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Posted: 8 years ago
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Dear Dev, the situation in Iswari Nivas is getting worse day by day. Neither I blame your mother nor Sonakshi for this because I feel you are the one who would be the cause for the present scenario and you could be the one who if put your brains can solve the problems and lead a harmonious and peaceful life .I bother about you because Shaheer is your face.If not I would have stopped watching your story long back. So here are some tips for you.
Let Sonakshi join her duty as early as possible. Ask her to leave the house sharp 9 o'clock.

Keep yourself busy with your office work and leave before Sona left.

Don't ever forget to bend at your mother's feet and take Ashirwad.

Always come down for break fast even if you want to have private moments with Sona.

Never ever take sides with either Sona or your mother if any discussion happens.Tell them you are not adept in such matters. If your mother asked you privately tell her she is always right. If Sona confronted you tell her she is absolutely right .

Don't grab away the brief period you spend with your mother especially at the dining table.

Tell Sona not to commit herself for any religious activity . She can say she is busy with her patients.

Make it a point to have lunch with Sona not in your office but somewhere else.

Try to finish your work earlier,pick up Sona and spend time with her. If she wants make it a point to take her to her parents whenever she feel like.

Return home separately after you both enjoyed together.You can arrange another car for Sona. Don't ever enter inside ,you with your besotted looks and she reciprocating with her giggles.

Make it a point to have dinner with the family members. Praise your mother's cooking skills.

Ask Sona not to bother about learning cooking and other things. She has a lifetime ahead for all this.

Plan a short trip not long say for example to Goa,Tell your mother you have to go for office work. Send Sona prior to this to her parents and pick her up. You can enjoy your moments happily.

Always keep an eye on Radha Rani who is an expert in spying I hope you understand what I meant.

Don't ever send gifts to Sona to your residential address. You have her hospital address no?

Last but not least don't forget to take Iswari for shopping. That is the only time she spends with you and enjoy her outing . Don't ever take Sona with you.

Finally the most important point I forgot. Finance. Don't curb your mother's freedom and power.Drawers locker keys all these are for old generation. Let Iswari enjoy such things.
You and Sona can do with ATMs you don't need outdated stuff.

One more thing. Be cautious while you are alone with Sona in the room. Close the door always. Not only your mother but you have your unmarried sisters in the house.

I would like to add things would become better with the passage of time. Once your mother gets habituated to the other person in your life everything gets back to normalcy.

PS. I happened to see women like Iswari who are overtly possessive of their sons. I also observed how problems got solved by caution and presence of mind. But it takes time.
I hope Dev also will meet with success in maintaining balance with two of the most important women in his life. Good luck Dev Dikshit.I hope your management skills if you apply properly will help you in this regard.If there is a will there is a way.


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Posted: 8 years ago
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Why does this not seem like addressing the problem. Just ways to avoid a reaction.
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Posted: 8 years ago
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If dev dikshit will have to follow all of the tips and tricks you mentioned.. He might take sleeping pills himself 😲
Or run away.
It's a marriage - not a battle, for God sake!
And the age old formula of indifference-towards-wife-in-front-of-other-family-members is so passe and overrated. That's the biggest issue in our society - brush every unpleasant thing under the carpet and flout /lie /deceive for family honor. Phew!
But how are we fooling here! And there will be a time when the cycle of life will come back and they will repeat the same behaviour with the next generation.
People need to 'grow' with time and 'accept' changes in life.
Only change is constant.
Dev, Sona and Ish- its a journey they all need to go through (and not only dev).. They all need to learn the trade of balance, with the foundation of trust, love and honesty.


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Posted: 8 years ago
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very bluntly put 😆.. This list is for a man fully aware of his mother's personality strengths and weaknesses. Yes, he would know exactly what upsets and aggravates her and will be tip-toeing around them just to keep the peace.
Dev sticking up for Sonakshi to his mother will only make things worse for her, when he isn't around. Trust me.

It does sound like a hide and seek romance with your own wife..😆.. But PDAs are generally uncomfortable in front of in laws. it's normal for me avoid them 🤣 .. So thumbs up to all those who have cool MILs, enjoy!
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Posted: 8 years ago
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Seen witnessed and lived , faced some solutions... so taking a stand making the mother aware that wife is important as well mother.
If the son begins to dismiss his wife in front of his mother, his mother is also never ever going to respect.

What plays well is if Dev takes a stand and Sona supports Ishwari., it may create scenes today but will address and resolve the problem in the long run.

Tips you gave also means you live this life and hope after one of them passes away the situation gets better... The damage it does to your marriage in the process is irrecoverable.


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Posted: 8 years ago
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Originally posted by: Monu1602

Perfect advices. U have given a thoughtful solution for his possessive MIL. Those who don't agree haven't face dev and sonas problem at home. Dev speaking in favour of Sona will add fire to fuel and then will definitely lead to separation. Sometimes we follow this at home. One more I need to add that keep updating abt ur schedule directly to ur mother rather then Sona telling her.

You are welcome to add more. Believe me. These are the facts from personal life. Tried and tested formulae. Ofcourse from the out layer it appears like dishonesty and all that. But in practical life definitely we will get mental peace. Dev's exhibition of love and concern will ignite Iswari'sinsecurity. This is the naked truth .There is no escape from that.
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Posted: 8 years ago
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Originally posted by: AnnzSageflower7

very bluntly put 😆.. This list is for a man fully aware of his mother's personality strengths and weaknesses. Yes, he would know exactly what upsets and aggravates her and will be tip-toeing around them just to keep the peace.

Dev sticking up for Sonakshi to his mother will only make things worse for her, when he isn't around. Trust me.

It does sound like a hide and seek romance with your own wife..😆.. But PDAs are generally uncomfortable in front of in laws. it's normal for me avoid them 🤣 .. So thumbs up to all those who have cool MILs, enjoy!

You are right. Dev knows what works for Iswari and what not. Yaa it looks like hide and seek but for those who have Iswari like mother in laws it is inevitable to follow these ways.It is easy to say let Dev be honest let Sona not bend but it takes a toll on our physical as well as mental health to daily face the tussle. For professionals like us peace at home is much needed since we have to get on with our work also.Sona needs to be at peace rather than face discomfort due to continuous tiffs with her MIL.
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Posted: 8 years ago
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Iska matlab hai Ishwari nahi sudhrane waali?!?
Only Dev n Sona will have to play this game like some secret lovers.

Even if Dev does of all that ,what s the surety that Ishu will not hire a detective to keep an eye on his out of home activities??She a a crazy woman and she can do that

You really can't skip Ishwari's realization n redemption part..my thoughts
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Posted: 8 years ago
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Originally posted by: Shilky88

Iska matlab hai Ishwari nahi sudhrane waali?!?
Only Dev n Sona will have to play this game like some secret lovers.

Even if Dev does of all that ,what s the surety that Ishu will not hire a detective to keep an eye on his out of home activities??She a a crazy woman and she can do that

You really can't skip Ishwari's realization n redemption part..my thoughts

In my view co existence that too for a longer period dilutes the problems. Sudhar won't happen by counselling or pointing fingers. Iswari can not do such things. Hiring a detective? No way. She is not educated. Anyway real spy lives in Iswari mansion only. Who is a better detective than Radha Rani? That is why I cautioned Dev against her in my tips.
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Posted: 8 years ago
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Whatever tips you gave will bring peace in Dev's life
But Dev's peaceful life with no family drama is not going to fetch trps for the show😉

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