Hey moms , Devika or Kaushalya!!

As this section has a no of married people and mothers ,I thought of opening this topic.Others r also invited 2 give their views😃.

I am jst confused on who is a better mother- De or Kaush?Can v call anyone of them as the epitome of moherhood?

A mother acc 2 me (What I knw , feel about my mom being loved $ cared by her ), she is ready 2 sacrifice her happiness even life 4 me. When I was small , I wondered how a mother can love her children 2 such an extent . I hve heard my mom saying that when u become mother only u can knw that feeling. So I think a mother's love is the ultimate love.My mom use to give her part of ice-cream, chocolate, piece of cake etc to me and my brother.I knw these r all small things, but I think as we grow these small and sweet gastures make us realise that our mom can sacrifice her everything 4 us.Here I found a bit of Kaushalya in my mom.( Kaush sacrifices hre happiness, her hus , her house 4 her daughter. She gave her full support 2 Kasturi and went with her 2 Benaras.A mother can only do that.

But my mom knows well in what my wellbeing lies. Some decisions taken by her will sometimes hurt me but will surely turn as my good. Her intention will be only my well being whether it will make me happy or not. . Here I found Devu in her, even though what De done was something huge and hurted Ro a lot . But I am sure De was aiming only Ro's good future coz there can b a wicked woman but no wicked mother.And she has full right 2 take decision about Ro as what he is today is due to her.And I strongly believe that she may not hve thoght that Ro loves Ka to the xtent that he can give his life 4 her ( Remember the scene on RaKa wedding night De was crying after seeing Ro shattered.That was the 1st time we saw De crying). Considering the fact that she is a person who has been betrayed in love (don't know what really happened between De-Pu that made their love a failure) ,she must hve lost belief in love and doesn't want her son 2 b in such a situation , we can't blame her.She also must hve thought about social status, Ro's carrier etc before taking decision 2 seperate RoKa.So I think this decision of hers in the beginning was somewhat justified .

But where I found De wrong was after RaKa marriage in order to create hatred between roka she put the blame of Shiv skeleton thingy , creating some false case against RaS etc on Ro.She even slapped him on that skeleton issue.

And after RoKa marriage she could hve made Ka realise that Ro didn't kill RaS and could hve tried to make their relationship work b'coz by that time she should hve got the point that Ro can't live without Ka.Instead she even gave false hopes to Ro about his child . And atlast put that blame on Ka in front of Ro. Ofourse Ka started all that thing but De as a mother should not have played with her son's feelings like that a mother can only know her child better than anyone.

And now instead of only being excited on success of Ro's concert , why can't she control him from going back to his old self ( stupid girls, drinks). It is funny that she brought Ka to Robbie's life to reform him to a new person and now see after all these dramas he is back to square 1. So is she a success as a mother?

Where I found Kaushalya wrong was when Ro left Ka, instead of letting Alka and others being so rude to Ka she could hve stand strong.She even was ready to let her marry that old man.

The thing which I couldn't tolerate was her decision to support her husband in committing suicide.How can she forget all her responsibilities as a mother? That was the time when Ka needed her the most.That scene where she is going to her daughters room and keeping some money under their pillow and going to commit suicide all happy happy took away all my respectfor her. What was she thinking ? that with that few rupee notes her daughters can lead a lavish life .Till that time I thought she possessed great inner strength. But no she became the weakest by that one step of hers.

I know this is all the creativity of our (de)creatives the great.But am free now so thought of spending some time thinking on how motherhood is depicted in this serial.

So who do u all think a mother in reality resembles more to - Devu or Kaushu?

Sorry for the long post😊

Post dedicated to all mothers 😛

Rosy

Hiya!

I'm not a mother (as I am only 15) but as a person, I think both moms are right in their perspective.

Why?

Because Devika loved Robbie with all her heart. She didn't want him to fall in love and be deceived like she supposedly was. She wanted robbie to only concentrate on his career.

But when he fell in love with Kasturi, her dreams were sorta in a way shattered. I think it was wrong of her to do all that crap to separate ro-Ka but if you think abt it in her shoes- Who would want their son who is so rich and famous to marry such a simple, middle class girl?

I think its awesome that Robbie fell in love with Kasturi, but I think Devika had greater plans for him.

As for Kaushalya , I think she is a great mom! =) She left her husband and children for Kasturi- which was sorta biased on the others. But as a mother, she has always fulfilled her duties.

But I think she could have stood up for her daughter then, and even now.

So back to your question, So who do u all think a mother in reality resembles more to - Devu or Kaushu?

I would have to say both of them do. =)

* Sorry for the long reply lol :P

--- Mimi

@ Mimi Thanx 4 responding 😊 .So both of them are good in their own way 😃 .
Rosy

Actually i dont like Kaushalya a bit because she is a mom of 3000th centuary BC... 😆 She is more like a caretaker in that home...obeying JP, suffering from Alka etc etc as if she is an employee..
and Devu..well I really think she is a mom who went mad with love for her son and money..She wanted both but her dreams got collieded and it ended up like an ...."Aviyal"{rosy kutty hope you will read it well..it is that fav dish that you just ate}
jaanu

@rosy, firstly i want to applaud your excellent depictions of both of the moms... fantastic job👏, and secondly i think your mom has done a fantastic job raising you, why you say well i can tell by your words how much you luv your mom, for my most cherished memories are with my mom too..Moms are great....my totally baised opinion...and proud of it...

okay for me i luve devika, i luv her tough exterior and soft interior. i luv the fact that she makes mistakes as a mother, for honestly raising kids doesnt come with a book, there is no right or wrong way to raise your kids. for devika does have a great relationship with alaana and robbie, as for shivani i'd say she does luv her, but devika is not only a mother she has had to be a father and a bread winner of the family as well, so i can understand why she isnt that close to ariv and shivani, i dont agree with it, for i believe a mother should luv all her kids equally but sometimes one of your kids just has that something special that you look forward to seeing that child grow and watch their talent grow...some kids are naturally gifted then others...

recently i asked my daughter what is her fav. memory and she said you mama. and i swear that had me crying buckets. for somewhere no matter how hard you try you dont know as a mom if your doing a good job... all you can do is give it your best for you only get one shot at it and pray for the best...and yep i honestly think any mother would give her life up for her kids to save them an ounce of pain and that is what devika did, she saw the bigger picture and picked the least amount of pain for robbie to endure... and in a way she was right, kasturi messed his life up... as for kaushalya i agree with gapps i dont understand her at all, if someone talked about my kids like alka does i'd rip her apart...so i pick devika as the more falliable and realistic mom...for moms make mistakes too.

regards a mom

robina

@ Janu Yes dear I got the aviyal thing 😆 . U r too much 🤣 .Now don't come in front of Robina di , otherwise she will make u 'aviyal' 4 calling Devu's dreams aviyal 😆 .But seriously I think that's what happened.
So Janukkutty u don't like both the moms 😆 .
Enikku karachil varunnu Januuu KP kasturiyil ninnum povuvano satyamayittum 😭 ?

@Robina di Actually in the morning I read KP is leaving Kasturi . And I was really mood off. Now I am like this 😃 after reading ur reply .Thank u di 4 applauding me 😳 .And yes di my mom is great. She was with me all the time when I needed her and will be too.Whenever I talk about her I become emotional.
I know u r the person who understands De the most 😆 .I always loved reading u describing Devika's character.
From the answer of ur kid I understand that u r a great mom too.Hope and pray to God that always ur kids keep u happy 😊 .

Rosy

Hey Rosy,

I loved the way you have put down all the facts in the post...

I agree both with you and Robina Di!

I'm not a mother but my mom means the world to me... I have seen my mom making those small sacrifices for me and my bro... I'm indebted to her for my life and admit that she is the strength that flows through my veins... Truly moms are the best gift that the Great Good Lord has given us.

I agree with Robina Di that mom's make mistakes too... they are also human and we can't expect them to be perfect.

I greatly respected Kaushalya and believed that this docile female will be the biggest strength of her daughter when need be... but when the need arose she chose the weakest path and added to her daughter's miseries. She insulted her own life by trying to commit suicide. One woman who can't have respect for herself and her life can never be the epitome of motherhood! Imagine if then she would have taken this decision of leaving the house with her daughter she could have saved her daughter's life. Kasturi would never had to get married to Raunak who later cheated on her so badly. From that day I lost all respect for that character.

Devika always kept the best interest of her son in front of her. Though at times parents need to see things by their children's POV too which she failed at. She did go to extremes and I didn't like her for that but then after RoKa marriage most of the times Kasturi provoked her and challenged her to act. Any mother would have reacted in similar way towards her DIL if she would have known how much her DIL wants to destroy her son's life and her son had stop seeing stuff with his own eyes. In that way Devika was quite realistic. A person who has seen bitterness all through her life would be affected by it certainly. She marroed to her love but ended up in a sore relationship, she wasn't wrong if she wanted to prevent her son from a similar fate.

Devika did make mistakes and at times drastic mistakes but stood by her son always unlike Kaushalya. So I would rather vote Devika for being a better mother.

Sonia

OMG Rosy verynice post 👏..

i agree with Robina and sonia !!!!

u know ..agger main apni mom ka example leti hoon ...so meri mom ne small nahi hum baccho ki wajah se ..bahut barde sacrifice kiye hai ...Rosy mere papa nahi hai na ...meri mom ne hi hum sabko akele barda kiya hai ...aur yee toh janti hi hai ..ki akele baccho ko sambhalna bahut mushkil hai 😭....agger dusra janam bhi loon toh bhi main apni mom jessi nahi ban sakti !!..aur devika aur kaushi ...ne toh kuch bhi nahi kiya ....lekin agger hum dekhte hai like sonia said ..kaushi ek bahut hi weak charcter hai ..jis tarah usne ek choti si baat par sucide karne ki koshish ki ...koi bhi maa iss tarah nahi karti ..balki apne bache ko sambhalne ki koshish karti hai

main yee toh nahi keh sakti main ek aachi mom hoon ...lekin main koshish karti hoon ki ek aachi mom ban saku ....main apni taraf se try karti hoon ki apne baccho ko jayada se jyada khushi do😃...

so agger main like karti hoon toh devika is best ..cos wo behsak RoKa ko alag karna chahti thi ..lekin ..wo phir bhi apne bete ko suport karti hai

Manpreet

@rosy thanks for liking my posts about devika, i thought most of the people around here think i'm a bit crazy for liking her... but i'm glad to know that my luvly friends do see that she's not all that bad..😆

@sonia 🤗 so well said, for one soo younge...i luved rosy and your povs...

@mannu tumhari mom bohut he strong lady, hain, waqui mai aasi mom to buhut kaam hotai hain duniya meain, meri taraf sei tumhari mom koi 🤗, kyun ki unh beti manu bohut he aachi mom hain aur sehali bhi...luv robzs

Originally posted by: nrasheed

@mannu tumhari mom bohut he strong lady, hain, waqui mai aasi mom to buhut kaam hotai hain duniya meain, meri taraf sei tumhari mom koi 🤗, kyun ki unh beti manu bohut he aachi mom hain aur sehali bhi...luv robzs

Oh Robina mujhe rulayegi kya 😭...arre iss duniya meh sabki mom bahut aachi hai ...haan kayi baar sochne ka nazariya alag hota hai ...Thanks 🤗🤗..par main tere se acchi nahi 😳

Manpreet