What will you do if

If you wake up in a strange place with a guy with a slight hangover and the guy tell you that You guys did it - What would be your reaction?

Our Kekta heriones tend to hand out long drawn morality bhashans. But what would a real life middle class do; if god forbid, she ends up in such a situation?

I know this is not a comfortable/fun topic to discuss but do try to reply 😊

Cheers

Anju/Diva

Edit - Note- "Doing It" is an American slang for having sex. Explanation added on Krishi's request 😉

This post is inspired by this one - https://www.indiaforums.com/forum/kasturi/746825/kasturi-sm-as-must-read. It may be closed anytime. And I really really want to know what you girls think about this.

Wat do u mean by "U guys did it" 🤣

Tell it clearly 😆

Krishi

Originally posted by: knumnum

Wat do u mean by "U guys did it" 🤣

Tell it clearly 😆

Krishi

Oh come on Krishi 😛. Updated the actual post - hopefully it is clear😉

Lolz Krishi Di tum kabhi nahin sudroge yaar!! 😆 😆

Okii back to ur question....Ahem...

First of all i wouldn't just sleep with a guy for FUN....it has to have true feelings n emotions... And then watever happens just happens.....N im sure marriage would be the next step if i really really love the guy!!

how abut u tell me ur reaction!! 😉 😉

Me - As you said, sleeping with someone just for fun isn't my thing either

Assuming that something out of a Kekta creation happened to me, my reactions would probably something in this sequence
1) Howl the roof down
2) If I hated the guy & he manipulated the whole situation - beat the crap out of him, call 911 (or however you call cops in your respective countries) & go to a hospital to get checked (& get some day-after contraceptives)

3) If I liked the guy, I really would be very confused at that point. I don't believe that one has to marry a person just coz you slept together. Why follow up a mistake with another ? I so hope my parents are not on this forum 😉 . I will try to figure out the whole thing slowly. But I would still make sure to go to a hospital for the same reasons as above.

If a typical middle class girl ends up in such a situation, then the most practical thing she wud do is

(1) cry for sometime.
(2) Scold that guy or blame him for watever happened
(3) will definitely not go to police
(4) will definitely not say to her family
(5) she might say to her best frnd
(6) She will check up with some doctor frequently until she is sure tat she is not in any trouble.

The above ones are written in general..

If its me, and assume tat i Luv him and he also luvs me,
(1) I will first be shocked to death
(2) I will talk to him and try to solve the matter like adults and go for marriage
(3) Will definitely not tell my parents but may be i ll say to my sis
(4) Marry him happily and go on for a honeymoon 😆

If Iam not in luv, then sawaal hi nahin paida hota ki i ll stay with him one whole night and tat too alone 😉 😆 ... Even if it happens tat i have to stay at someplace with my frnd then i am sure, i ll not commit such a stupid step and i ll not give in so easily... I am sure i have control over my emotions 😉 😆 as Iam an adult and not a teenager.. [No offence to teens here, just meant to say tat adults have a little bit control over their feelings than the teens 😉 ]

Krishi

I wouldn't sleep with someone just for fun either. But if that happened, I don't think I would know if I liked the guy because it's only been one night.. 😆 I wouldn't know him very well and I would just go to the hospital and get checked and whatnot then I don't think I'd call him.. or anything.. 😕 Unless there was something wrong, of course.

Yep agree with Anju and manny2rock sleepin with a guy just for heck of it isnt my cup of tea, in fact i'd say that happened i'd probably first get really really freaked out.... have an out of body expereince and then tell that guy off big time, no lecture just pure unadulterated swearing at him!!!!! 😡 my husband and i dated for a couple of years before we got married and if a guy really luves you he would never do that to you... if he really knows what you are all about, some gals dont really care either way so for them no biggy. sounds filmy but for me thats the truth...

times are changing really fast and doing it now adays isn't that big for some younge ladies, and for some its a huge thing, personally your fist time should be with the one whom you feel committed to, and i dont mean you have to be married but you should feel something more deeper then some old fashioned lust.. for it is a truly special moment in your life, choose wisely you only get on chance at it.. after that its pretty overrated..... 😉 of course this is all from a me whose been married for 8 yrs 😆 😆

@krishi really well dissected i liked how you broke it down.. good to know that you've got a sensible head on your shoulders..
regards
robina

@anju& kishu& robina 😲 😲 yee kya discuss ho raha hai 😆

mannu

hmmmmmmmm......well.........lets see-

it would have to depend on the guy and if i have known him for a long
time
and i like him or if i dont know him/too well or at all....if i knew the guy
well
i would know if he is pulling my leg or is serious (and was he too drunk to
remember much anyway?!) Anyway, either way I would

1)be toooooo shocked to react and would need to get my bearings, so i
would sit down (oblivious to the guy) and swear! (ironically i would use
the F
word a few times!)

2)Make a straight b-line for his stomoch and punch him and basically get
violent with him, with the view of hurting him where it hurts the most.

3) If by this time, it has turned out that it is not a joke, i would head to
the closest chemist and get an after-morning pill and then, if it was
someone i did not know or like, probably look to find somewhere ican
lodge a complaint (police, date rape organisations) and then lodge a
complaint (though i am very cynical about these things working)

4)If it is someone i know and like, though not romantically, I would cut all
ties with him, but I would definately not marry him just because I slept
with him while I was SO drunk....I'd need to atleast believe that i could spend the rest of my life with him to want to marry him....having 'done it' would have been a mistake, marrying him to tide over that mistake would be a greater mistake.

5)And to deal with my various emotions of guilt and shame I would head
to a church and make a confession....(well, i would definately not go to a
priest in a temple because i know he would be judgemental!)

6)when i do get married, i would come clean with my husband to be
before we get married....

And if it turned out to be a joke, I would still get that after morning pill
just to be on the safe side....having said all that, Anju I dont think I would
have ever found myself in that predicament....i'd be sober even when i if I
was drunk!!!!!
😆 😆