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@Push-pull

Sparkler

Posted: 8 years ago

#11

Originally posted by: AnnTaylor
I am more worried for the mothers out there like Ishu... It's better they take some message from this show and STOP BEING ISHWARI.

I agree with you, and I hope the makers are giving same message out to the audience. I will be having a panic attack if out of nowhere they decide to have a switch-over of Ishwari to a normal mother and validate all her misdoings in the name of insecurity. You know I believe its upto an individual to decide whether he/she wants to be good or bad and no ugly past or sufferings can justify it. Ishwari has to take full responsibility of her own emotions, learn to adjust and stop playing the blame game. She in her full conscious mind has to accept her behavior and redeem herself. Btw: beautiful post.

Yes... after all this high voltage drama and hyped character behaviours, they better do something about without diluting it just like that...

Yes... I wouldn't buy any justification for their behaviour in the name of their troubled past... More than anyone else Ishu has seen the realities of the world... Just not normal ones but harsh realities of the world as per the CVs and so they can't claim that she's bound only to practicalities limited to Dev and her...

They can't continue to justify her instead have to focus on her flaws and bring them out to fix them... CVs like Dev, are too protective about Ishu... 😆

Edited by Push-pull - 8 years ago

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sia.krpkab

@sia.krpkab

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Posted: 8 years ago

#12

Superb post, relationships are complex and people's perception of these relationships make them ever more complicated.

I would just like to add that just like even a woman becomes a mother, there begins a new lease of life and journey which everyone acknowledges, marriage should be given the same treatment and recognition.

If all in-laws and couples, recognise and acknowledge that marriage is a life changing event and one gets married, changes are inevitable and that's precise why marriage happens - to bring a change in life, adaptability and flexibility will come automatically.

You marry to bring and accept new changes to your life. Period.

So enjoy the new lease of life and move forward :)

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Busymommy

@Krpkab_meg

Beginner

Posted: 8 years ago

#13

Beautiful post. Dev-Sona special moment was so beautiful ❤️So true, in not accepting these changes it is the mother-son emotional connect that suffers the most and the ultimate person to suffer is unfortunately the mother.

I love your moral of the story, life lessons.👏

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dsr11

@dsr11

Rocker

+ 2

Posted: 8 years ago

#14

Very nice perspective.

In my opinion, Eeshwari has no valid reason to be insecure about either Dev or Sona. Dev, even after marriage, goes out of his way to make his mother feel special. He still takes care of each and everyone in the family. Sona is a smart educated girl. If Eeshwari is smart, she would make an ally in Sona, so that they can build the family together. Nothing but her own ego is making her miserable. She always pits herself against Sona and corners Dev to choose one. He might obey Eeshwari for now, but eventually might find Sona's words more sensible. This reminds me of "mirror mirror on the wall" story. Change is inevitable. We can choose to accept gracefully or make it ugly.

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mena_k

@mena_k

Voyager

Posted: 8 years ago

#15

Originally posted by: dlavanya
Beatifully written PP..
Ishwari is like Amitab bachhan of Mohabbatein...
"Mujhe parivartan bilkul pasand nahi"..

She is striving hard to ensure there is no change in her-dev equation/routine... But that is impossible as now dev has someone else who he may want to share the things/time that he used to share with his mom.

She really needs to start the adaptation process soon otherwise she will torture herself through out the process when she goes thru it forcebly.

Your Mohabbatein dialogue cracked me up 😆

On a more serious note, Ishwari is a crazy (literally) lady who does not know meaning of change nor is there anyone who could professionally explain the meaning of the same to her. Everybody around her keeps feeding her false pride and encourages her to stay in her dream land of "nothing will ever change", be it Dev or Mamamji. So the only thing she does in that state is change the situation by hook or crook according to her liking. In the end she is blind (by brain) to see whom did she hurt on her way to her perfect never changing dream world. She forgets the happiness of everyone else around her and only remembers what hurts her and If she is in pain and how to eradicate that pain. Most of the time she is being cruel to her dear ones and that's not what a parent is like. she needs some professional help.

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baijubavra

@baijubavra

Voyager

Posted: 8 years ago

#16

Originally posted by: baijubavra
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My thoughts exactly but very well written !

I am also thinking that why is every one who is around Ishwari is fueling her zid of no change (including Dev) ? Sona is trying so many new things after marriage like cooking and fasting etc. so why can't Ishwari accept some small changes in her routine as well? They are making it feel like that the time the legally wedded couple spend with each other is a crime !
See when a baby is born, he/she is dependent on the parents to change the diapers also but would an 8 year old boy Be in diapers waiting for his mom to change it for him? Didnt Iswari accept that change in Dev? So why can't she accept the fact that he is a married man now and would like to go on his honeymoo although he did not go away from her when he was 8 years old. And why can't anyone tell her that?

I am quoting myself 😆. Ishwari ke saath mujhe bhee mental hospital Jana padega !

I gave the diaper example because I was appalled at Ishwari's insistence on feeding her son by her own hands ! I have lived most of my life after high school away from my parents and can't imagine a parent feeding a 28 year old married man ! If the married couple also have a baby next year, would the parent still feed the son who is a dad himself ? I am just wondering because I haven't experienced it myself.

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Push-pull

@Push-pull

Sparkler

Posted: 8 years ago

#17

Originally posted by: sia.krpkab
Superb post, relationships are complex and people's perception of these relationships make them ever more complicated.
I would just like to add that just like even a woman becomes a mother, there begins a new lease of life and journey which everyone acknowledges, marriage should be given the same treatment and recognition.

If all in-laws and couples, recognise and acknowledge that marriage is a life changing event and one gets married, changes are inevitable and that's precise why marriage happens - to bring a change in life, adaptability and flexibility will come automatically.

You marry to bring and accept new changes to your life. Period.
So enjoy the new lease of life and move forward :)

👏 very rightly said.. Some people without being prepared for jump into the relationships.. And complaint and crib everything about it.. Because they are not ready for the changes.. And even at times they think they are ready for it but when the actual things happen they were still taken aback by the events.. Unless they are in the right mindset to acknowledge it and accept it, they are gonna continue to rant.. 😆

Many men is best example for this when they complain about the changes their marriage has brought into their lives.. Simple straightforward answer to them.. If you think nothing changes after marriage then you better not change anything in your life.. Be single and continue being the same...😉

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Shilky88

@Shilky88

Voyager

Posted: 8 years ago

#18

Nice and very well written.👏

I completely second that!

One change called marriage brings whole lot of changes in our life and to the life of people connected with us ..our family mainly.

Ishu is trying really hard to create a fake world around her in which she thinks everything remains same despite of a big change in Dev's life...marriage

I really find her extremely mean and annoying sometimes when she tricks DevSona.

But sometimes I feel if Ishwari is matured enough to understand this change. I am just not sure if these changes --acceptance,adjustments and compromises associated with these changes are beyond Ishwari's sensibility.

At times she can be extremely stubborn and demanding to take control over Dev's life..stubborn like a kid who can have anything but sensibility and maturity.

I don't know if I am right or wrong as I was trying to look through Ishwari with a different angle after last few episodes.

Sometimes she gives a childlike feeling specially when it comes to Dev.

have seen many old people who starts behaving like a kid once they reach 65-70.Not sure if Ishwari is one of those types.

Whenever Dev starts giving slightest attention to his married life ,Ishwari thinks it is end of the world for her. Everything becomes "good for nothing " for her momentarily.

The very next moment when Dev comes to her,pampers her like a child..she gets back to her happy self saying 'Kuch bhi nahi badla hai Dev .tu bhi nahi badla'

I have never seen any parents getting upset or angry with their Child because that child loves one parent more than the other.

Often children are competitive for their parents love.

Here Ishwari's behaviour that competes for her child's love and attention is somewhat childish.

She feels bad in a moment and within few seconds she is happily playing and having fun in her childish and immature thoughts.

Ishwari's character is extremely confusing and complicated.

Her selfish and mean motives makes her negative but at the same time her emotions driven childish thoughts makes her pitiful.

I don't know how will CVs sketch her character graph in future.

Will they show a redemption for her and for that they need to first install sensibility and maturity in her which she lacks now.

or second option in which everyone else including Dev knows her real problem and concern and they change themselves accordingly to keep showing her the fake world in which she is happy.

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Push-pull

@Push-pull

Sparkler

Posted: 8 years ago

#19

Originally posted by: Krpkab_meg
Beautiful post. Dev-Sona special moment was so beautiful ❤️So true, in not accepting these changes it is the mother-son emotional connect that suffers the most and the ultimate person to suffer is unfortunately the mother.

I love your moral of the story, life lessons.👏

I've seen it happening.. The more the parent resist to accept the changes happening in their kid's lives the more they are pushed back to stay wherever they are.. Their suffering never ends because they are not ready to see the happiness in the new life around the kids... And in the process they lose their genuine values in the kid's life.. 🤔

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fangirl-rt

@fangirl-rt

Explorer

Posted: 8 years ago

#20

Very well written..

Unfortunately more and more MILs are like Ishwari... it is fact of life... But at the same time, not many sons' are like Dev and Sona...

The moms' are behaving the same way but the youngsters are so busy with the educational pressure that they are never prepared to take over these household tussles in the stride... They are trained to conquer the world and are totally clueless when it comes to these household fights..

Todays' careers are so demanding that the couples don't have enough time for themselves, the world is full of distractions and if there is no peace at home, all the lives involved are destroyed in no time...

Wish the elders play the right role and not spoil sport...

If no one budges, it often results in the showdown (like the engagement day) and things are damaged beyond control...

High possibility that this show will witness another showdown as turning point but this time it will not necessarily be under the influence of alcohol...

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