Challenges in a Marriage of the Type of DV and Saachi

I am really not liking what i see. So, i am now going to share some of my experiences that i faced many years ago. I hope the makers of JLZ read these and take some inspiration. If they are running out of ideas, these are for free.

I am 7 years younger than my wife - Just like DV. I got married when when i was around 23. My wife was 30. I was from an affluent family and my wife was from a much poorer background. I was from a family of 4 brothers,with no sisters. My father was a lot like Yash Goel. My father, and some of my relatives, did their best to break the relationship.. . including indulging in slander against the lady. I never had peace of mind.. i used to get calls at work, at home warning me against this relationship and how unhappy i will be. I had faith in my lady and no matter what, the more they said things, the more intense my resolve became. Just like DV ( except for the drinking part). I got married against the wishes of my whole family - just like DV ( at least DV had his mom at his side). At my marriage i was the only one and it looked so odd that there were close to 150+ relatives of the girl but just the groom. I had 3 of my best friends from college ( just like Dilz) and no one else.

After marriage, i knew fully well what the challenges would be that my wife would face, vis-a-vis my family. My relatives, not my parents or brothers, would come and meet me to "evaluate" how our relationship was progressing. It seems my dad had given us a few months before which we would break up. Just like Yash Goel.

When these relatives came, i used to ensure that they would meet my wife in my presence and never in my absence. I did not want my relatives to say something that my lady would feel bad about. It is an absolute must that there must be an element of protection.

I never ever made my lady feel that she was from a poorer background... what i had was hers and what she had was hers too! On her part, she gave me her complete love, affection, loyalties and the perfect home maker.. i could not ask for more. I used to stay in a township and amidst a lot of single people.

My wife made my home the most sought after in the whole township. Our doors were open to all and my colleagues used to support both of us completely, Of course, they never knew the truth about our ages, though some of them may have suspected, nor ever asked. I respected them for the space they gave us in this aspect.

I used to take that extra care of all my in-laws... mother-in-law, father-in-law, sisters-in law, brothers-in law... they used to be shy as they knew that i was from a very affluent family. I spent that extra effort to make them at ease. All i had at that point in time was my wife's relatives and they meant a lot to me, probably the world..

After many a year, when i got to see my parents, i could see the bitterness still lingering in their hearts... each visit of mine, and it was just a few, probably once in 2 months, used to land up in a fight. Reason, my parents and brothers used to say something about my wife that i never liked. From the lamb, i used to turn into the lion... so much that they were all amazed at the transition. Over time, they probably realized what they were up against. It was the power of ONE. What things love can make one do... really.

My wife started to work after a few years... after our first child. Again, my dad tried to ruin her reputation at her work place, but could not succeed. How he managed to know where she worked, is anyone's guess. Here again, i took my dad head on... there were times when it appeared as he and i were complete strangers. Worse was to follow. Over time, my mom became more aggressive and my dad more subdued. Now i had to take on my mom - again head on. Boy and did i do it!! When i look back i feel so damn wretched at the words that i used against my own mom and dad... i do not agree with some of my actions today, but then it was warranted for that hour.

Over a long span of time, when all the dust had settled, i did ask forgiveness from both my parents for the words used, my actions that must have caused them hurt... but i was clear. For me, my wife came first. Always.

The sum and substance to the makers of the show and the actors.. if someone is truly in love, nothing else will matter. Your wife comes first, your husband comes first. I like this saying ... "for this reason shall a man leave his mother and father and be joined to his wife and the two shall be one flesh...... Therefore, what GOD has brought together, let no man put asunder". It was always my inspiration and guiding light in my fight for love.

My advice to the makers of JLZ.. no half measures... go the full hog.. if the topic is love, let it be love... where there is love, there is life...

I want DV and Saachi to fight for each other like there is no tomorrow. This is my heart's desire.

well I respect ur pov bt then its a fictitious show where the things can be moulded as per the tracks. We all have diff set of experiences for the similar kind of situations. here also the CVs r trying to show the things from diff angle...n u can't expect this to be the exacpt replica of your own story jus bcz u r 7yrs younger from ur wife. The forum has 2-3members who gt married to a younger boy bt if everyone start relating to their own experiences; then you will never be satisfied.

Thank you for sharing your experiences with us Prabhas Ji. I am glad the familial issues have simmered down now, and all has harmonised. Perseverance and strength in resolution always pays off 😊 and you are a good example of that. May your love never alter. Like you say at the end, I too want Saachi and DV to fight all obstacles as one... SaaRuv are one and their oneness is the anchor, the life and the pride of the show and this must be highlighted and presented in every episode of JLZ now whilst the villains go about their business.

Originally posted by: naneta

well I respect ur pov bt then its a fictitious show where the things can be moulded as per the tracks. We all have diff set of experiences for the similar kind of situations. here also the CVs r trying to show the things from diff angle...n u can't expect this to be the exacpt replica of your own story jus bcz u r 7yrs younger from ur wife. The forum has 2-3members who gt married to a younger boy bt if everyone start relating to their own experiences; then you will never be satisfied.

As for me, Fictitious shows need to be sensible. No one is expecting it to reflect any one person's experience. Sorry but that is not the perspective i have or want.

i do not like what i see, not one bit. I find it absolutely ridiculous and far-fetched. Also, i do not want to live off crumbs, one scene here, one scene there and whet my appetite and be satisfied. There can be differences being shown in the serial but it has to be shown the sensible way. Even a track, if we were to call it one, has to have direction.; I do not see that either.

I also think that each one is free to express what he or she wants on this forum. If you like the narrative and the track, good for you. I do not and it is bad for me.

Since it looks like we may not converge, it is best to agree to disagree.

Originally posted by: moderator1961

As for me, Fictitious shows need to be sensible. No one is expecting it to reflect any one person's experience. Sorry but that is not the perspective i have or want.

i do not like what i see, not one bit. I find it absolutely ridiculous and far-fetched. Also, i do not want to live off crumbs, one scene here, one scene there and whet my appetite and be satisfied. There can be differences being shown in the serial but it has to be shown the sensible way. Even a track, if we were to call it one, has to have direction.; I do not see that either.

I also think that each one is free to express what he or she wants on this forum. If you like the narrative and the track, good for you. I do not and it is bad for me.

Since it looks like we may not converge, it is best to agree to disagree.

Yes agree...we all have the right to share wat we feel for a paeticular thing.

N for me; the story is going strong...at the end of d day; we want entertainment...I have no prob how the CVs presenting the story as long as I'm being entertained. I m liking the current track. Moreover I'm really not interested in wasting my time to prove my pov right..or forcing my POV on others. Also they hv to entertain d large pool of viewers...n nt jus a particular set of ppl. If majority is liking this track then they will continue n vice versa.
N yes We all have individual tastes...n this is very much natural. Its abt one's likes or dislikes. that's it.

@TM
nice post n tfs ur experience ji.understood ur point. real life n reel life patterns will be different.even they r different patterns of portraying different soaps by different cvs n also different patterns in real life also as we all know. wat I observed is d basic format of indian soaps pattern is for drama they first buildup things to create problems r negatives n later d leads facing it with creative liberties. so same here happening I think with creative liberties first buildup of problems d leads has to face even with leads r necessary characters needed tat time for story inconsistencies r changes etc...is going now may be SD as couple facing n fighting together comes later.so now buildup part is going n hope cvs in future show along with soap elements by keeping intact d core
concept of d show.lets see wat cvs has in store for us.

Originally posted by: moderator1961

I am really not liking what i see. So, i am now going to share some of my experiences that i faced many years ago. I hope the makers of JLZ read these and take some inspiration. If they are running out of ideas, these are for free.

I am 7 years younger than my wife - Just like DV. I got married when when i was around 23. My wife was 30. I was from an affluent family and my wife was from a much poorer background. I was from a family of 4 brothers,with no sisters. My father was a lot like Yash Goel. My father, and some of my relatives, did their best to break the relationship.. . including indulging in slander against the lady. I never had peace of mind.. i used to get calls at work, at home warning me against this relationship and how unhappy i will be. I had faith in my lady and no matter what, the more they said things, the more intense my resolve became. Just like DV ( except for the drinking part). I got married against the wishes of my whole family - just like DV ( at least DV had his mom at his side). At my marriage i was the only one and it looked so odd that there were close to 150+ relatives of the girl but just the groom. I had 3 of my best friends from college ( just like Dilz) and no one else.

After marriage, i knew fully well what the challenges would be that my wife would face, vis-a-vis my family. My relatives, not my parents or brothers, would come and meet me to "evaluate" how our relationship was progressing. It seems my dad had given us a few months before which we would break up. Just like Yash Goel.

When these relatives came, i used to ensure that they would meet my wife in my presence and never in my absence. I did not want my relatives to say something that my lady would feel bad about. It is an absolute must that there must be an element of protection.

I never ever made my lady feel that she was from a poorer background... what i had was hers and what she had was hers too! On her part, she gave me her complete love, affection, loyalties and the perfect home maker.. i could not ask for more. I used to stay in a township and amidst a lot of single people.

My wife made my home the most sought after in the whole township. Our doors were open to all and my colleagues used to support both of us completely, Of course, they never knew the truth about our ages, though some of them may have suspected, nor ever asked. I respected them for the space they gave us in this aspect.

I used to take that extra care of all my in-laws... mother-in-law, father-in-law, sisters-in law, brothers-in law... they used to be shy as they knew that i was from a very affluent family. I spent that extra effort to make them at ease. All i had at that point in time was my wife's relatives and they meant a lot to me, probably the world..

After many a year, when i got to see my parents, i could see the bitterness still lingering in their hearts... each visit of mine, and it was just a few, probably once in 2 months, used to land up in a fight. Reason, my parents and brothers used to say something about my wife that i never liked. From the lamb, i used to turn into the lion... so much that they were all amazed at the transition. Over time, they probably realized what they were up against. It was the power of ONE. What things love can make one do... really.

My wife started to work after a few years... after our first child. Again, my dad tried to ruin her reputation at her work place, but could not succeed. How he managed to know where she worked, is anyone's guess. Here again, i took my dad head on... there were times when it appeared as he and i were complete strangers. Worse was to follow. Over time, my mom became more aggressive and my dad more subdued. Now i had to take on my mom - again head on. Boy and did i do it!! When i look back i feel so damn wretched at the words that i used against my own mom and dad... i do not agree with some of my actions today, but then it was warranted for that hour.

Over a long span of time, when all the dust had settled, i did ask forgiveness from both my parents for the words used, my actions that must have caused them hurt... but i was clear. For me, my wife came first. Always.

The sum and substance to the makers of the show and the actors.. if someone is truly in love, nothing else will matter. Your wife comes first, your husband comes first. I like this saying ... "for this reason shall a man leave his mother and father and be joined to his wife and the two shall be one flesh...... Therefore, what GOD has brought together, let no man put asunder". It was always my inspiration and guiding light in my fight for love.

My advice to the makers of JLZ.. no half measures... go the full hog.. if the topic is love, let it be love... where there is love, there is life...

I want DV and Saachi to fight for each other like there is no tomorrow. This is my heart's desire.

Originally posted by: moderator1961

I am really not liking what i see. So, i am now going to share some of my experiences that i faced many years ago. I hope the makers of JLZ read these and take some inspiration. If they are running out of ideas, these are for free.

I am 7 years younger than my wife - Just like DV. I got married when when i was around 23. My wife was 30. I was from an affluent family and my wife was from a much poorer background. I was from a family of 4 brothers,with no sisters. My father was a lot like Yash Goel. My father, and some of my relatives, did their best to break the relationship.. . including indulging in slander against the lady. I never had peace of mind.. i used to get calls at work, at home warning me against this relationship and how unhappy i will be. I had faith in my lady and no matter what, the more they said things, the more intense my resolve became. Just like DV ( except for the drinking part). I got married against the wishes of my whole family - just like DV ( at least DV had his mom at his side). At my marriage i was the only one and it looked so odd that there were close to 150+ relatives of the girl but just the groom. I had 3 of my best friends from college ( just like Dilz) and no one else.

After marriage, i knew fully well what the challenges would be that my wife would face, vis-a-vis my family. My relatives, not my parents or brothers, would come and meet me to "evaluate" how our relationship was progressing. It seems my dad had given us a few months before which we would break up. Just like Yash Goel.

When these relatives came, i used to ensure that they would meet my wife in my presence and never in my absence. I did not want my relatives to say something that my lady would feel bad about. It is an absolute must that there must be an element of protection.

I never ever made my lady feel that she was from a poorer background... what i had was hers and what she had was hers too! On her part, she gave me her complete love, affection, loyalties and the perfect home maker.. i could not ask for more. I used to stay in a township and amidst a lot of single people.

My wife made my home the most sought after in the whole township. Our doors were open to all and my colleagues used to support both of us completely, Of course, they never knew the truth about our ages, though some of them may have suspected, nor ever asked. I respected them for the space they gave us in this aspect.

I used to take that extra care of all my in-laws... mother-in-law, father-in-law, sisters-in law, brothers-in law... they used to be shy as they knew that i was from a very affluent family. I spent that extra effort to make them at ease. All i had at that point in time was my wife's relatives and they meant a lot to me, probably the world..

After many a year, when i got to see my parents, i could see the bitterness still lingering in their hearts... each visit of mine, and it was just a few, probably once in 2 months, used to land up in a fight. Reason, my parents and brothers used to say something about my wife that i never liked. From the lamb, i used to turn into the lion... so much that they were all amazed at the transition. Over time, they probably realized what they were up against. It was the power of ONE. What things love can make one do... really.

My wife started to work after a few years... after our first child. Again, my dad tried to ruin her reputation at her work place, but could not succeed. How he managed to know where she worked, is anyone's guess. Here again, i took my dad head on... there were times when it appeared as he and i were complete strangers. Worse was to follow. Over time, my mom became more aggressive and my dad more subdued. Now i had to take on my mom - again head on. Boy and did i do it!! When i look back i feel so damn wretched at the words that i used against my own mom and dad... i do not agree with some of my actions today, but then it was warranted for that hour.

Over a long span of time, when all the dust had settled, i did ask forgiveness from both my parents for the words used, my actions that must have caused them hurt... but i was clear. For me, my wife came first. Always.

The sum and substance to the makers of the show and the actors.. if someone is truly in love, nothing else will matter. Your wife comes first, your husband comes first. I like this saying ... "for this reason shall a man leave his mother and father and be joined to his wife and the two shall be one flesh...... Therefore, what GOD has brought together, let no man put asunder". It was always my inspiration and guiding light in my fight for love.

My advice to the makers of JLZ.. no half measures... go the full hog.. if the topic is love, let it be love... where there is love, there is life...

I want DV and Saachi to fight for each other like there is no tomorrow. This is my heart's desire.

omg..i hv a feel jlz makers hv taken ur story with more twists n turns