Relationship - Its emotional connects & changes...

Many special moments happen in relationships, to get an emotional connect created or changed at various levels...

Dev-Sona shared their exclusive moments where nothing else mattered😳... Not just about their physical connect... It's all about their emotional connect they created for each other🤗... Celebrating their togetherness that they deserve for their lifetime❤️... As Friends... As Lovers... As a Couple...❤️

It's in every way made to be their moment without any audience😉... Be it the Dixits🤪 or the viewers😆, no third pair of eyes watching it😎... Just the two of them sharing their own moments... Making it all the more special!😃

Dev-Ish has always shared a special bond where none mattered🤔... It was all about their emotional connect they had created for each other... Where they had hooked to it beyond what's needed for a lifetime... As mother-son...

Ishu.. What are you really doing now? Are you gonna torture yourself in the process of your change?! If you are my mother I would literally grab you to engage you into having a hobby of your own...

It's never gonna be the same for you, Ish... It's not about the emotional connect between you and your son but about your habits and routine..

They gotta change... Habits die hard... But you have to take the first step towards it... The sooner the better... Not just for him but for you as well... Not everything is gonna be the same... Not literally... Changing equations is the nature of the cycle...

When the couple is gonna expect their new child, there will be change in their equations and routine...

When the couple gives birth to their first child, again a change in their equations and routine...

When the couple expects a second baby, again a change... Not just in their equations and routine but also in the equation with their first child...

The change every relationship brings into our life, has to be accepted naturally and gracefully... Else it's us who is gonna be affected negatively...

Ishhhuuu... Stop troubling yourself... If Dev knows about the trouble you are going through to change yourself, he's gonna put himself into a guilt trip, and then nothing will be the same between the both of you, ever again...

That will be much more negatively impacting you than what's happening with you now... Were you happy with the way things were between you and your son, when he had broken up with Sona because you didn't like her??

Now that you have supported him to take his relationship to much deeper level, are you gonna hurt him further more than what you had already done?!

Ishu, you can still be the one to control Dev's life with your emotional connects that you had created with him, but you also have to understand the after effects that your control can bring on him... You may really not like it when it actually happens... Because you still would have lost your son... In a bad way... He's creating new emotional connects for himself too, beyond you... Making him controlled in the name of your emotional connect, unintentionally impacts his emotional reaction to you... You really wouldn't want that to happen...

I am more worried for the mothers out there like Ishu... It's better they take some message from this show and STOP BEING ISHWARI... Not every son is gonna be like Dev... Not every DIL will be like Sona... It will be them who will finally be in the pitiful state as they are not abiding to the changes... changes that new emotions bring in.. changes that new connects throw them in... changes that new relationship claims for... They better keep themselves open for change to save themselves from the sufferings... And keep their own respect in their control and not be the one, everyone waiting to be get ridden of...

Parent like Ishwari - You are not a machine that is programmed in certain ways to make the world adapt to you... In that case after some trials to adapt, the world will mark the machine outdated which is not adapting to its changes... Not the strongest ones that will survive.. Not the intelligent ones that will move forward... The ones that are responsive to change will overcome the insecurities...

Moral of the story: To avoid sufferings, one must learn to adapt; learn some flexibility and realise that everything changes.. and the change is what makes life beautiful...

Sona: I stopped playing your song, because I realised that I was dancing alone... Now I will play my own song...😉

Dev: I understood that intelligence is the ability to adapt to the changes coming in life...😎

Ishwari: People will not have time for me if I am always upset or complaining...

My thoughts exactly but very well written !

I am also thinking that why is every one who is around Ishwari is fueling her zid of no change (including Dev) ? Sona is trying so many new things after marriage like cooking and fasting etc. so why can't Ishwari accept some small changes in her routine as well? They are making it feel like that the time the legally wedded couple spend with each other is a crime !

See when a baby is born, he/she is dependent on the parents to change the diapers also but would an 8 year old boy Be in diapers waiting for his mom to change his diapers? Didnt Iswari accept that change in Dev? So why can't she accept the fact that he is a married man now and would like to go on his honeymoo although he did not go away from her when he was 8 years old. And why can't anyone tell her that?

True about the physical changes and the routines attached to that...

Some of the habitual routines get connected with their emotional bonding... Like the son eating only from his mother's hands... And her handmade food... Bidding bye by taking her blessings before leaving for work... Saying good night and talking before going to sleep... In all these activities, it's not just habits that she sees but she has created an emotional connect with these activities... No harm in that... But she holding on to each of those routines like her life dependent on them, and with even a slightest change assuming that her son's emotional connect is lost, is only gonna put her into more sufferings... He may now enjoy eating from Sona's hands and be open about trying Sona's cooking (like a specimen trials and might ask Sona not to try anymore... that's a different story 😆).. Sure he's changing in that aspect but he might not have had the same emotional connect with Ishu like what she had with those activities... He might find their bonding still special and stay connected with it via different aspects - like massaging his mother's feet and sharing the day's work activities... His feel good moments and emotional connect with Ishu might be through different habits... And he may not even have the same feel of emotional loss in not seeing his mother for days together, because he has unknowingly adapted to a new change and may not see any impact of that in his bond with his mother... In his adaptation he might see that his bond with his mother has only evolved not deteriorated... And if he doesn't identify that evolution and go back to guilt mode because of the emotional pressure, then he is not helping Ishu in evolving at all... He's helping her to stay wherever she wants her to be... And he will be swaying between here and there because with Sona he will go back to that unidentified evolution...

For a son was so emotional during his school trip, Ishu had indulged him to stay in that emotional state as she needed that comfort too... In that she completely missed to fix his vulnerability to become emotionally independent... Because she was vulnerable and she needed that emotional dependency...

Was the bond that she had created with Dev only because she had lost her husband or had she created that bond from the day he was born... Thus ignoring even her husband and completely focusing only on her son... Or had she been this possessive about any of her special relationship? For example if her husband had been alive, would she have been this possessive about him (her husband) and not allow him (her husband) to share his love with her own kids including Dev?! 😲

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After really really long time, now that Ishu is put through actual events to face, glad to see her reacting... Only want her drama not to be encouraged and make her go back to square one... That will take them nowhere... Ish has been stuck... And she has really become this automated machine doing the same thing again and again... 😆 If not anyone, Ishu really needs a change... 😆

Dev should plan for a family trip for everyone along with his honeymoon (both separately okay 😉)... It's been long time this family had executed anything as a family...

'Change the only real constant 'as long as everyone understands that, adapts to it and accepts it life is beautiful but if we don't come to terms with it than it is only going to be a constant struggle a struggle to keep time stand still but in reality it never does

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True... The way they showed her sitting in her room, with no light and no background music... Earlier with a special bg score they gave a tension for her act and now with silent bg the tension is still dangerous!! 😆

And the way she was shaking her head, it really looked very abnormal and very disturbing... She is ageing and she really needs some help... And if Dev doesn't see it then he will have to forego his newfound pleasures... The mom-son duo will pull each other into their emotional grave to stay there forever... But it won't be the same anymore... It will turn very very ugly...

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And some things can't be discussed and explained... And some things can only be understood and felt... The more they boom the drama around it, the more it's gonna be difficult for them to fix it...