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All this reminds me of a line said by the show's director during the launch of the show.. "Dev k liye Ishwari hi Ishwar hai aur Sonakshi k liye uska pyaar Ishwar ban jata hai"
If I could pick up that one line that aptly reasons the actions of the three main characters in the serial, I guess it would be the above line in bold. When we place a human on the pedestal and worship the person, we deny them of the very basic human trait of erring. We are fallible beings who have the good and the bad, the right and the wrong engaged in a perpetual fight, each overpowering the other at different times. To err is to be human, to forgive the divine they say. But what happens when a human is worshiped as God? They become the epitome of perfection for us. And perfection is death, there is nothing beyond that. But to be alive is to constantly acknowledge the dichotomy that exists within us and in the world around. And this is precisely what Dev fails to do when it comes to Ishwari. Even for the bitter childhood that Neha had to go through, we see Dev empathising with his mother for it was the circumstances that made her take the hard decision of choosing Dev over Neha. But there is a difference in being empathetic knowing that the other person has erred ( because of the circumstances or whatever may it be) and not even wanting to remotely acknowledge the faulty side that each of us has got. I guess getting rid of this tinted lens with which Dev worships his mother would/should be the way to the character development of Dev. As far as Dev not being able to share the secret regarding his relationship with Sonakshi, I guess the scene was very realistic since we all tend to have a cold-feet when it is about letting our parents know of the choices that very important to us. "What if it's a no". We do not wish to even think about it, let alone want to experience it. One of the members has rightly pointed out how Dev has nothing to say every time Radharani bad mouths Sonakshi. Here again the feelings of his mother take more importance over rightfully asking someone to respect the other person. And why should Sonakshi be expected to be the matured one to understand everything? Isn't Ishwari matured enough to to stop someone from belittling other individual? Well, Dev fails to take a stand everytime Ishwari' feelings are at stake. How would the equation change when it's Ishwari on one side and Sonakshi on the other? Nothing much unless Dev brings down Ishwari from the pedestal and understands the human qualities in her.
Sonakshi has often surprised me with the kind of very rare emotional maturity that she has displayed on various occasions. But there have been equally good number of situations where I have cringed at her behaviour. The scene that immediately comes to my mind is the one where Radhrani grabs her phone and forcible makes Sonakshi attend the call. How difficult is it to guard your privacy and take a stand when it's about your personal space? I have always seen Sonakshi as someone very submissive in the presence of elders, may it be Ishwari or Radharani or anyone else. But there is a world of difference in being respectful of the elderly and in knowing when to safeguard your own self-respect. Even in of the scenes when Ishwari tries to apologise to Sonakshi the day after throwing away the plate of food, we see Sonakshi stopping her from the same. Why was that? An apology from an individual who has erred doesn't make anyone bigger/smaller. Vocalising an apology is equally important for the both the individuals concerned and the relationship as a whole. Regarding Sonakshi not disclosing her relationship to her parents, I found that totally apt since it's first important for Dev' family to be fine with their relationship. I guess this somewhere stems from the confidence that Sonakshi has over her own family.
Ishwari - The character that has been called quite unrealistic lately. The world is quite big and we humans are quite varied emotionally and intellectually to state that there can be absolutely no one as Ishwari. The kind of insecurity, possessiveness and fear that Ishwari feels is quite common. We all experience it to different amounts at different times in our own lives. Personally even any extreme action of Ishwari wouldn't surprise me since obsessive love often goes out of hand, no matter how hard one tries to silence the insecurities within.
Sonakshi has often surprised me with the kind of very rare emotional maturity that she has displayed on various occasions. But there have been equally good number of situations where I have cringed at her behaviour. The scene that immediately comes to my mind is the one where Radhrani grabs her phone and forcible makes Sonakshi attend the call. How difficult is it to guard your privacy and take a stand when it's about your personal space? I have always seen Sonakshi as someone very submissive in the presence of elders, may it be Ishwari or Radharani or anyone else. But there is a world of difference in being respectful of the elderly and in knowing when to safeguard your own self-respect. Even in of the scenes when Ishwari tries to apologise to Sonakshi the day after throwing away the plate of food, we see Sonakshi stopping her from the same. Why was that? An apology from an individual who has erred doesn't make anyone bigger/smaller. Vocalising an apology is equally important for the both the individuals concerned and the relationship as a whole. Regarding Sonakshi not disclosing her relationship to her parents, I found that totally apt since it's first important for Dev' family to be fine with their relationship. I guess this somewhere stems from the confidence that Sonakshi has over her own family.
Ishwari - The character that has been called quite unrealistic lately. The world is quite big and we humans are quite varied emotionally and intellectually to state that there can be absolutely no one as Ishwari. The kind of insecurity, possessiveness and fear that Ishwari feels is quite common. We all experience it to different amounts at different times in our own lives. Personally even any extreme action of Ishwari wouldn't surprise me since obsessive love often goes out of hand, no matter how hard one tries to silence the insecurities within.
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