Originally posted by: pkbdas61
Okay, i know that there are so many lovely ladies out there who love Dev.. and who may also empathize with him given his circumstances and his love for his mom. However, as a man, i am not just not able to relate to what i am seeing of Dev. I mean with all the news of break up, et al.. I do not mean any offense to anyone but since this serial KRPKAB has become a part of my daily life.. especially during my long and lonely travels.
I am just normal man, who met a woman many years ago, courted her for 4 long years before getting married to her. I loved my parents and they were very possessive of me and my choices. When i broke the news of my girl friend to my parents, i met with such intense resistance. Instead of attacking me, they attacked the girl that i love. They spared no effort to ruin her character, her reputation, her family... all this behind my back.. As soon as i came to know of it, i did not even for a moment hesitate to back the girl fully. I walked out of my home, with just a suitcase in my hand, moved to another city and got married to the girl i loved. it has been 34 years since... a long, long time.. but the memories of those rough events still remain in mind. When i look back i feel happy that i did the right thing.
therefore, i cannot, even for a moment, empathize with this character Dev, seeing how he went overboard to express his love for Sona.. She loves him equally, if not more, but is more subdued and practical in her expressions. Dev made promises to himself, to Sona, and was more vocal about his affections for her, inspite of his mother. A real man lives up to his commitments, no matter what the price he has to pay. A real man, does not make false commitments, especially when it comes to matters of honor and love. Finding it extremely difficult to even understand this guy Dev.
he can afford to break up with his girl friend just because he is not married yet? what about the commitments made to himself and to Sona? What if he was married to Sona and then discovered that his mother did not approve? would he divorce her then? Can he split up with her just because he finds Sona a soft target? On the contrary, the softer the target, the stronger should be the man's resolve and more protective should he be.
He is a business magnet and deals with a lot of global people. As one of the leading business leaders (as his face is published in so many magazines) his main job is to communicate. Given this fact, I am finding it extremely hard to understand as to why Dev is not able to talk to his mother on matters close to his heart, to tell her that he loves her and more importantly Sona loves her like her own. He has seen Sona call her Maa so many times. All it takes is a few moments of conversation. Why should be be scared to talk about it.. the guy literally pisses in his pants at the sight of his mother and the prospect of talking of his love (sorry for the use of the phrase).
Finally, a real man, never gives in to threats. Even if it is a matter of life and death and when it comes to one's honor and word (looks like Dev needs to see the movie - an officer and a gentleman!). So if your mother attempts to commit suicide, you fall back on your word? you won't even try to talk to her?
Sorry wonderful ladies out there. no offense meant to anyone.. But Dev is not a real man and certainly not one on whom a girl should rely and trust or ever fall in love with. Only pain awaits that girl. He is not a man of his word.
