Hey everyone,
Yes I am still alive. Sorry for disappearing. I just umm... Well I guess what the new VM and the multiple write-ups, I needed a bit of a break from the show. I'm in a pretty cheery mood right now though.. Just finished listening to Erica's interview on Drivetime with Raj and our girl is such a sweetheart! š¤ BTW I hope none of you think that my name is pronounced as 'Mayhem'. š¤£ Raj is the second person who has done that in an interview/segment. š Okay, back to the show... this one is for Aishwarya and Sharmi. I am not entirely sure if I can make you guys feel better about the current track but I'll try. š¤
Lets do a quick recap. The highlight of last week was Dev finally sitting in a puja after a good 20 years and the fact that it was Sona who managed to convince him has pretty much turned Ishwari's life upside down. I loved this line "Samay nahi, main nahi... koi nahi, woh ladki, kuch din pehle ayi woh ladki tera vishwaas lauta gai?" If you place this thought next to Ishwari saying "Jitna vishwaas mujhe bhagwaan pe hai, usse kai zyada vishwaas iss baat pe hai ke Dev puja mein nai bethe ga." Then you should realize that Sona really did achieve the impossible.
Dev has not started to believe in God. In no way has Sona changed his stand over religion. What Sona has done infact, is help Dev let go of his anger and his resentment. Not entirely ofcourse, but he's taken the first steps and that, in terms of character development, is very crucial. All these years Dev has clung to his anger, his resentment or his zidd as he says. It's what propelled him into working so hard and becoming as successful as he is today. It served Dev very well in a way as it helped him achieve what he wanted, helped him become what he needed to be for his family. But that time, that period of hardship is over now and Dev needs to move on. I remember this was mentioned in one of the earlier episodes how the pain, the hardship Dev saw has become a part of him now. I think he said something along the lines of "Jab zakhm puraane hojaate hai, tou woh dost ban jaate hai." It reminds me of a scene from a show I followed. One of the characters there talked about how heartbreak and pain is made out to be poetic and beautiful but it's not. It's really just garbage and you need to throw it out. All these years Dev has let his pain have power over him. Dev needs to realize his family is not in that place anymore. No, their world is not perfect but have you noticed how Dev is so fixated with the past that he fails to realize that he and his family have not only overcome those troubles but now have a whole different set of problems waiting to be dealt with? This is why Dev fails to understand Neha and why he equates everything with a lack of money. It's what he grew up with afterall. I'm glad that Sona made him see everything a little differently. Yes, God has been unkind to them, immensely so, but it's time to move on. Him desperately clinging to his grudge won't change the past but if he were to sit in the puja, it would make his mother so happy. It's really quite simple that way and I was happy with how they treated the issue.
Not for Ishwari ofcourse *sigh* It's kind of ironic how Ishwari completely ignored the second part of what she heard, the part about her own happiness. Like Dev, Ishwari also desperately clings to the past but in a different way. She clings to the child that Dev was, the child who was so crazily attached to his Mother. Yes Dev is still completely devoted to his Mother but his world and his needs have grown beyond Ishwari now. It happens but it's still a little sad. Children grow up, they experience new things, they meet new people, their minds broaden... change is inevitable that way. And not just parents, even if you become friends with someone who is, say 8 to 10 years older to you, then your friendship tends to change. You're still evolving and finding yourself whereas they have already crossed that bridge. The same is happening with Dev & Ishwari. You know the thing is, if Ishwari is petulant and possessive of Dev it's also because Dev not only indulged her but he was also equally possessive and equally attached to her. When you think about it that way, then you should be able to understand why it's so difficult for Ishwari to be suddenly faced with all these changes. Ishwari feels she is the most important person in her son's life because she was, because Dev declared her so. Like I have said in my previous posts, they have yet to confront all that which makes their relationship and themselves, less than perfect in each other's eyes so Ishwari fails to comprehend just WHY her son would a.) hide his relationship from Sona and b.) give Sona's opinions/advice priority over everything else. Ishwari has no idea that Sona might have come to know her son in a way that Ishwari never managed to in all these years.
Anyway I see the whole "Dev should have been upfront about his relationship much sooner and shared it with Ishwari" taking more firm root. It will be interesting to see how much Ishwari hides behind this rather than facing the real problem here - That she is simply not prepared for this change even if she were informed about it from the very first day. Smh. Atleast Dev would have been spared some guilt. A little self-examination from Ishwari's end wouldn't hurt either. Why is it that her son was afraid to be honest about this relationship?
Moving on, I'm not sure if I'm right but Dev opening up a new ward for less privileged people who can't afford treatment for their kids seemed like a beautiful conclusion to everything that I discussed earlier about Dev letting go of his personal resentments and grudges. Yes his past cannot change but with all that he has now, he can change other lives for the better can't he?
Neha's arc continues to be beautiful. I loved how, last week, she acknowledged Ranveer's and Dev's apprehensions regarding their living situation and simply asked for Ranveer to have some faith in her too. That was a beautiful scene! Loved what they showed today too. How far has she come since the beginning of the show where her primary demands for marriage were a separate house and no children? :)
My heart goes out to Sona. How I wish Ishwari would stop punishing her. All she tried to do was give Ishwari what she wanted. It's kind of interesting how in her head, Sona really has assumed a sense of belonging and right over Ishwari and this family. The way she was direct with Ishwari and said, "Aap mujhe nahi bataaye gi?" Even Ishwari was a little taken aback there. In a way it makes sense, if Ishwari can blast her off and exhibit her anger so openly then why not share her troubles too? Nevertheless, go a little slow Sona. You might have come to love and respect Ishwari as your Mother but she is yet to get there. Especially right now, you'll only get hurt. As Sam said in her reply to my last post, Ishwari and Sona are now basically looping back to the beginning of their relationship, just like Ishwari was resistant to all the changes Sona brought about in terms of her diet and health, the same is going to happen with respect to Dev. (Well something like that, Sam put it far more eloquently. š)
Oh and one last thing, Dev agreeing with Sona that they should tell everyone about their relationship soon... I think it went back to Ishwari firmly declaring Sona as an outsider and not a part of the family. I think it pinched Dev to hear his Mother talk about Sona that way. He's scared but he also wants Sona to be accepted and loved as a part of the family. She has been such a beautiful influence on his life... When someone becomes that important to you then you want the world to know just how special they are so he's naturally protective of her that way.
The new segments don't exactly look encouraging; I hope the big revelation happens soon. Ishwari was about as upfront as she could be today yet Dev openly avoided the question. That cynical smile on her face.. Deeevvv!
Anyway, I'll end it now. I hope I was able to cover everything. Thank you for always reading my write-ups and sharing your insights. I'll try and be more active. Oh and we made number 1 one again. So cool! š
Signing out now! :)
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