It's all Dev's fault! - Page 2

Originally posted by: randomramblings

Dev is always and will always be a mamma's boy. To him , his and his mother's happiness is the same. Even during NATASHA's time when he was constantly looking up to his mother for guidance, she always told him that she will standby by him in whatever he decides and her happiness lies in his happiness.

Today he is extremely happy that he found his soulmate in Sona and like any other boy who never asked anything for himself, he is skeptical in telling his mother that he wants sona and dreams of living his life with her. In a way he was not yet prepared to break this news to his mother,when he was forced to admit his love to Eshwari due to her actions. once done with it, as he always believed that she will support him in all his decisions, he firmly believes that his mother is genuinely happy for him.

Like he said, Eshwari always treated Sona like one of her own daughters, but the fact that is unknown to him is : Eshwari can never accept anyone for her son because of her own insecurities.

Like Neha pointed out, the more he likes sona, the more the mother will be against her.

If we carefully look at the suicide promo, its neither Dev nor Sona about whom Eshwari was thinking about. She was pondering about her own self... her emotions and her behaviour. She is very well aware of the fact that Dev is searching for happiness on her face whereas she is not happy from within. she is in state of emotional turmoil and for once, Dev is unable to comprehend it. Dev feels he knows his mother but the person with real emotional bonding with the mother is Neha and not Dev. Neha knows her mother like the back of her palm as depicted too often and she is vocal about Eshwari's shortcomings.

the suicide attempt will serve as litmus test for both Dev and Eshwari to do a reality check on their bonding

I cannot say that it is his fault alone. But he has contributed a lot for this chaotic situation and his mother' possessive psychotic behaviour. Has he ever thought at least once about his sisters when his mother was biasedly loving him?. He allowed everything .He did nt care when sisters say it out openly many occations. He was happy and even feeling proud. He did nt understand the consequences - the pain that his sisters esp neha had gone through. He was happy that other sisters just depend on neha not on mother the one who was/is declared to be only for him.

😆 It is funny how we want to find someone to blame for everything that goes wrong, isn't it? Honestly, I am not sure I completely agree that it is any 1 person's fault in this case.

How is this his fault ? How the heck is a boy supposed to know that his mom is so completely out of whack that she commits suicide at the thought of him loving someone ?

If it was AFTER marriage with everyday khit-pitt b/w sona and his mom and him always taking his sona's side then i would have understood her insecurity

Which mom is so freaking insecure of the idea that her son actually is a normal man who has the capacity of loving someone else other than her?

And as for not telling his mom - she was behaving as if he secretly got married and had 3 children. Their love story just started. People take time to tell their parents that they are involved with someone. You don't go and give every day-by-day account to mummy --> today i saw a girl, today i felt something in my heart, today i hugged her, today i felt it was more than a passing attraction etc etc. Does she want his everyday itinerary of his feelings?

Sona's father said it best - even though her family is so understanding, she also took time to tell them. People need their space too.

btw, she is not uncomfortable with sona as such. She has never once thought - is this girl good for my son, will she fit in this family, does she genuinely love my son? No. Not at all. She is uncomfortable with the idea of ANY girl who dev loves. For a mother so devoted, she did not once notice how happy Dev is because of sona. That he has someone to share his burden and worries. Her only concern is that His life should revolve around her only.

She is a 50 year old adult. Mother of 4 children. Can she stop behaving like Dev's jealous ex girlfriend. Its frankly creepy.

It's not suicide she is very tensed and depressed so to release stress she ate so many sleeping pills by mistake