DOTW:Other than Robbie, Raunak & Kasturi

HELLO EVERYONE

WELCOME TO THIS WEEK'S DOTW - THE WEEK OF SEP 24- 27

I think we all have had innumerable discussions about who is wrong, who is correct, what should be done etc. I am a little tired of them. Because all said and done, Robbie fans will always support him, Raunak fans will always support him and same applies to Kasturi fans too.

The discussion about which jodi is good/better is also a never ending one.

Yeh discussion toh hamesha hota rahega, So I thought, why not disucss something else this week?

I am going to pose questions from a few incidents that took place in this week's episodes. And I am sooooooooooo looking forward to know your views and read your answers.

I have not visited this thread for nearly 2 months but am very very glad to be back here!!! 😃. Now, the questions................

Q # 1 : There was a scene where Kasturi touched Raunak's feet. Personally, I think husband and wife are contemporaries. There should never exist a superior-inferior relationship between them. But most of the time, this is far from true. Does a wife, by touching her husband's feet lower herself? Or is she right in doing it as that is what has been happening for centuries? What do you all feel?

Q # 2 : Rituals galore................All cultures have some or the other form of rituals. Hindus more so!!! For eg:-Karva-chauth was shown in this week's episode. What do you feel is the relevance of these rituals, vraths etc in today's fast-paced, racing world ? Is it a waste of time? And how are they being projected on our TV screens? Sensibly ? Insensibly? Ridiculous? or Well-portrayed?

Q # 3 : We saw Nandini's character - as a MIL- take a whacky turn this week! She now hates her once beloved DIL. Lets discuss MILs. How much of a role do they actually play in a DIL's life? And if this situation really arises in your life, where your MIL has turned very antagonistic, how will you tackle it, if you tackle it at all? Those without MILs, imagine Nandini to be your MIL. 😆

Q # 4 : What do you think about sisters getting married into the same family, i.e sisters becoming co-sisters. For eg : 2 sisters marrying 2 brothers. Do you think they will get along well? At least better than women coming from different families? Or do you think they will even loose their love for each other as sisters.

Looking forward for your answers 😃.

Ciao

1) Personally it is a form of respect i guess and i guess if that is the case, the by all means. It is really how u look it, if the husband is making the wife do it to feel superior then by all means NO!

2) As a committed Christian i do not agree with the ritual of karva chauth, because I do not believe you have to sacrifice something in order to get good luck of whatever for ur husband, but that is my religion, and it does not believe in sacrifice except for that of Jesus Christ because he was the perfect lamb...no diss to other religions

*SPACE RESERVED FOR OTHER ANSWERS

AND I LOVE U PRAGALBHA, UR SUCH A ROBBIE FAN 😳 😆

Pragz : as usuall you have opened a great post 👏
now me too will answer the questions in multiple updates 😃

1. i tool believe in equality and how much ever we say about 50% 50% of man and woman in current world i do not think so it happens ever it will be always men being more than woman in every part 😃 . oh no that does not mean i do not feel that wife should fall on hubby's feet no show offs please if she has fallen on his feet when both of them where alone i would have gone all for it. how to you show your respect, love to your partner should always be in closed doors and need not be shown infront of everybody eyes. i do not like it. falling on feet if it is comfortable to both partner and done willing and between them, then no probs else if it is just to show the superiroty of the man then i am sorry i do not agree to it 😃 . in case of Raka as i have always mentioned there relationship is more of respect and greatefullness towards each others mahantha than love

2. oh i do like all the traditional rituals and i do like the smell of homa a lot 😃 . they do signify so many good thinks forgotten over period of time. i even now do fasting once in every month and like it 😃 .
but anything done too much is bad . and in serial i feel that they have extravaganza wedding where the persons being married love and cry for somebody else for their whole life. it looks like they are making fun of our middle class values and traditions

Hey Navneet,

Thanks! Love you too! 🤗

Shara : Thanks!

Good start, both of you!

OK, let me answer my own questions...........

Q # 1 : There was a scene where Kasturi touched Raunak's feet. Personally, I think husband and wife are contemporaries. There should never exist a superior-inferior relationship between them. But most of the time, this is far from true. Does a wife, by touching her husband's feet lower herself? Or is she right in doing it as that is what has been happening for centuries? What do you all feel?

Ans : I don't think by touching her husband's feet, she is lowering herself, but she is definitely leading to a feeling of inequality. Different men will react differently to this act. For some it makes no difference, for some it makes no sense but for some definitely leads to making them think they are superior. Sometimes a situation arises where you have to listen to your elders, follow tradition and do this but left on my own, I will never touch my husband's feet in reverence. I think I love him too much to revere him!

Q # 2 : Rituals galore................All cultures have some or the other form of rituals. Hindus more so!!! For eg:-Karva-chauth was shown in this week's episode. What do you feel is the relevance of these rituals, vraths etc in today's fast-paced, racing world ? Is it a waste of time? And how are they being projected on our TV screens? Sensibly ? Insensibly? Ridiculous? or Well-portrayed?

Ans : At least for me, rituals play a very important role even in today's world. I take time from my busy schedule to do them. I celebrate all the festivals. I fast once a week and always have an open mind towards vraths, homams etc. Find them very beneficial, spiritually!
Now, how they are displayed on TV.... they are used as crowd-pullers or ratings-raisers!!! The real essence or significance is sacrificed on the TV screen. For eg: In the Karva-Chauth episode, I don't think any of us cared about Raunak's good, we were more concerned about who Kasturi will drink water from 😆 😆 . Completely missed the whole purpose of the vrath!

Q # 3 : We saw Nandini's character - as a MIL- take a whacky turn this week! She now hates her once beloved DIL. Lets discuss MILs. How much of a role do they actually play in a DIL's life? And if this situation really arises in your life, where your MIL has turned very antagonistic, how will you tackle it, if you tackle it at all? Those without MILs, imagine Nandini to be your MIL.

Ans : Answers for this question will be very subjective and to a certain extent will depend on personal experiences too. My experince , MIL will play a huge role in DIL's life if the DIL lets her and I am not necessarily saying it will be negative. Positive role is an equal possibility.
And MIL changing - Communication would be my key to get to the bottom of the issue. Disucss the matter clearly and firmly.

Q # 4 : What do you think about sisters getting married into the same family, i.e sisters becoming co-sisters. For eg : 2 sisters marrying 2 brothers. Do you think they will get along well? At least better than women coming from different families? Or do you think they will even loose their love for each other as sisters.

Ans : I do feel they have a higher chance of faring better.

Originally posted by: pragalbha

Q # 1 : Does a wife, by touching her husband's feet lower herself? Or is she right in doing it as that is what has been happening for centuries? What do you all feel?

I dont feel anyone can lower themselves by touching someones feet, ones dignity and respect for oneself lies in their heart and the belief in themselves. As for touching your husbands feet, In my religion husband have a huge right on their wives, and so i'll say that there is nothing wrong in bowing to your husband, as long as your husband doesnt take it to mean you are being subserviante to him, every relationship now adays has to be on equal standing, cuase girls aren't putting up with that stuff anymore, divorce is on the rise in eastern culture be it pakistani or indian., and that is contributed to that fact that easter girl are more educated, they have better jobs so they dont feel trapped in a marriage anymore.

Q # 2 : Rituals galore................All cultures have some or the other form of rituals. Hindus more so!!! For eg:-Karva-chauth was shown in this week's episode. What do you feel is the relevance of these rituals, vraths etc in today's fast-paced, racing world ? Is it a waste of time? And how are they being projected on our TV screens? Sensibly ? Insensibly? Ridiculous? or Well-portrayed?

Rituals should not be understood, they are simply felt from the heart, dont do a ritual that you feel isnt for you, as i am muslim i am fasting this month and i can honestly say that this ritual is truly humbling for me, at the end of it every morsel my kids throw out i'm like the value of that morel is felt, deep, when your hungry, and to know that many people are starving in todays world makes me very greatful for what we have. so point being every ritual is there to teach a soul something, its what you make of it...

Q # 3 : We saw Nandini's character - as a MIL- take a whacky turn this week! She now hates her once beloved DIL. Lets discuss MILs. How much of a role do they actually play in a DIL's life? And if this situation really arises in your life, where your MIL has turned very antagonistic, how will you tackle it, if you tackle it at all? Those without MILs, imagine Nandini to be your MIL. 😆

I feel the role ones MIL has in a DIL life depends on how close the son is to their mother the closer they are the, it becomes harder for the mother to let go, i was reading an article one day and it said that if the Queen and Princess Di couldnt get along, its the realtionship nothing personal agaist the DIL. and that makes sense to me, what did the queen and princess di not have that they couldnt get along, they had their own castles, jewllery, money, etc ect...😆

If my MIL turned against me I'd probably try to figure it out myself first try to see why she's behaving like this all of a sudden, and then if i cant figure it out I'd talk to my husband about her, he's my best friend and we discuss everything, he's the reason why i have a healty relationship with my MIL. word of advise never lie even if you get in trouble for it, just if you made a mistake admit it and your MIL will respect you for it, maybe not right away but later on, she'll know that you wont lie to cover up a mistake..been there done that ouch it hurt but it works...😃

Q # 4 : What do you think about sisters getting married into the same family, i.e sisters becoming co-sisters. For eg : 2 sisters marrying 2 brothers. Do you think they will get along well? At least better than women coming from different families? Or do you think they will even loose their love for each other as sisters.

I have an elder sister and i'm glad we arent married into the same family way too much politics for me. it opens way too many avenues for hurt and misunderstanding, and its a win win situation for the MIL, so nope dont do it, i'd rather take my chances with a stranger coming from a differnt family, the playing ground is even, no his or her story(history get it)

Looking forward for your answers 😃.

Ciao

pragalbha just wanted to say thank you for posting such thought provoking questions, awesome DOTW, I enjoyed reading your answers.. take care 👏👏

regards robina

Ppppppp:

Amazing questions... I'm so glad that someone is posting questions other the trio and questioning the illogicals 😊

Thank you so much... I'm definitely gonna express my views on these in sometime.

Sonia

Hey! Pragalbha,

Definitely thought provoking questions and am glad that it is close to a general discussion! 😊

Will definitely come back!

hey prag nice questions 😛 👏 👏

par main sirf ek hi ka jawab de sakti hoon 😭

Q2. ka ki MIL jo hoti hai wo bahut hi kharab hoti hai ...isliye main kastu ki halat samaj sakti hoon 😭 cos main bhi apni saas ki ek loti DIL hoon 😭 😭 Poor kastu and poor mannu 😭

sorry dear jo jawab aata tha wo de diya ... 😭 😉 😆

Manpreet

Originally posted by: pragalbha

Q # 4 : What do you think about sisters getting married into the same family, i.e sisters becoming co-sisters. For eg : 2 sisters marrying 2 brothers. Do you think they will get along well? At least better than women coming from different families? Or do you think they will even loose their love for each other as sisters.

hey...

i'd just like to comment on ur last question😊 2 sisters marrying in same family is not bad... they will get along well, as they have been brought up together ... they understand each other well.. better relationships compared to sister-in-laws...

unless there is some1 like devika in the family to give bad influence 2them... where they wontnt only become from sisters to sister in laws but from sisters to enemies....😕

well not necessarily enemies in kasturi's case.. as she is too nice! 😃she will end up tolerating her😕 (IF DEVIL Bcomes successful😡)