's sudden change of action just to help him to come out of his guilt driven mistakes. We know in reality girls go through much more humiliating situation n that shouldn't be reason for
The separation. If Sona could make Abhodro Dixit into Mr Lovable Dixit I m sure this is work in progress and will help Dev to be a balanced human being. But that can't be done over night would take time and baat rahi involving Sona in all family matter v can already see two little sis are now relying more on Sona and Neha may be bit off at the moment but that's because of her own problem.
It's only Ishwari who is keeping her away just because of her inaecurity and that is the whole plot. If CV don't show any minus of Their main characters then nothing left to
Show and wen we call this show realistic nothing or no human being changes over night they only learn from their mistakes. Pls stop bashing dev so much as he is slowly learning from his mistakes he is work in progress for mrs Dixit n let it b that way

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Posted: 8 years ago
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if we love a character and appreciate it then we also have the right express our displeasure and point out his wrong doings. what dev did was outright wrong and can never be justified..I really wwant sona to bring about a change in him and prove ishwari wrong
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Posted: 8 years ago
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Originally posted by: Bella100

I usually read this forum to see different POV of members here and realised 5 mins of scenes between dev n his mom has made him from husband goal to worst ever husband on the planet.
Not defending him as his actions are totally wrong but we know this is the common problem in our society where mamas boy takes much longer to come out of Ma Ka pally.
Sona is an educated girl n she knows she has two uneducated orthodox women to deal with. Also she knows Dev also in order to make things write for his family takes hasty decision only to realise after sometimes that he is completely wrong.
Dev addressing his MIL may hurt sona but that doesn't mean he disrespect his MIL so I feel sona should try to understand Dev's sudden change of action just to help him to come out of his guilt driven mistakes. We know in reality girls go through much more humiliating situation n that shouldn't be reason for
The separation. If Sona could make Abhodro Dixit into Mr Lovable Dixit I m sure this is work in progress and will help Dev to be a balanced human being. But that can't be done over night would take time and baat rahi involving Sona in all family matter v can already see two little sis are now relying more on Sona and Neha may be bit off at the moment but that's because of her own problem.
It's only Ishwari who is keeping her away just because of her inaecurity and that is the whole plot. If CV don't show any minus of Their main characters then nothing left to
Show and wen we call this show realistic nothing or no human being changes over night they only learn from their mistakes. Pls stop bashing dev so much as he is slowly learning from his mistakes he is work in progress for mrs Dixit n let it b that way




Noone is bashing anyone.let me ask a question people frquently say,this show is reality,ok understood.

But how many girls in reality are like sonakshi,who can take any level of insults without forget reating sometimes she is not even comprehending the intentions.

Sometimes she is so indifferent to the things happenings to her in her sasuraal,that it feels like she was taught that it is her sasuraals haq to scold her and her duty to tolerate it.

I am not asking makres to show sonakshi stoop to rrs level,but for one moment cant they show a sona,who actually feels bad for all these things.atleast ponder a bit,mull over why everyone here is like this.

Ish,neha and rr are so negative on the face most f the time,very rarely or never hav they seen accepting sona,but sonakshi seems oblivious to all this.

Forget dev makers have coined aubhodro for him for a reason.He is a obnoxious and complictaed man.

But sona,sona has always been a sensible and matured girl.

So what maturity does she show when she cant see her mother in laws obvious insecurities.

If it had been the first or second time its ok. Even Asha understood that ish is sensitive abt dev.But no Sona has to be in her own bubble.

Time and all maamiji insults her to disturbing levels.They hav to tone down that otherwise righteous ppl are going to be very disappointed.
All in order to show that she is extremely positive person.positive does not mean endorsing all bad things.
lt means trying to balance and enjoy the positives inspite of the negative.

Sona here never comprehends the entire situation.As dev rightly said she looks like engrossed to win a bahu pageant.


She has to atleast make a beginning to understand the level of emotional and manipulative control ish has over dev.

In reality a smart and educated woman like Sona,will hav had some idea of the undercurrents in the house by now.

Also she wont go back to the same ppl who are insulting her time and again without any sense of her self respect.

There will be points when she will ponder and worry abt the dynamics in her house.But sona clearly misses to convey all this.or rather the screenplay.


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Posted: 8 years ago
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do you remember the story of ulysses? he had to leave his wonderful wife penelope while she was pregnant and join the meaningless trojan war that lasted for 10 long years.
while her husband was away, the other kings of the rejoin tried to force her into marrying one of them believing that ulysses will never return.she knew her son was too young to protect her , so she devised a very indigenous way to keeping her prospectors at bay. every day she would entertain one of the solicitor during the day and start weaving a sweater in his presence. she promised them saying whose sweater finishes first , it means that person kept her most happy as she could do her work and will likely marry him . so in the morning she would weave and in the night she would secretly get her maid to unweave the woven part. that way she was successful in keeping most of them at bay.

same way sona will keep improving on Dev, and dev too will take baby steps, but Ishwari with her emotional drama will pull him back even to a further lower point. Poor sona will have to redo all her work . worst part is each time it is a new angle and sona needs to start from scratch all over .
and based on the way she is being treated at ishwari niwas, she will be the first one to break .
so best option is instead of trying to get your self into the quagmire, if she really wants to help dev, she should first keep herself away and make sure that she does not fall. then only she can lend a stick or a rope to Dev to come out of it.

hence all of us are advocating that Sona needs to run away from the dixits.
Edited by randomramblings - 8 years ago
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Posted: 8 years ago
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Dev is not wrong in calling his MIL as aunty no
he is wrong in telling his maa he made a mistake by calling his MIL maa and he'll never call her maa again that is wrong
Asha never made Dev feel uncomfortable she loves him as he is her own son but he did disrespect his wife's mother
Ishwari telling Dev Sona calls her maa so he should call his MIL too as maa as society demands it , why blame society if he expects his wife to call his mother as maa then he been an educated guy that very moment should realize its not society but his love for his wife should make him also call Asha as Maa
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Posted: 8 years ago
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@Mily Mathew

There will be points when she will ponder and worry abt the dynamics in her house.But sona clearly misses to convey all this.or rather the screenplay

If Screenplay is the reason for Sona's miscommunication then let Dev's lapses also be attributed to screenplay.
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Posted: 8 years ago
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Addressing MIL as aunty is ok - i dont agree with this
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Posted: 8 years ago
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Originally posted by: ltelidevara

@Mily Mathew

There will be points when she will ponder and worry abt the dynamics in her house.But sona clearly misses to convey all this.or rather the screenplay

If Screenplay is the reason for Sona's miscommunication then let Dev's lapses also be attributed to screenplay.


Totally agree.My entire problem is with the screen play.I agree characters like Dev exist.

But in Sonas case they for sure are trying to show her as extra nice,coz thats the way it is on Indian Tv.

But they don't do that with Dev.

But somehow try to justify his blind devotion as love,which i dont agree.

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