Playing Hard to Get!

Some women think playing hard to get is a game. Really it is not. What is the opposite of being hard to get? Easy to get.

Dhruv don't expect her to say Yes Immediately. Playing hard to get is about building romantic tension. You wouldn't want this amazing person to marry every Tom, Dick and Harry who asked her, would you?

Saachi shares a problem, she does not want you to fix it, she wants you to listen. She shares about conflicts, she does not want you to fix it. Why!!! Dhruv, she wants you to understand how she is feeling about the problem. She is disappointed, angry, sad, frustrated.

So, Dhruv, first, you need to understand why she is sharing. It is not because she needs your help with the actual problem, as yet. She wants you to understand how she feels about something that is bothering her. It is very important for you to understand her negative feelings about a problem. It's her feelings she is trying to convey and have understood, more than the problem itself

You have listen, affirm and sympathize with her feelings. You are actually helping her this way, the emotional problem toward the actual problem would be somewhat resolved. When she talks about the relationship, she is not criticizing you or attacking you. She just wants to share her feelings about things. Do not take everything personally or assume you messed up, or you never please her or do everything right in her eyes. That may not be issue at all. You need to listen to what she has to say first and then make your judgment.

Saachi a feminine spirit does not force herself on Dhruv. She does not aggressively pursue you - trying to make you be hers no matter what the cost - putting you above in her life. She does not try to make you do what she wants. She doesn't manipulate or play games. She will be friendly and show interest in you, signaling to you that you're welcome to talk with her. But she will not hunt you down. She also will not be totally silent, ignoring you as if she is not interested in you. That won't work either!

Dhruv being level headed is what you want to be now most of all; anger will just get you to do things that will push you away from your goal; level headedness will move you toward your goal. Every marriage proposal is a memory. Every marriage proposal is a family legend. Every marriage proposal has a story. A successful marriage proposal includes four elements: surprise, creation of a positive memory, being meaningful and receiving a "yes" to the marriage proposal.

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