Love - the Prerna, Anurag and Bajaj kind

I think a character spoke for me today - Bajaj’s aunt. She described what I have been trying to say on this forum for ages.

Prerna and Anurag love each other so much that they are willing to sacrifice their love for the other. This may be ill advised especially the way Ekta shows it - because often the act of sacrifice causes more pain when it is combined with a lack of communication and lack of planning. We can critique it to death. But in many way it is the sort of love we exhibit in our daily lives in a less Ekta Kapoor serial sort of way - wives and husbands constantly sacrifice their dreams for each other, parents sacrifice for their kids and kids also sacrifice for their parents as they get older.

As his own aunt said Bajaj’s love is a selfish sort of love, he doesn’t care about whether Prerna loves him back or wants to be with him. He will GET Prerna because he wants her. Just as he got her by hook or crook when he first saw her with Kuki even putting at risk the life of the person Prerna loved most. Yes he has moments of playing nice like a spoilt child. When all is going the way they want they are well behaved and play nice - the moment anything doesn’t go the way they want they throw a tantrum so that adults give them what they want, whether that giving is right, fair or appropriate. The reality is that most adults don’t see spoilt brats and says “wow what exemplary behaviour”, instead they try to break this character trait and make the child better behaved because we all accept that this is just the wrong way to live - to get what you want irrespective of the consequences to others.

After a long time I want to say 🙏🏽Writers

That selfish waala love applies to Anurag too here. He’s so adamant on Prerna loving him, accepting that she loves him that he hasn’t even bothered to find out why she’s in this position. The effort from him seems so non-existent. All he does is play with words to get Prerna emotionally.

I’ve said this before, Anurag and Prerna’s love comes off shallow because they sacrifice so easily and willingly. You don’t see enough effort from them to try alternate routes.

Bajaj knows how to manipulate. He’s not trying to win Prerna’s love. He’s trying to make her stay with him. Both men haven’t given Prerna the respect an individual should have. Anurag is suffocating to say the least and Bajaj plays behind the scenes.

UkG🤗

Today we got to know the new definition of mature love.. 🤣

Very well put.

This is what I hv been trying to say as well. Bajaj doesn't care whether for the love he wants in his life........he just wants it by hook or crook. There's more to love than just getting it. You can't just demand or imprison your love .

He is behaving like a spoilt kid who just wants the toy anyhow ........just that the toy for him has real emotions and feelings.....just not for him.

Originally posted by: DaffodilsNew

Very well put.

This is what I hv been trying to say as well. Bajaj doesn't care whether for the love he wants in his life........he just wants it by hook or crook. There's more to love than just getting it. You can't just demand or imprison your love .

He is behaving like a spoilt kid who just wants the toy anyhow ........just that the toy for him has real emotions and feelings.....just not for him.

It’s sort of strange, Anurag fits this bill too. Fortunately for him Prerna loves him but has he really bothered about her? Nope. It’s only about HIS love, how HE NEEDS her...! He says he will wait yet he ends up everywhere she goes & Durga Maa ke dialogues chaalu!

Bajaj can be a manipulator but the childishness defines Anurag’s behaviour for the past month or so.!

Originally posted by: Reemz11

That selfish waala love applies to Anurag too here. He’s so adamant on Prerna loving him, accepting that she loves him that he hasn’t even bothered to find out why she’s in this position. The effort from him seems so non-existent. All he does is play with words to get Prerna emotionally.

I’ve said this before, Anurag and Prerna’s love comes off shallow because they sacrifice so easily and willingly. You don’t see enough effort from them to try alternate routes.

Bajaj knows how to manipulate. He’s not trying to win Prerna’s love. He’s trying to make her stay with him. Both men haven’t given Prerna the respect an individual should have. Anurag is suffocating to say the least and Bajaj plays behind the scenes.

I am the first to admit that both anurag and Prerna have made and continue to make mistake and they have fundament issues they need to sort. But sticking the kind of love, you say that a love that has grown through years of acquaintance into friendship (that also involved sacrifice and compromise) and finally into love - is shallow.

And what if Bajaj? It basically is about acquisition - acquiring what you want whether it wants you back or not. Is his love deep? Is it meaningful? If it even right?

Originally posted by: UKGirl22

I am the first to admit that both anurag and Prerna have made and continue to make mistake and they have fundament issues they need to sort. But sticking the kind of love, you say that a love that has grown through years of acquaintance into friendship (that also involved sacrifice and compromise) and finally into love - is shallow.

And what if Bajaj? It basically is about acquisition - acquiring what you want whether it wants you back or not. Is his love deep? Is it meaningful? If it even right?

I have said Bajaj is manipulative. He is a dark character but how much do we really know about him? Anurag and Prerna aren’t mysterious characters. They are your quintessential ITV hero & heroine, friendship and then fell in love. Fine I’ll believe it’s true love if we are meant to believe it but when they act without trusting each other. I still cannot understand HOW the Basus didn’t figure out the reason why Prerna married Bajaj. I mean Anurag got out of jail. Did they think If was a miracle? What is love without trust?

I’m not excusing Bajaj’s recent antics. He has sort of been gaslighting Prerna but that doesn’t mean anurag has been acting any better! What mature love makes you plan your own accident?

Ukg, I was just wondering where to post my thoughts today in the absence of an EDT and you made it easy.

Maasis dialogue with tanvi was the pivotal scene for me because through that the writers gave us a look into the gist of these 3 principal characters. This is how they view them and this is how they want the audience to understand them.

Anurag and prerna's relationship is based on sacrifice. The foundation of their very bond is that they live for each other, at the expense of themselves. It is this bond which made anurag enter into a deal marriage with komolika in exchange for prerna's family house and the same bond which made prerna enter into an agreement with Bajaj in exchange for anurag's freedom.

Also through this one scene the writers highlighted the difference between the two men. For anurag, prerna is above himself. I have said this before and I'll say it again: nothing and Noone comes above prerna Sharma and her happiness for anurag basu. Those who don't know him may say he's not respecting prerna's happiness today when he keeps on badgering her. I disagree. He is badgering her because he clearly sees she is not happy. The day, if it ever comes, when prerna let's go of anurag competely and moves on, he will also let her go because his happiness lies in hers.

Whereas Bajaj wants prerna for himself irrespective of her happiness. For Bajaj, nothing and noone comes above his own wants and happiness. Maasis dialogue about Bajaj wanting prerna whether she is happy or no is very telling. . It's a clear message to the audience and a clear demarcation line between the characters.

Originally posted by: Reemz11

It’s sort of strange, Anurag fits this bill too. Fortunately for him Prerna loves him but has he really bothered about her? Nope. It’s only about HIS love, how HE NEEDS her...! He says he will wait yet he ends up everywhere she goes & Durga Maa ke dialogues chaalu!

Bajaj can be a manipulator but the childishness defines Anurag’s behaviour for the past month or so.!

Hmm

I never said Anurag isn't childish but den he is less mature than Mr Bajaj no . Temper tantrums are done by kids who do not get what they want. Here Bajaj knows he can't win over Prerna's love but he still wants her to stay AGAINST her wishes. He doesn't care whether Prerna loves him or not......he wants her .......dts the end of the story for him.....just like a kid who wants a thing for himself .

Anurag is childish many times....I won't deny but he knows the Prerna loves him. Infact any blind person can read it in Prerna's eyes. He knows she bound by something and wants to help her out. Here the difference is Anurag is not throwing a fit for someone that doesn't care for his feelings. Prerna clearly loves him. Whatever he is doing is for THEIR love and somewhere Prerna wish is d same.

Originally posted by: DaffodilsNew

Hmm

I never said Anurag isn't childish but den he is less mature than Mr Bajaj no . Temper tantrums are done by kids who do not get what they want. Here Bajaj knows he can't win over Prerna's love but he still wants her to stay AGAINST her wishes. He doesn't care whether Prerna loves him or not......he wants her .......dts the end of the story for him.....just like a kid who wants a thing for himself .

Anurag is childish many times....I won't deny but he knows the Prerna loves him. Infact any blind person can read it in Prerna's eyes. He knows she bound by something and wants to help her out. Here the difference is Anurag is not throwing a fit for someone that doesn't care for his feelings. Prerna clearly loves him. Whatever he is doing is for THEIR love and somewhere Prerna wish is d same.

What kind of love doesn’t see through your obvious lies? I know it’s an ekta show but did he never think why he got acquitted from jail? When Prerna said whatever she will do it will be for him. The trust between them is so little, not sure what they’ll do with love alone? All this while he could’ve tried to work out why she married Bajaj but instead he acts like her stalker and then stoops the stupidest levels of stupid by planning his own accident.