Behadd...
Yaani hadd se zyada...
In the words of Fawad Khan in his telefilm Behadd, he explains it this way - Koi bhi cheez hadd se zyada buri hi hoti hai, phir chaahe wo mohabbat hi kyu na ho... Apni mumma se bhi nahi... Unhe unki zindagi jeene ka pura haqq hai. Hum unhe rok nahi sakte...
In case of Ishwari, it goes the other way around... Wo apne Bete se "Behadd" pyaar karti hain... And unhe uske repercussions pata nahi hai... Unka ye Behadd pyaar kab obsession banta jaayega, unfortunately unhe iski khabar bhi nahi hai...
The sad part of the story is, Ki ismein unki ghalati nahi hai... Dev has spent all of his life earning and studying with his mother around... Don't take my words wrong, but he had become almost a partner to Ishwari ji for about twenty years... She has got so used to his presence in her life, that it is almost impossible for her to let go her one companion...
The natural part is, that Dev is growing into a proper adult man, just the right way. He, though had avoided for long, but needs and wants a life partner, a spouse, his woman, the one on whom he can lay beside and unload his burden and baggage that he shares with none, and set himself free... He needs a wife... He needs his mother, true; but he needs a wife as well...
What Ishwari ji is having are withdrawal symptoms... She is a paranoid mother, obsessed with the thought that nobody but her can take care and love Dev. She just can't take the fact in that her son is in love or interest with someone else. Just like a weaning mother, she gets very upset with the thought that now her child needs her body no more for his food, he can do it with himself now... They just can't let go...
Ishwari ji is just lacking the courage to let go. And that is the only reason why Dev sometime suffers, and so does her daughters... Neha had said bitter, but absolutely true - Jab unhone apne aur apne Bete ke beech apni betiyo Ko nahi aane diya, toh kisi aur ki beti Ko kaise aane dengi... TRUE!
I won't say she is an evil, or a bad mother,; she is just unaware of what she is doing... She really needs to get the shock once she sees how sad her son is without the girl he loves. She has to stop giving her pallu to her son...
She will do it once she learns a hard way that nothing but letting go is better... She would be a lovable mother...
PS: I am writing a post marriage based OS on this very topic... Hope it justifies the same...