Originally posted by: dikshat
First and foremost...I was dying to shout and declare how I am still liking every bit of what I saw. You post has given me that opportunity. Yes, I wanna shout and tell..I am a part of this minority..😆😆
And this minority certainly doesn't need a quota 😉😆
haaa...Relaxed !! Now I take a lambi saana 😳😆😆
Secondly, I think I am writing this for the second or third time, but I really love your posts and replies and your comments on BUZZ.
And now that I am done with my deviations from the topic 😆 which I feel are equally important to say..I start with the topic reply
1. Lovely Post !! Positivity is what attracts me..this was one which talked about something we look as negative .."The Change" but talked about it in a "positive way".
2. I remember I wrote a post on Change Last week to which you replied and we discussed how Acceptance is an aspect of how people adapt to this change.
Have you noticed one thing?
After marriage, while the newly wed girl not just comes to the new house but there is change in everything she has or does. This also includes her clothes and the way she dresses while the man continues does not have a sudden change in his wardrobe.
What role does that play?
I say..our clothes, our space in which we work and stay reflects our state of mind. So one side where these changes reflect that "awareness" in the girl and constantly reminds her everything is changed, she moves towards acceptance trying to tell herself this is me now. (btw how excited we get to see ourselves in the mirror with that new look😳)
Whereas, for a man, how will awareness come so easily when he has no such change (he wears the same clothes, stays in the same house, eats the same breakfast, goes to the same work place etc.) and top of that he is hardly around at home to notice small changes which starts the awareness process?
On top of that, I have always noticed, while woman notice small changes, men don't pay attention until its a big one.
But look at the irony here, while the one who is facing big changes even notices the small one and find them big (imagine how big the big change is for her) and the one who notices only the big changes doesn't treat this as a change and gives this change a name of an addition or extension to the earlier life.
While Girl's life takes u-turn, Guys life is just an extension to the life he's living.
Now here are Dev and Sonakshi, who are just getting to face the same things.
While Sonakshi is trying to adjust (and not compromise) coz she wants to do this willingly coz she is aware of the changes, Dev has not even reached that stage of awareness.
Classic Example by CV's to this: Dev still calls her Ms. Bose and she reminds him its "Mrs. Dixit"
For a mother-in-law like Ishwari who is already so insecure of her position in her sons life. (I will only point out common changes and not specific to Ishu here coz she is a topic in herself)
The DIL is expected to stay at home for a few days after the wedding and resume with her work after few days (if she's working). A small and a big change of the mother-in-law who is constantly getting to see an "outsider" inside the house trying to create a space for herself which according to the MIL is already full.
Now how to take that first step of making this "outsider" adapt to the environment inside coz she needs to adapt as others according to them don't need to change or adapt to that change. (Whereas the fact remains is, change impacts all around)
Ok so what to do?
Let's ask her to do things our way (not learn coz she is supposed to already know na..)
First step? Cooking of course..
On one hand, let me tell her that we are accepting her (not trying but accepting) and so I have allowed her to step into a place no one else is allowed to win medals from (which I wnt let her too),
but oh gosh!! What if she gets valued for her efforts??
Ok, I have a solution..Let me create some additional value of myself and get some brownie points..
So I let her do it on her own, and when she is not able to do it "perfectly" ..I will come to her rescue. And no my girl..its not as easy as "aaj ki girls" think, I took time to learn but you being today's girl wont even learn even if you try. You might take no. 1 spot, but remember, I am beyond this race. you just cannot reach me coz for you race ends at No. 1 spot. I m not in the league.
