The Change Called Marriage..

aww u made me emotional...i have everything loving husband, cute son .rich and understanding in laws...

This post is beautiful!
😊
I understand what you went through, not that I have been through that yet.
But I guess my little sister is going to experience what you did, If I ever decide to get married!

But one thing I know is that marriage most definitely brings a lot of changes. Some big and some small. Some good and some bad. But it is you and your partners ability to form a happy life out of all the good and the bad that makes a marriage succesful.

Mushkiley toh bohot ayengi Devakshi par. But they have to handle it together. Unka yeh pyaar has to keep them strong and guide them through the difficulties Jo I'm sure Devakshi will be able to do perfectly well! 😃
Isme toh koi doubt nahin! 😃 👏

That's a very interesting post, Diksha!

Some of the things you mentioned with your sister's marriage - i totally resonate with them.
Have been married for almost 5 years now - and I also kept my maiden name (my husband and in-laws didn't oppose/ question me so I assume they were OK with it).

I think the biggest change for me was when I couldn't see my parents everyday (I am very attached to them and I am their only child/ no siblings). Thereby I would spent at least 1 day of my weekend with them over lunch/dinner. Initially, my MIL was hesitant and would bring in her emotional matter saying that 'we miss you when you go to your parents' every weekend' and later said that now you are married so why do you have to visit every weekend - I was cheesed off and told her that it is non-negotiable 😊. I didn't fall into her emotional trap 😉

Marriage changes a lot of things - apart from being scrutinized for all your actions, you are judged a lot. It makes you wiser and more practical.
But a supportive partner makes it worth all the effort!

Originally posted by: mygaby

aww u made me emotional...i have everything loving husband, cute son .rich and understanding in laws...

but i always felt this is not me , something is missing

its not so easy

later i just accepted and started thinking positive n b happy whatever i have...now its not as difficult as before

what i learned from my life is acceptance...

Acceptance doesnt come easily. M happy to see you took things positively and have a family who supports and loves i.
Marriage brings a change in you, you cannot go back to the person you were.

Wonderful post Diksha.as always your posts are awesome and touching.
Marriage is a big change and I hope it brings lots of beautiful colors in Dev and Sona's life.
So excited for it.

Originally posted by: dikshat

Finally the day came when can instead of saying, I'll drop you, Dev can tell Sona, let's go to bed. 😳

Yes I will really miss their meetings outside Sona's house, but I am equally excited to watch their journey after marriage.

I will miss the Bose family moments, but I am eager to see how Sonakshi makes me feel that Dixits are also a family.😉

I will miss how Dev calls her Ms. Bose and she says, its Sonakshi for you. But I would love to see how he addresses her now. (Any guesses?) 😳

Life it so full of changes.

- Change is the only constant in life

And

- Change is inevitable too.

We each deal with change in a different way and change affects us each differently as well.

Life brings many changes everyday, days change, people change, seasons change. But none of it is as big as Marriage, for it changes us (which is important too).

Two individuals get married and the world around and the world in which they live changes, for now things are seen and viewed with a different perspective.

It's a bigger change coz not just the two getting married face this change, but all those connected to them face those changes equally, a change we all need to adapt to. Every relationship feels that change.

I am sure many of you would have experienced this change.

So I just thought of making this post as I wanted to talk about and listen to the changes each of you felt when you got married. 😳

And to those not married, what are the changes you think life will throw at you, which maybe you would like to see or the ones you have fear of.

Or maybe you can share how life got changed when someone close to you got married.

I have too much to say on this but I'll share few things:

- I remember when my sister got married. The first few times she visited us for a stay, she purposely used to wear those old shabby clothes, skip bath for a day, told my mom not to wake her up till she wakes up on her own.

She told me how the life she lived for those 25 years she feels has been taken away from her in many ways and now how she feels she's got a new life which is so different of what she has lived so far.

She said I feel I lived a life for 25 years only to realize that one day I will have to let go of this one, and start afresh. Why?

Not that she was not happy, but suddenly felt her identity got changed.

For that reason she took a decision of not changing her surname. She wanted something of her from her prior life which makes her feel that the change her marriage got to her was not changing her identity. Sadly, her in-laws had a major issue with this. Even after 9 years of her marriage, they still have.

But thanks to her husband for whom it didn't make any difference. I liked when he said that he doesn't want to think if this is right or not, all he knows is if this one thing can make her happy and feel she's that same person that she was before marriage he is happy with her decision for he married that same person he loved so how can he ask her to change now.

My entire house, my mom, my dad, me...we all faced those changes.

I got a room for myself like I always wanted but now when I got it, I didn't want it.

I missed those night chats I used to have with her. How we used to listen to old songs on FM till 3 am and sing along.😳

I missed how I used to fight who will first get up in the morning and use the washroom. I missed all those things we fought on..

I always used to say when will she stop fighting and here was a day when I wanted her to come and fight with me.

Ok..I guess I am back in time and I have lot of emotions running through making me unable to write more..so I will stop here abruptly and want to hear from you all.

PS: Made this post in a hurry so maybe the thoughts seem to be scattered. But would love to hear your story of the change called "Marriage".

u hv written it so beautifully...!! Such true words!!👏