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Posted: 8 years ago
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Just saw a Sangeet video where Dev looks traumatised and Sona looks all happy and chirpy. That obviously means that he hasn't told Sona about her infertility.
After going through so much, I thought he'd finally learn the importance of talking about a problem, facing it and solving it long with his partner and family but NO! He never learns.

Firstly, he had no right to hide Sona's medical condition from her. She is the one suffering from the problem, she has the right to know and take a decision. Dev still doesn't have the right to decide everything for Sona. He still doesn't understand this.

Secondly, he really needs a break from dealing with everything alone. He can share his problems with Sona or someone else. Why does he think that he can handle everything alone? He's a human being, not god.

P.S.- This rant is completely based on the video I saw on twitter but I'm quite sure that Dev won't share the news with Sona because...past records 😆

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Posted: 8 years ago
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What I also don't like is Dev's need to first tell his mother about Sonakshi before telling Sonakshi herself. What does he expect from Ishwari ? Any mother would probably not like such a news and her natural instinct would be to back-off. IMHO, he should first talk to Sonakshi, take her into confidence, talk to her family and assure them that he will always stand by Sonakshi (I am assuming he will) and then he can talk to Ishwari.
Aur agar batana hi nahin hain then don't even tell Ishwari. Let it come out after marriage.
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Posted: 8 years ago
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Ofcourse... As of now he will not share it with Sona. He'll not spoil her happiness at present. He'll definitely tell her later. Lets wait for the actual episode to know the reason for him to hide it from Sona.
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Posted: 8 years ago
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Originally posted by: reachanupama

What I also don't like is Dev's need to first tell his mother about Sonakshi before telling Sonakshi herself. What does he expect from Ishwari ? Any mother would probably not like such a news and her natural instinct would be to back-off. IMHO, he should first talk to Sonakshi, take her into confidence, talk to her family and assure them that he will always stand by Sonakshi (I am assuming he will) and then he can talk to Ishwari.

Aur agar batana hi nahin hain then don't even tell Ishwari. Let it come out after marriage.


Exactly!
Also, I've never heard of a case of inhospitable uterus without even trying to conceive. When couples are unable to conceive or suffer few miscarriages, it's only then that the doctor's declare problems with the uterus. They should atleast try before reaching conclusions.
Ishwari ko batana is the worst step though. She'll probably faint after listening to that.
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Posted: 8 years ago
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I don't think he wil tell anybody abt sona
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Posted: 8 years ago
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Originally posted by: JyotiBThakur

Ofcourse... As of now he will not share it with Sona. He'll not spoil her happiness at present. He'll definitely tell her later. Lets wait for the actual episode to know the reason for him to hide it from Sona.


This news will not make her happy after marriage either. How would she feel after knowing that he hid this from her before marriage? It's better to tell her as soon as possible and let her adjust with it.
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Posted: 8 years ago
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Originally posted by: reachanupama

What I also don't like is Dev's need to first tell his mother about Sonakshi before telling Sonakshi herself. What does he expect from Ishwari ? Any mother would probably not like such a news and her natural instinct would be to back-off. IMHO, he should first talk to Sonakshi, take her into confidence, talk to her family and assure them that he will always stand by Sonakshi (I am assuming he will) and then he can talk to Ishwari.

Aur agar batana hi nahin hain then don't even tell Ishwari. Let it come out after marriage.



What he doesnt understand is , do you think she will be happy seeing him unhappy?? She is definitely going to doubt abt their relationship...in order to deal with it alone he might keep himself busy...and this will make Ishwari doubtful abt their relationship ...and Sona will be on the receiving end...If didnt want to tell her then he should show the happiness..( I know its difficult ) ..if not atleast tell her...She has all rights to know abt her health issue.
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Posted: 8 years ago
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I also saw the video and wanted someone from the 'complaint box group' to make a topic on this for me to reply 🤣
I have huge huge issues with this whole infertility track. Doctor tells a would-be husband that his would-be wife is infertile From where did they get such faltu useless doctor with zero practical sense ? Doctors treat each patient and their cases differently, they are in a public-service profession.. I can take bullshit of Dev being oblivious to the whole world's real issues and making a lost-puppy face in all practical situations, not understanding human psychology, not reading expressions from Mommy-the-God (much like the looks of PK from the movie PK when he initially arrived from the spaceship 😆), but teachers, doctors etc don't behave so impractically. Major blunder there.


Second thing Dev's sangeet dance expressions. I really couldn't decode it whether he is in grief or is still in the shock. Can I expect a little LESS OTT expressions from Shaheer because it's really coming across as a confusion from his side whether to go with this marriage or not, instead of conveying his sadness. 🤔 He looks more like unsure than sad. Boy, you're getting married to the love of your life. Just be in the moment man. I agree this is a huge blow to any person wanting to have kids and regular life, but when it's a love marriage, this shouldn't really be a confusion 😔. It reminds me of the HIMYM scene where Robin tells Kevin that she never wants to have a kid, and Kevin, despite having hugely upset, just decides to keep her in his life (It's another story that Robin herself broke up with him). Only few lucky people get to marry their love. Why ruining your most precious ceremonies of your life over something which can be discussed and shared to reduce the pain ? Rather you're confused and shocked for 5 long days ? 🤔


Another weird thing was Sona's expressions. I mean it was QUITE obvious that Dev was having a sulking face, how can you royally ignore that and keep grinning like that 🤣 It was really odd. The show is slowly losing its realistic touch 😳


Dev and Sona, specially Sona looked GORGEOUS Only if Dev had an OK face (I think somewhere in between he lowered it down and it looks good).

Sorry for my rant, now things on your topic 😆 - Being a boy of 8/11 yr old, he loves remote control devices 😃 While he has given his own remote control to Ishwari's hands, he wants to keep the remote of Sona-device to his own hands. 😃 For Dixits, it's all about hiding stuffs from each other, going at each other's back, trying to feel better that 'I am great because I bear so much of pain for others' and the false pride of superior feelings than the rest of the world. Oh, one more - 'I am always right' syndrome too 😃.
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Posted: 8 years ago
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I don't want dev tell this to sona now...he may tell after marriage...But telling this to her now will ruin her all happiness...Maybe she calloff the marriage bcoz she know howmuch he loves having children...Now dev is in sad situation ,atleast i don't want to see sona like dev in her marriage... i hope he will make to understand her after marriage...
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Posted: 8 years ago
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Well the point is,even dev knows how sensitive sonakshi is...do you think she would marry him after knowing the fact that she cant bless him with a child?no she wont.
Dev at this point doesnt want to distance himself from her again or to hurt her again when she is so happy.

Tho i would have loved if he had told asha and bijoy about this issue

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