A matter of trust

I'm repeating some of the things here that I'd written in the ED. I'd love to hear you views.

I feel that after Prachi's emotional outburst yesterday, Milind shouldn't have any doubt about what she feels for him. and judging by his reaction and the way he followed her, it looks like she's convinced him about the one thing he was always unsure about. That Neev is indeed her past and he Milind, is her everything.

Now, if we consider these things, I would think the truth about the baby can take a second place. Of course it should and will come out but my point is this. The love they both have for each other belongs to another plane altogether. They fell in love with the other's essential goodness and natures. They realised that they hold the same values and principles in life. This is what drew them together and made them forget their earlier loves. It is not only physical but truly spirtual as well. Like she said, for her it was worship.

I would have loved to have seen Milind follow Prachi all the way to that cliff and both have a passionate pow wow and fall into each others arms saying that the truth be damned and that they just can't live without each other anymore.

Considering the depth of their love and their innate knowledge of each other's natures, neither should have ever believed what they do now. Mils should never have accepted that Prachi is capable of all that he's accused her of. Neither should Prachi ever think that he's capable of shaming her and her family in public. If they do, then it's an insult to the love they have for each other and questions everthing they believe in.

As of today, neither should require any kind of physical proof of the other's innocence. I would personally respect them and the love they have for each other if they can rise above this mundane necessity and acknowledge that their marriage and being together are all that matters. The foundation of this relationship took root in the trust they placed in each other and in themselves for being able to recognise these qualities in the other. So, now, under these trying circumstances, this vishwas should be the glue that should keep them together.

If not, my fear is that the next time any issue raises its ugly head again, they will continue to ask for proof of innocence. Then, what 's the point of claiming to love till the end of time?

loved yur views and infact I was thinking if milind would not care any moer abt the truth.

the way the things were shapping, it was v much possible that he would just believe her..which did look..hs experssions during prachis monologue did say that he believed her.

Asking proof of innocence, is a must in BT, so that tradition will continue in future too whether we like it or not. I feel that maybe the truth about Ritwik may not matter to Miland anyone, I think we may well see in Tueday's episode Miland going to look for Prachi and seeing her state and recalling her declaration of love for him in court which judging by the posts I have read did move him and had a effect on Miland, it could be quite possible that MICHI will patch up.
I rather the Ritwik truth be out now in the open to Miland atleast...but oh well.

Nice post Pippaji 😊

👏As always...👏 👏 👏 Pippa..👏👏good post😃

Wow, candyfloss, there's a psychologist hidden inside you. You are right about both their insecurities.

However, I guess I'm talking about their love in idealistic, more spiritual terms. I still feel that any need for the truth now is not necessary. I feel they should realise that their love is beyond all those mundane things and that the imp thing is to remember again what made them recognise each other as soulmates.

Sure they come from vastly differnt backgrounds and experiences, specially in feeling grounded and secure in love either from parents or their previous beloveds. One had to mature before his time and the other had to mature all of a sudden.

But inspite of all this, these two unlikely individuals surmounted all these barriers and found each other.

Isn't such a relationship worth saving at all costs?Should there be any need for something like a proof of innocence to save it? Should it all finally come down to a case of Truth or Die for this relationship to survive?

If so, something intrinsically beautiful in this love would die, at least for me.

Pippa, great post dear. Was wanting to put one on this topic myself. Saved me the trouble. You've said it beautifully. Trust is the basis of strong love and if that trust is lacking the relationship is bound to flounder at the first sign of trouble. I am of the firm view that this retarded track has been thrown at us as a test of Milsi's trust. that is why it is so devoid of logic. Even Prachi's own family believe that Prachi cannot be the mother of Ritwik because they trust her not because they know that is not possible with her living under the same roof all through the pregnancy. Baba believed her because of the trust he had (though indirectly on his master). So it all boils down to trust and not belief based on evidence.

As I said earlier in another post, in any relationship it is difficult to trust someone in the beginning itslef since you do not know that person well. So I would excuse Milsi's doubts in the beginning. But after continuously witnessing her goodness and also realising that this girl never shares her feelings easily even though she keeps every one's interests in mind, he should have known that she is just not capable of deceiving at the scale he imagined.

He literally believed she sold her body and soul which I personally find hard to digest. The amount of torture this girl had undergone both physically and mentally at his hands is insurmountable. Yet she silently bore all his abuses and returned it with love and care. She must be one hell of an actress to subject herself to such torture (for nearly a year) just to smuggle in her 'lovechild'. If he even tells these things to himself at the privacy of his room he will realise how ridiculous his charges were. Yes, she was lying that was pretty obvious. But should he not tried to look beyond it to find out why?

He kept saying he trusted her. Yet, he seems to have only trusted her words. Now a person's character is made of thoughts, words and deeds. Unless you have supernatural powers you cannot always erad anothers thougthts. But do only her words count? What about her deeds, do they not count at all? When her words are at variance with her deeds should he not wonder why is this? Should he immedietaly assume the worst? Yes, there was the DNA report. But who was the one who produced it? Was is not the one who hated his wife and claimed to love him? Could she not have made a mistake and have deliberately set out to malign her? If Prachi was agreeing to it what was she trying to hide?

Yes, he is a possessive man but that does not give him the right or excuse to treat his wife in that manner.

I would like to narrate something from my own life. Ours was an arranged marriage. In the initial months of marriage my husband was acting quite possessive and jealous. Even if I get to speak with my male colleagues for long, he will have this irritated look on his face. Once I asked him did he suspect me and pat came the reply, 'Ofcourse I dont. I know you are not capable of doing anything wrong. But I get irritated that I am not getting enough of your time!' I could tell it he was telling it from his heart. But I would like to add a caveat here. I did not have a past so I guess there was nothing threatening him.

It is another matter he is not acting possessive these days. Maybe more than a dozen years of married life as made him quite complacent. I keep trying to make him jealous by telling him about all the crushes I have including the one I have for Shabbo. All he does it laugh loudly at my kiddishness.

I guess now I am really rambling. So let me stop.

What I wanted to say is yes, I would like Milsi to accept Prachi for what she is not because of some stupid proof. But at the same time the truth has to be told to him as soon as possible so that he is not caught unwares when it strikes him in public which I am more than certain it will. & amp; nbsp;

I think yesterday was an eye opener for Prachi. She finally realised she does not have Milind's trust.

In the process of protecting his family's honour, she allowed her and her family's honour to be slandered in public, and Milind did nothing to protect her.

Somewhere she thought deep within he still had faith in her, but yesterday's events in court finally proved to her that he had none. True he followed her out of the court, he was pained by her pain, but he did nothing to ease it.

I believe today Milind will learn of the truth through the tape, will repent, but her trust in his love might be dented now.

A relationship needs trust, love and respect. Prachi brought all three to the table. Milind right now has only love to give, and that is not enough for them.

Gawker, as usual very perceptive and succinctly put. Yes, Prachi had a rude awakening yesterday. I was seriously disappointed in Milsi. First he does not stop his lawyer from slandering the Shah clan along with his wife. Then he ignores the worried comments of PL and Dadi about Prachi not returning back and goes back to his room. My only hope is that so far Prachi has always forgiven her worst enemies. She needs to look beyond Milsi's immediate behaviour and give him allowance. Even after she realised he did not trust her she was still not willing to part with the whole truth. So she does have to take the blame for that.

If she decides to leave him for good after he realised the truth, she may be justified to some extent(cause the hurt is very deep) but in my own selfish interest I want both Milsi and Prachi to forgive each other and get on with their lives so that we get to see more of Michi.