Battles Fought and Lessons Learned - Page 3

Originally posted by: gemini54

I read this part of Sam analyses and it kind of makes some sense to me. However, Dsr point on both Dev and Sona being the drivers on this journey hit the nail on the head. Life especially marriage there is and shouldn't be one driver always manning the road the husband and wife takes turns in it and it always is not 50/50 as it is made out to be because some roads may have a lot of curves that one driver is more adept at driving on and there maybe night driving that the other driver is good at.

Here my only hope is that they show it sensitively. In my opinion in this show they are yet to show it in a way that an audience like me can understand it without having a Sam making us open our eyes to it and I absolutely love it that Sam is able to do it.

Thanks for this discussion.

Hats off to you for expressing Dev and Sona's journey post marriage so beautifully. 👏

Sona always had fear of losing Dev, even before she married him. During relationship phase she wanted Dev to tell his mother about them. Even more than her parents Ishwari's acceptance was important to her. She had this constant fear that Ishwari may reject her and her fears became reality when Dev left her for Ishwari. I have always said that she never healed after break up. She had voiced out once in front of Elena but after that she has somewhere buried this fear inside her. Now she has become Mrs. Dixit, but her fears are constant. It comes out in form of anger, doubt, and fear from time to time. It is important for her realise and acknowledge her fears and let it out in front of Dev. Vicky's issue made her realise Ishwari's emotional manipulations towards Dev. From that incident to Dinner issue she mellowed down and tried to manage situation practically. From knowing him to loving him, she knows that Dev's mother is very important for him. She is constantly trying to fit in his family and be a part of it.

Dev, crude, stubborn and go-getter businessman had made a wall outside his self to protect his emotions. For the first time he let his past out in front of Sona sub-consciously during accident. From there she became his confidant, friend, lover and wife. She is the one who made him live in present leaving his past. Dev is a person who has been tied with his past so badly that it will take him and sona a lot of effort to not let it affect their present. His relationship with his mother is very complex and he will not let anyone come anyone in it. He let go sona before because of his mother without knowing the after effects. He has got sona back, but the emotional side of his relationship with his mother has not changed. He will open up about this sensitive emotion with sona now they have taken a step forward in marriage.

With consummation of their marriage, they have come emotionally closer and I really want them to talk about their past, break up phase. It will let out their vulnerabilities, fear and pain which will eventually make their relationship stronger.

Ps- This is third time I am typing (now saved word file). Dunno why IF is in no mood to post my comment -_- Half of my thoughts were gone with previous two comments. 😭