DOTW:Other than Robbie, Raunak & Kasturi - Page 3

Pragalbha I loved the discussion topic truly!!!

Q # 1 : There was a scene where Kasturi touched Raunak's feet. Personally, I think husband and wife are contemporaries. There should never exist a superior-inferior relationship between them. But most of the time, this is far from true. Does a wife, by touching her husband's feet lower herself? Or is she right in doing it as that is what has been happening for centuries? What do you all feel?

Indian tradition places men at a place quite higher than that of a woman... how much ever we try to go away from these notions they have a firm roots in our culture... In cities we may not see it often but in the small towns and villages these customs are still given a lot of importance!!! And we can see the evidences of this in our day to day life... like recently I read a newspaper reporting an honour killing incident in an Indian state... I was horrified... There are reports that proves female infanticide and foeticide is very much a part of the Indian interiors... Its just in the metropolitan cities we see that now a handful of educated people asking for equality... Though sad but true!!!

So I would say with so much atrocities just touching the hubby's feeta wife doesn't lowers herself... its the attitude and the inferiority complex inflicted by the society and the mindset that puts wife in a lower position... Logically if we see Indian customs says one should touch the feet of the elders... lets not forget that most of the times the wife is younger to the her man... so probably its from there the custom came up and not because the wife is inferior!!!

Following a custom is not bad whats bad is following it without questioning the same... So personally I feelt that women themselves need to understand these facts and then act upon them... Personally I would not like to do it... coz I don't know the reason behind it!!! If someone provides me with one logical explaination as of why should I touch my man's feet I'll do it!!! or otherwise I'll make him touch my feet first😉

Q # 2 : Rituals galore................All cultures have some or the other form of rituals. Hindus more so!!! For eg:-Karva-chauth was shown in this week's episode. What do you feel is the relevance of these rituals, vraths etc in today's fast-paced, racing world ? Is it a waste of time? And how are they being projected on our TV screens? Sensibly ? Insensibly? Ridiculous? or Well-portrayed?

I have seen my mom doing karvachauth for years and I kinda find it cute😳... but these rituals hold meaning only when the couple share a mutual bond of understanding and love... If these things are absent the rituals are shallow and a show off to the rest of the world... Signs of hypocrisy or the ineffectiveness to break the cultural barriers... where we do certain things only coz we have to!!! Absuing each other for 364 days and keeping 1 day karvachauth fast is a farce!!!

On TV screens they mock the rituals and traditions... kahin par bhi kissi bhi cheez ko ghussa dete hain😡... They are insensibly portrayed on TV!!!

Q # 3 : We saw Nandini's character - as a MIL- take a whacky turn this week! She now hates her once beloved DIL. Lets discuss MILs. How much of a role do they actually play in a DIL's life? And if this situation really arises in your life, where your MIL has turned very antagonistic, how will you tackle it, if you tackle it at all? Those without MILs, imagine Nandini to be your MIL.

A MIL can play a very vital role in a DIL's life... b4 marriage she's the one who is the most closet to her son as she is the mother and knows her son very well... she can help her DIL to get accustomed to the house and make her feel comfortable... At the time of crisis she can play s role of an elder person and try to sort out things... Ok this is what I feel.

Nandini to be my MIL... Pragalbha I'll see you later for making me imagine this whacko thing😡... I'm a girl who believe in giving back what I get... I would like to figure out what went wrong or to come with some reasons for my MIL's changed attitude and then act... If i see its some confusion I would like to have a long discussion and sort it out but if she turns out to be like Nandini who's just turning out to be kaan ka kaccha... then I would speak to her a manner that she'll understand and interpret well😉... Definitely will not take every insults or acquisations that she'll throw on me!!

Q # 4 : What do you think about sisters getting married into the same family, i.e sisters becoming co-sisters. For eg : 2 sisters marrying 2 brothers. Do you think they will get along well? At least better than women coming from different families? Or do you think they will even loose their love for each other as sisters.

Most of the time when two people are together all the time the charm in their relation fades away and then the samll small issues takes bitter and a larger turn... Still it depends upon individual to individual... If the co-ordination between the two sisters is well then there shouldn't be any problem!!!

Sorry for the long essays😛

Sonia

Originally posted by: pragalbha

This is the first time I posting on this kind of thread...I always stayed away from questionnaires, but this particular one seems a bit intriguing so I decided to try my hand at it..😉😳Good job Pragz..👏

Q # 1 : There was a scene where Kasturi touched Raunak's feet. Personally, I think husband and wife are contemporaries. There should never exist a superior-inferior relationship between them. But most of the time, this is far from true. Does a wife, by touching her husband's feet lower herself? Or is she right in doing it as that is what has been happening for centuries? What do you all feel?

Personally I don't consider touching the feet of the elders as a taboo...Also I don't mind husband being the head of the house and the elder of the family, because I firmly believe that 2 heads is a monster...As the head of the house he certainly deserves to be respected by one and all including me and one of the ways we show our respect, is by touching the feet of the person...Just by touching somone's feet, we are not degrading ourselves or making a statement that we are any lesser than the other person...

Q # 2 : Rituals galore................All cultures have some or the other form of rituals. Hindus more so!!! For eg:-Karva-chauth was shown in this week's episode. What do you feel is the relevance of these rituals, vraths etc in today's fast-paced, racing world ? Is it a waste of time? And how are they being projected on our TV screens? Sensibly ? Insensibly? Ridiculous? or Well-portrayed?

I am all for following the rituals...I strongly believe that they keep us connected to our culture...I think the 'TVs and movies' exaggerate these rituals a little bit, but I would prefer that anyday to not showing them at all...

Q # 3 : We saw Nandini's character - as a MIL- take a whacky turn this week! She now hates her once beloved DIL. Lets discuss MILs. How much of a role do they actually play in a DIL's life? And if this situation really arises in your life, where your MIL has turned very antagonistic, how will you tackle it, if you tackle it at all? Those without MILs, imagine Nandini to be your MIL. 😆

Haha, what a dreadful imagination...This is what we get for attempting this questionnaire, ha?😡..Nandini as my MIL..Hmm, I am person who believes that human beings cannot be handled as some cattle...To each their own..My MIL will have a DIL who understands that she needs to 'get well soon', that's all..But I would never spoil my relation with my husband for my MIL...

Q # 4 : What do you think about sisters getting married into the same family, i.e sisters becoming co-sisters. For eg : 2 sisters marrying 2 brothers. Do you think they will get along well? At least better than women coming from different families? Or do you think they will even loose their love for each other as sisters.

I think that would be a lovely thing to happen....I think this new relation would further strengthen their bond and also strengthen the bonding in the family and the brothers...

Raksha

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