I am more of a silent member in the forum.. but have been thinking lately from Heer's perspective and wanted to put this out here....
When you see it from Heer's point of view... she is right... her fear is that once her daughter gets to know her dad she will want to go with him... and this will bring her face to face constantly with the man who she was so in love with but can't be with because of the betrayal...I think the serial is realistic in that sense.. Heer does not have anyone except for her daughter and so she is terrified that she will lose her as well...
I agree with her (Heer) that the more you love someone the deeper the hurt is when they lets you down.. This I know from personal experience also...
I am not saying that she should hold onto the grudge forever..but that it will take her a lot of time and is very very difficult to trust the person again..
Love to hear your thoughts on this...
Kay