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dikshat

@dikshat

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Posted: 8 years ago

#11

Originally posted by: Deepsikha_94
This post is beautiful!
😊
I understand what you went through, not that I have been through that yet.
But I guess my little sister is going to experience what you did, If I ever decide to get married!

But one thing I know is that marriage most definitely brings a lot of changes. Some big and some small. Some good and some bad. But it is you and your partners ability to form a happy life out of all the good and the bad that makes a marriage succesful.

Mushkiley toh bohot ayengi Devakshi par. But they have to handle it together. Unka yeh pyaar has to keep them strong and guide them through the difficulties Jo I'm sure Devakshi will be able to do perfectly well! 😃
Isme toh koi doubt nahin! 😃 👏

Aww...ur lil sis is gonna be really mad at ur jiju for taking u from her 😳

yes devakshi will fight for themselves

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dikshat

@dikshat

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Posted: 8 years ago

#12

Originally posted by: sia.krpkab
That's a very interesting post, Diksha!

Some of the things you mentioned with your sister's marriage - i totally resonate with them.
Have been married for almost 5 years now - and I also kept my maiden name (my husband and in-laws didn't oppose/ question me so I assume they were OK with it).

I think the biggest change for me was when I couldn't see my parents everyday (I am very attached to them and I am their only child/ no siblings). Thereby I would spent at least 1 day of my weekend with them over lunch/dinner. Initially, my MIL was hesitant and would bring in her emotional matter saying that 'we miss you when you go to your parents' every weekend' and later said that now you are married so why do you have to visit every weekend - I was cheesed off and told her that it is non-negotiable 😊. I didn't fall into her emotional trap 😉

Marriage changes a lot of things - apart from being scrutinized for all your actions, you are judged a lot. It makes you wiser and more practical.
But a supportive partner makes it worth all the effort!

Thats so cute..I remember my sis gifted my mom dad an IPad and said I have added my no. in this, u just need to click here at 9.00 pm everyday when I am back from work.

I felt as if some serial has to come at 9.00 pm ..they used to wait like that with all excitement on their faces😆

And no there was no hello to start with...it was meri sonu aa gayi office se 😳😆

And every weekend was pakka visit just like u 😳

@ Bold: So true..

We are judged and we have to be perfect at everything ...the definition of perfection is given by the one judging

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sjain

@sjain

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Posted: 8 years ago

#13

Absolutely ..marriage is a new life..like its said ek ladki ka naya janam hai shadi ..she steps in to a new phase..born in new family..but its so amusing how it just happens and she accepts them so warmly..its a journey with whole loads of ups and downs :)

Same goes for Dev and Sona :)

PS very sweet of you to share your sister emotions :)

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Chandni Davey.

@Chandniyati

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Posted: 8 years ago

#14

U post is emotional n heartwarming dear..

A very big bear hug... 🤗

Ur post is making me cry to hell...

Is it just the matter of change... no

It's also the matter of change to hell or

Change to heaven...

In any girl's life there r two such turns where a girl is gifted a new life...

1. When she gets married..

2. When she becomes a mother...

Edited by Chandniyati - 8 years ago

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madhavi

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Posted: 8 years ago

#15

You took me to 23 years ago. When I first time see my husband. My parents introduced me to him. 15 minutes talk and married in 5 days. My life change since then. Arrange marriage. But turned out best. But work really hard every time to make every one happy. My MIL still live with me.. she is not like Ishwari. Thank God. But I always miss my mom's house. And sisters. And only one regret that I can't share much with them while I live here in US and they are in india. They always get worried about little things. So always hide my problem when I call or visit.

Edited by Madhavi_Di - 8 years ago

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Sunny

@desigirl987

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Posted: 8 years ago

#16

Awww dear lovely post ... Other day I was talking to my hubby,told him I remembered our wedding day when I watched DevAkshi wedding specially the car scene where he pressed her hand , as he also did the same . He asked me why did you cry that badly on that day ... Yes his doubt was valid , we both were in love and was waiting for that day eagerly , I knew all of his family members it was not like stepping into a new world , then why ... I sighed and said it was not like I didnt trust you or your love or was not excited to start our new life . But till then I was in the comfort of my cocoon -my family .No matter what I am always a kid there , and for the first time I was going to step out of that cocoon , from that day I was supposed to take up more responsibilities of a wife, of a daughter in law and many more . I was nervous , and was not sure , if I would be judged if I fail miserably ... So while hugging my mom n dad tightly for one last time before coming out of my comfort zone I was hanging on to my own safe heaven ,and I could not fight back my tears...

But I am blessed to get a nice family as lovey as my own , and a wonderful husband , so when I turn back i kind of feel silly thinking about my nervousness . But I'm sure this is what every girl go through ..

Your post made me so emotional thinking about my sister . I feel so guilty reading this , as I was busy setting up my own life in our new home, busy with new job , trying hard to accept the changes in my life , while enjoying blissful marriage life , I may have not given enough time for my sister ... I never knew or bothered to ask if she missed me , when our short conversations at that time limited to inquiring about her studies and my failed cooking experiments,and bashing my team lead , I never realized when I got someone in my life to share everything , she missed someone whom she could talk non stop about her and her best friends fight , who would tell her this earring would never suit you , take the other one , who would fight for her to mom and dad and then in the room scold her badly when we were alone ... Until after a very long time she opened up about how much she missed me and thought I ignored her after marriage ... I have never been that guilty in my life ever ..

After that till this day I always made sure I would be there for her , and I am still and always will be her big sister ... But reading your post , brought back those memories 😭😭😭 Yes marriage , brings changes not just for us , but for all those lives associated with us ... And finding a balance in all these , its hard , but sometimes after making some terrible mistakes , eventually we would find that balance ...

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ashakd

@ashakd

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Posted: 8 years ago

#17

I really enjoyed reading your write up. I am actually guilty of reading most of your writings, liking and disappearing. Have actually no found the time for sitting and penning down a few thoughts.

I liked reading your sisters experience. I have been among a few lucky people, who got married into the same surname family and never changed my surname 😃 .

Actually I have a simple solution to Dev- Sona and Ishwari. Sona should just tell Ishwari, outside the bedroom you handle Dev and inside the bedroom is my responsibility. Clearing the air is better na? 😆

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dikshat

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Posted: 8 years ago

#18

Originally posted by: Shilky88
awww such a lovely post !!
your first line was just superspecialawesome
instead of dropping her home .Dev to Sona 'Let's go to bed '

Thank you !!😳
I can imagine Dev saying it to Sona..n here I am ..blushing blushing😳

I wish he does 😳😆😆

your sister's story reminded me of my sister ..GOD that was such a crazy moment when she got married and there I was left with all her belongings,clothes,make up accessories, handbags,sandals etc thinking that now I don't have to ask for her permission for any small or big thing..as she had been extremely possessive for all her stuffs..never shared it with me open heartedly..😭

And here I went emotional again..I think I made a wrong post..Everytime I open it I get emotional..No wonder I have so many replies left

but every small thing of hers reminded me of her and I just can't help but avoiding getting close to any of those stuff..Later I realized that those things became so.insignificant n useless without her..and I need her to b with me rather than anything else..
..I got mad for first few days as I couldn't believe that she just left for her new life..for first few months I seriously left eating anything that she loves the most... My mum dint prepare any of that..
but yeah..now whenever we meet we always do things we used to do before marriage...crazy n mad selfies is just an addition to our stupid old pastime 😃

Very sweet...I can only add up that the fights we had earlier were serious but the same fights now are fun 😳

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dikshat

@dikshat

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Posted: 8 years ago

#19

Originally posted by: FLW70

Beautiful post...i m married for 23 years now...still your post makes me emotional...
Acceptance ...that's the key...though it does not come so easily...
Marriage...a big change...but somewhere a small part in your heart remains what you were...that keeps you going for yourself...
I m happy blessed with two boys...n loving husband...similar possessive in laws...life goes on

Reliving my dreams n life wth show like KRPKAB...Sonas selfless love reminds me many things n situation of my life...strength of Asha maa reminds me my mom...

Thank you so very much dikshat for this beautiful post.

Yes Acceptance is really important and it comes again with time.

You have to first and foremost accept that you cannot go back to the same person you once were😳

Very sweet and positive story of your life..God Bless your dear!!😳

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dikshat

@dikshat

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Posted: 8 years ago

#20

Originally posted by: IshikaIshu
Wonderful post Diksha.as always your posts are awesome and touching.
Marriage is a big change and I hope it brings lots of beautiful colors in Dev and Sona's life.
So excited for it.

Thank you soo much 😳

Reminds me I havent made any PM to you since last few days...time to do one I Guess. 😃😳

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