Dev : A Failed product of an Ignorant Mother..

Ishwari has invested her whole life on Dev, his education, his upbringing etc etc. Not even going to the argument how mean it is to ignore the girl-children for a boy-child, but let's just take Dev to see how much Ishwari has become successful on her ONLY venture of life..

Honestly, both Dev and Ishwari think that Dev has become lot educated and established businessman etc etc, but life is much beyond money and materials.. Dev's behavior to ANY crucial situation makes him an uneducated and uncultured person..

Let's take example of Ranveer.. Any person with a peanut-size of brain would understand how offending it is to offer a flat to a young earning guy.. Dev couldn't see that ?! He reacted to that situation like a total irrational and insensitive person and upset so many people..

Let's take the example of Dev wanting a doctor for his mother.. Doesn't matter if it's caring or romantic, but to get someone fired from her job, creating a situation where she gets no other job, and compelling her to accept his offer - If you think from a neutral POV, it's a VILLAINOUS thing to do to someone.. Only people emerged in deep layers of Power would not see how wrong it is 😕 Even though I happened to love Devakshi, I still can't accept him playing with people's lives for whatever reason..

Let's take the example of Neha's not wanting to wear the lehenga from her in-laws.. Wow Dev was EverReady to get a new costly lehenga for Neha.. Had he reacted like a sane guy, he wouldn't have given in to his sister's demand.. But no, he HAD to make the bad decision..

Let's take the examples of Niki's party with friends.. Or Sona's breaking phone incident.. Or Ishwari's health being unwell and firing Sona - All his reactions are outrageous and OTT.. And everytime he ends up saying sorry.. How many times this guy has to say sorry to others ?

Sorry to say, but Dev's decisions/reactions in all crucial points don't reflect his social, moral or civic education from any angle.. He is quite insensitive to the need/logic/integrity of other people and does not hesitate to use his power and money to get his job done for his selfish reasons or can resort to physical violence (throwing things ARE indeed one kind of indirect physical violence).. Just falling in love doesn't make anyone a better person.. This guy has a LOT to improve to match upto Sona's perseverance, understanding and quality as a human being.. 😊

And as we can now very well see from where Dev got all his traits from.. Ishwari has focused only making him eligible to earn enough money.. But had she provided him some other civic qualities, he won't be facing so much of difficulties to handle all life-situations.. I don't really blame Dev for becoming what he is today.. We all know the story of the frog who was stuck in a well and used to think that this was the whole perfect world unless someone showed it the right path.. Ishwari has successfully kept Dev in that well where his ONLY responsibility was to earn money for the family and act as the provider.. Had Ishwari focused on Dev's LIFE, had she taught him the basic life-lessons, had she been concerned as how she raises her son as an independent person who can make successful decisions in future and can have humanly qualities, we would have had a different Dev who learns to balance Business and Family, not a Dev who has to take Sleeping Pills at late 20's and has no friends to share his thought-processes.. Ishwari has ONLY encouraged Dev in getting things done.. Had she taken a little interest on HOW Dev gets his things done, she would know what she has raised her son into..

Dev is a REAL example of direct upbringing by an extremely selfish parent.. And no, it's not right to blame Dev today for what Ishwari has grown him into..

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From my real life, I can state an example of an extreme selfish couple who didn't let their son go out of their home and ruined a bright career of him JUST because he can stay close to them.. Today his cousins are all successful and globally placed.. But the guy has gone into depression more so after getting married to a girl and getting stuck into his village cuz of his parents.. Today few things he does is really questionable, but no one can blame the guy for what he has become today..

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Moral of the story - Yes such parents exist, and their parenting is what results in such horrible products..

My two cents 😊

Originally posted by: gemini54

Stupendous post👏

A man's character is defined by how he behaves in a critical situation.. A person is judged based on his reaction and not his action.. How a person reacts to a situation is what reflects his background, education, behavior, integrity, sensitivity and modesty.. 👏

The above line says it all people are trying to justify Dev by saying he is impulsive etc...I am all for romanticism of flawed individuals but when the character is flawed how can you justify it. I agree it was a critical situation he almost lost his mother I would have rooted for them if he told Sona politely or emotionally that he just needed to be alone I am sure Sona as understanding as she is would have given him that time and if he still felt seperqtion is the only way atleast it should have been respectful..in this case he has sullied their love with his actions or should I say crude actions ...so not done in my book..I may have strong opinions on this because i have grown sons who I hope will be sensitive if at all God forbid the time comes to make a choice.

@ Bold - Trust me, if you find Ishwari and Dev wrong, you're definitely going the right way in upbringing of your sons 😊 Ishwari and Dev are REAL examples of - 1001 ways of how parentings should NOT be done 😆

Yes, I am also in for romanticism of flawed characters.. But there are some characteristics lacking which can shake the very foundation of your relationship.. And Dev lacks THOSE important ones.. To put it in simple words - Dev is not worth of Sona yet.. Sona as a human being is far far above Dev.. And I don't blame Dev here as my topic goes .. If you remember the episode where Ishwari comes to know that Dev waited for 3 hrs for Sona, Ishwari's taunt to Sona was - Dev is damn important person and you shouldn't have made him wait so long 😕 'Bade bade log uske baaton se uthte baithte hai' so he can't do ANYTHING wrong and he is very important, so respect him 👏.. She reminds me of some rich powerful politician's wife who doesn't have the capability to see things objectively and always holds others responsible for any bad things happened to their sons and encourages her children in all wrong deeds, someone who thrashes any 3rd person who points finger at her son.. Ishwari is very similar to them.. Interestingly it reminds me of the movie Khalnayak which had a very powerful message that what this type of blind love can do to a kid.. Luckily, Dev has turned out to be a good human being and didn't fall in the traps of any bad person.. Thanks to the real God 😆

Dev's decisions/reactions in all crucial points don't reflect his social, moral or civic education from any angle.. He is quite insensitive to the need/logic/integrity of other people and does not hesitate to use his power and money to get his job done for his selfish reasons or can resort to physical violence (throwing things ARE indeed one kind of indirect physical violence).. Just falling in love doesn't make anyone a better person.. This guy has a LOT to improve to match upto Sona's perseverance, understanding and quality as a human being.. 👍🏼👏