Expectations, Pride and Disappointments. - Page 3

Originally posted by: GoodyTwoShoes

Posting my reply from another thread..because what's what I feel in detail about the episode and characters and their bonds

Episode was better in terms of emotional draining...bit it was super messy...though things gonna clear one by one..and starting would be from dixit house this time..

Baba is rightly angry and I do understand him..but he is again making same mistake .he is still not seeing point what ritwik said. Yesterday and today too.

He has streaks of ishwari in him.he still not coming to terms with reality.

He is doing to sona what ishwari did to dev..make kids guilty..bijoy you need to trust your daughter and your upbringing..she already feeling guilty because she has hurt so many people.you don't need to make her feel guilty more.this will again make her do what she does not want but would do for your happiness just as she decided to get engaged

Yes Di! Bijoy is making her feel guilty for doing something she had little control over, Even R understood that whatever she did that day was because of her emotions and love, she wasn't at fault and the moment she realised how embarrassing it must be for her family, she rushed back.

This guilt of letting him down will keep her away from dev. Exactly what happened with Dev.

You were right when you said how many times you asked her before going for engagement.yes you did..but the approach was indirect push to get a yes from her.you repeatedly told her she is strong and over relationship with dev..you repeatedly said how relieve you would be if yiu settle down a nice guy like ritwik.there was no way that she could say no to you because she knew she has already hurt you enough.

I hope you calm down ..I know you are soxiety perosn and worried and embarrassed about whole situation and honestly it's realstic but don't forget you have told your daughter that you are her friend too.

She is your upbringing ..she is your daughter..let her go through her ordeal ..let her follow her heart...this time too..talk to her..clear her inhibitions..support her to have confidence in her own decisions

And this you only can do to her...she gets confidence when she sees trust and pride in your eyes..that's makes her strong..your disappointment makes her sink..dont let her sink

Asha and saurav are my fav in bose family..because they talk less and listen more...they see less but observe more and that the reason they understand people most and are so calm.no wonder sona has got this quality form her mother and high esteem form her father.

I am so glad that first thing dev remembered was sona and consequences of his acts in her engagement.

I am glad he was feeling guilty of spoiling her engagement and being cause of halting her new journey.

Makers have been showing dev's redemption all along whole process.

Mamaji words were so bang on...and Vicky too said on things spot on...Mandir nahi hai ab ya bhagwan se vishwas uth gaya..

I know where this mess is getting us ...role reversal is on cards..

Sona as dev ..and baba as issue

Lets see how they play out..

I am hoping they don't drag it because I would be bored and it's enough of already available mess..needs to clear it first..thank God issue aunty has started clearing..

I feel personally that it should get over asap because it would look OTT if it gets dragged or overboard with bijoy drama and sona giving attitude specially aftef whatever happened at Dev house last night

Originally posted by: sona_naksh

such an aptly written post
expectstions are d root cause of all heartbreaks

sona expected dev to figjt for her
dev expected sona to wait w/o even mentioning
ishwari expected dev to forget sona as if she dint exist
bijoy expected sona to move on at rocket speef

n d list goes on

Originally posted by: dsr11

Yes, a lot of kids have this fear of disappointing their parents and not living up to their expectations. Both Dev and Sona faltered because of those expectations. But there is a basic difference in Eeshwari and Bijoy's expectations. Bijoy wants his daughter to be happy and he is angry on Sona only because she jeopardized her own life for the sake of a weak man who cannot take a stand for his daughter. His concern is mainly Sona whereas Eeshwari's concern is herself and her own position in Dev's life.