Originally posted by: Samanalyse
The title pretty much says it all! 😆
If yesterday was a listening comprehension test for Dev, he failed spectacularly! The difference between what Ranveer said and how Dev reproduced it to Sona could not have been more apparent. Sona's expression, like 😕 when he reported Ranveer's apparently enormous ego and unwillingness to compromise was spot on!
Exactly. The Dev that went to see Ranvir was the same Dev who went to offer Dr Bose a 5 star package for his mother's care. Nothing has changed. He was able to arm twist Dr Bose into letting him shove that offer down her throat because A it was only a 3 month stint and B Sona got talked into accepting the job( by Dada) for Mr Dixit's mother.
Dev seems to have gotten to the place he is at by hook or by crook (and part of me often wonders if this will ever tie back into what was it that neha-dev-ishwari had to go through with Khatri. Afterall Dev himself confessed (accident scene) that the boy became a man when he saw the things that happen on streets). Dev has usually thrown money at problems and as we all know, many of them do go away with money.
I dont think Dev still realises that while he was able to hire Dr Bose by out-buying her from the market, she didnt care for his money. If he would recall, she used to buy vegetables etc from her own money for Mr Dixit's mother.
I know Dev realises his wife doesnt care for money. But I dont know how much he realised the same about Dr Bose. And this is where he got it all wrong about Ranvir too.
Why would it make sense to her? The last thing she knows, Ranveer was the one trying to initiate communication and reconciliation with Neha, and Neha was the one who sent the divorce papers, seeing that as her only option. How did Ranveer suddenly become the one who is insisting on divorce? How can Sona stay out knowing what a mess Dev and Ishwari are making? She is an incredibly compassionate person and while Dev and Ishwari have trained themselves for years to block Neha's voice out and put words in her mouth, Sona does not possess that particular "skill" quite yet ( though the duo is trying their best to give her crash course) and, god forbid, sees Neha as an adult human being with feelings. 🤔
Sona, like you said was, rightly confused. The Ranvir she brought home from the market was a reasonable gentleman who wouldn't ask for a divorce when convinced and supported by the family. The Ranvir Dev described to Sona was a man who would react that way to threats and forceful persuasion. Sona doesnt even know Dev threatened Ranvir in that office.
Dev's choice of words in that office was so so wrong. Even Ishwari wouldn't approve of that (when she is in her sense i.e.) . He either doesnt have to go and try to patch up between HIS sister and her husband or if goes, he needs to be humble and compassionate. Kalkothri and drama were harsh-cruel words. If I am honest, it seemed very out of character for Dev. He is brash with actions but I cant recall him being so rude with words.
Someone also posted about his behaviour towards Tina being questionable from an HR point of view... he behaved just the same after the HM cancellation.. Tina is almost a Sona for him in the office... His balm for when he has these outbursts (Congratulations on your superb acting Shaheer). Not done in a professional env.
Why can't Dev ever talk to his sister and listen to what she actually wants? He has always paraded this flat as the big solution to all of Ranveer and Neha's problems, but not once has Neha actually wanted what he is forcing down Ranveer's throat. When she first got married, she was actually fine in Ranveer's house and made this crystal clear to Dev. With help from his family, Ranveer also came around to the idea of their own flat... and Neha loved the one they saw, even though it was probably in line with Ranveer's income rather than Dev's. The trigger for her panic and abandonment issues (which was really just poor timing) was when Ranveer chose his mother's operation over their flat, and the fact that it had to be either/or. This triggered 1. fear of poverty and 2. fear of neglect, two deep-seated issues that haunt Neha and cause her to turn desperate. Even then, the extent of her demand was for Ranveer to take a loan from Dev, not to accept a gift.
Unfortunately, these two men have her stuck between a rock and a hard place. I don't see Neha as self-pitying by nature; in fact, she is fighting tooth and nail to cement some peace and happiness in her life, but she isn't getting the support she needs. She's not getting enough financial support in her sasural (like at Dev and Sona's wedding) but is resented when she takes it from her maika, and she's not getting emotional support at home (she was told at the wedding that she would disgrace her family if she didn't give Sona an expensive gift... what nonsense is that?), and the emotional support she does get at her sasural is just not enough to counterbalance that shame. Unlike Sona who has a strong and unwavering support system in her parental home, a place to go to recharge, Neha is carrying the burden of this balance entirely on her own, and she is just downright exhausted, wondering how she managed to get herself into a position like this AGAIN?!
Dev and Ishwari seem to have given up now. They are distressed by the flood gates that Neha has opened. And they both know, Sona will take the bull by the horn. She will deal with that flood of emotions and if that means Ishwari and Dev need to get off of that mahanta pedestal, sona will make that happen. Actually, I doubt the pair of them even acknowledge Neha's emotions to that depth. Dev has always taken things on face value.. He does as told... Ishwari thinks this bleeding wound is controlled by band-aids over band-aids and wont let Sona do an open heart surgery for fear of the system going into shock. Perhaps their own survival mechanism which has worked all these years... Money and comforts were a novelty and what neha didnt have as a kid, she demanded as a woman. However, neha herself said it the other day... (Thankyou Neha for coming back.. that mannerless neha was bothering me) - She isnt a kid now... Ishwari knows giving neha what she wants(validation) is like swallowing a bitter pill.. and Ishwari & Dev very well know sona doesnt do quick fixes.. She didnt let Mr Dixit's mother take vitamin supplements in exchange for healthy nutritious food
If she had asked me at the time, I would have told Neha to put off marriage for some time until she found comfort in her own skin. If Ranveer really loved her, he would have waited and they could have enjoyed a different relationship while he became a little more financially comfortable, and she enjoyed the material comforts of her natal home. Ranveer could have then bought/rented a bigger house for his whole family, which would have been a win-win for everybody. But Neha didn't have anyone to give her this advice... she had Ishwari and Dev, who were more than happy to give Neha "her happiness" in the form of Ranveer and take the next train to a guilt-free future, and GKB, who spoke about the man Neha loved like he was dirt under their feet. But as Ranveer so aptly put it, he was never just "Neha's happiness" but also a living, breathing human with feelings and responsibilities. In the entire situation, only Sona seems to fathom this most impossible concept. Now, since what is done is done, I think it would be healthy for Neha to come home more often for shorter periods, and enjoy the luxury there whenever she needs to, without Ranveer making his sulky faces, and without having to justify it to either side of her family.
In Dadibua's case, I was totally on board with Ishwari's advice for Sona to stay the heck away by any means possible. DB was just a visitor for whom it wasn't worth stirring up tons of drama, but Neha? Neha is a part of their immediate family, someone whose happiness or lack thereof has adverse effects on theirs. Plus, it must hit Sona hard, being in a similar position to Neha now, and Ranveer during the break up. So I am all for her jumping into this problem because someone has to. Even as early as the wedding, Sona tried to give Neha that emotional support from her side, saying she wanted an ice-cream party rather than the lifaafa, but "society" was there to throw a wrench in that. Let her try again, when there is less scrutiny, because dammit, Neha really needs a friend.
Well, both Neha and Sona rushed into this Love Marriage. I dont think either weddings would have taken place if they didnt happen in a chat-mangni-pat-bhyah style because there are so many cracks (and which marriage doesnt have them) that the people involved would have backed off at some point.
Sona, is just so happy being the giver. I mean, I am now beginning to think Dev will not change. when he confessed his love for her he told her he wanted to be a better person. I dont know if he is any better yet. One, two, five, ten, twenty years down the line he will be... But not yet. Opening free children's wards makes for good charity but Dev's flaws(which draw from being his defence mechanisms against all the storms the 3 (Neha, ishwari and Dev) have weathered) remain the same. That brazen Dev is always in backdrop. The combination of Sona's giving nature and Dev's romance just cements them.
Speaking of listening comprehension. not only did Dev not listen to Ranvir (and process the information correctly), he is also not listening to his wife now. She is screaming out loud and showing him how he can use his own happy-married life as an example for Neha. Sona had the courage to bring up their 'toote dil' in the conversation. Just because the only one-size-fits-all solution doesnt work with RV, Dev is giving up on the alliance altogether. While Sona, who has always been such a strong believer of love, keeps saying the same thing to Dev and Ishwari that love is enough.. Its enough to tide two people through the challenges of life
The ice cream party - I know.. It never happened... I wonder when will Sona heal this family enough for them to do fun activities.. Like she did with the video games.. I often imagine them having a chat party, barbecue, movie night, beach holiday as a family... the only time I saw them do something fun (that didnt directly involve Sona) was dumb charades... the healing has to happen first. This guilt of the past has to be dealt with. I wonder if Ranvir will be part of the solution.. by showing to Dev that power cant get him all he wants and showing to ishwari that Neha's happiness needs to come from a validation of neha's efforts in the past and not just ranvir
PS: I totally started this post with the intention of praising Ranveer's dialogues yesterday, but Neha always creeps in with her point of view. What can I say? I just love her too much, guys. 😳 But seriously, that confrontation between the two men, when they were all up in each other's faces, was damn exciting, and it's great to see Ranveer treating Dev like an equal now. Good for him! 👏
I know.. I know... I loved Ranvir's dialogues too. Sona and Ranvir are able to pinpoint the problem in Neha-Ranvir relationship from 2 different angles. Ranvir accepted that job offer for Neha's happiness.. now Neha wants to move out of that house... next she will want the appliances.. then the foreign holiday... the list is endless and Ranvir pointed this to Dev..
Did Dev think he was dealing with another Khartri here? Who is he fooling? Like Ranvir reminded Dev, Ranvir and Neha were married and in this together. Or at a subconscious level he still thinks every man out there who doesnt sing and dance to his womenfolk songs is devil?
PS: The part of the episode that has lingered with me is the fact that no one other than Elena has noticed that Sona is in a pensive mood.. Ishwari and Dev arent thinking to themselves that less than 24 hours ago this person wanted to spend more time at home and now she is suddenly wanting to go back to work in a jiffy. Sona although is believed to be bad at lying, she is very good at hiding her emotions and she probably thinks that Neha-RV topic is more pressing than telling Dev about her own family's financial (and more importantly dada's safety) issues. Sona also is potentially doing the right think by not telling Dev just yet because Dev as always will throw money at the problem and make matters worse by aggravating Bijoy. Although, logically speaking dada could use some Venture capital in his lingerie business which was doing well before his partner took off with all the money.
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