CVs STOP!!!

Originally posted by: Devakshilover

Being a Bengali myself Me and my parents cringe every time any show makes kachra of our customs shotti bolchhi amra kichu same face korchhi amra je bari te bhara e thaki ora vegeterian and aage bolechilo non veg khete paari amra no problem kintu ak din ma maach banalo to amader ke taunt kore kore insult korlo aar deem o boiled kore khete hoe ekhane maacch manksho to door er kotha eishob er jonno we are shifting to a new house on 1st

Originally posted by: sappushivu

i was thnking the same...its a fish..not fish curry or sliced fish for them to create such a ruckus..havnt they have ever seen a fish in a river or sea or an aquarium😆..bas aiwaii drama karna hain..my poor sona n dev..unko chain ki saans mat lene dena😡...i was also wondering how come the event mgt company decorated the fish so well n send..they plan the event..they dont select the gifts or the shagun right..all that is done by the family..lol

Originally posted by: WeRockTheWorld

I dont think they have done enough research on many other topics too...Including the prenup and fertility ...there are too many flaws and not possible things shown. But what to do...serial hai..TRP is required for sustenance and commercial point of view...ppl like drama and so following the trend blindly !! Cant Help 😭

Originally posted by: tia.o

CVs, stop making caricature of culture for the sake of creating drama.

When you show a culture, at least research about it.

Or you can read my post on Bengali Wedding.

Link: http://www.india-forums.com/forum_posts.asp?TID=4722379

First of all, in Bengali Culture, Tatwa (the gifts that comes from the bride and groom's side) is NOT sent by event management company EVER!!!

This is how Tatwa looks like. Notice the number on them in little white circles? Those numbers are noted in the Tatwa Suchi which is a booklet that has list of those items and who it belongs too,

Ex. Gift for Mum-in-Law, Gift for Dad-In-Law, Groom's Suit, Bride's Salwar, Honeymoon Package (that would be lingerie like nightgown for bride and groom), Groom's Shoes, Bride's Shoes etc.

Either all family member themselves prepare them staying up all night or even if they hire people to prepare Tatwa, family members include HAND-WRITTEN notes on the booklet with numbers on the trays so that they can itemise which tray is going to whom.

That way a married cousin's saree with sindoor and matching bangles doesn't go to a widowed aunt or the bride's salwar suit doesn't get handed to groom's cousin.

For example, when Konkona Sen got married to Ranveer Shorey, renowned National Award Winning director Ritupo*no Ghosh wrote her little booklet with his poems.

Not every one is that talented. But people still write their own message.

Also, it's not possible for an event company to send the fish at any point because the fish is personally bought by bride's father (for groom's family) and groom's father (for bride's family) to be sent to each other and the bride's mother and the groom's mother decorate their respective fish with saree, ornament and jewellery before putting it on the tray.

There's no way, Asha would have decorated a fish when she knows very well that Dev's family is vegetarian considering she was the one who didn't want any non-veg food in the wedding.

Then where would any event management company get the fish and send it?

Next point is what is the big deal about fish? It's not fish curry, it's a fish. Vegetarian people have fish in aquarium in their home. Sometimes those fish die in aquarium. I have never seen such a big issue to throw out the dead fish then.

This particular fish that comes in Tatwa is handed over to poor people so that they get to have some food (At least that's what we do in our family). It's not for the family's consumption.

Fish came in, hand it over to whichever poor person you see outside. What's the big deal? It's in a tray, wrapped in cellophane. No need to even touch it yourself.

If a chicken walked into your premises and died by your car, would you create as much of a big deal or just deal with it? Just because there is a dead chicken, doesn't mean you have to eat it.

I just don't get all these issues which is being created for the sake of drama and making Bengali culture into a caricature...

Originally posted by: telly_buff

bang on post...

but tia.. look at the way the vegetarians behave in front of non vegetarians. they dont respect the food eaten by non vegetarians.

they create such drama in offices too..

Originally posted by: tia.o

I believe that everyone has their right to eat what they want. But what I don't understand is that if dust bothers you, would you wrap the world in mask or wear a mask yourself? What is the easiest solution? if a particular smell bothers you or you are allergic to something (like strawberry or peanut), then you should be careful around it, that's your right. But forcing everyone else to give up their food or banning strawberry or peanut from the entire world because you are allergic to it is not the solution, that's not your right.

Personal freedom and choices should be given to everyone. I don't want any non-vegetarian person ever to make fun of vegetarian or vegan people or force them to go hungry because there is not a single vegetarian item available. I have been to restaurants in Canada where my aunt (she is non-vegetarian except on Tuesdays she eats pure veg), asked for a salad which was listed as only vegetarian entree (everything had shrimp or chicken or other meat). They brought the salad but it had egg. My poor aunt could not explain to them that egg is not vegetarian. So I had to tell them to bring only salad with cheese on it.

Unfortunately, people tend to force their choices on others. I find it offensive and not to mention against someone's personal rights and freedom of choice.