Which side are you on Prem or Prerna? - Page 6

wooops i poseted it twice 😆 sorrry!!!

Originally posted by: broken heart

If you laugh at your mother in her pain, mock her name, destroy her family and seem to find only happiness in her sorrow, you are not a human being. A mother gives the ultimate form of love... if Prem cannot understand or appreciate that form of unconditional love -- which even Mukti and Sneha cannot always give -- then he does not deserve love.

Mukti has not always loved Prem, just like Sneha. But Prerna loved him from the moment she was going to have him, from the moment she birthed him and called him her child. IF Prem laughs at this unconditional, he simply does not deserve another chance.

I am totally with you in each and every word that you have written Shwets,
I just dont understand how people can even THINK of siding up with a person like Prem who after doing so many things to Prerna and her family does not have the faintest trace of guilt inside him..

I agree, Prem does not deserve this chance..he HAS to pay for what he did!

Originally posted by: broken heart

What I don't understand is this...
is this really Indian culture? I know that Prem doesn't care for Indian values, but what about the viewers? In Indian culture, parents are treated as Gods -- even perhaps greater than one's lover. So the same Prem who treated his parents like shit is now so popular with the South Asian audience? I just don't understand this.

In my country Shwets,
Parents are GOD..you can lay everything at their feet and still it would not be enough to prove their worth in your life because parents ae everything for us Indians..parents weigh more than love, parents weigh more than career and parent weigh more than financial problems...

All these people (nothing against them) who are siding with Prem are NOT from India, you will notice they arent even from South Asia, they are ALL from UK, USA and Canada..
Speaks LOADS about the culture there..especially when they are even ready to DEFEND Prem after what all he has done!

I love Prem a hella lot and i wanna see him with Mukti and all that...but I don't think Prerna is wrong...I mean come on you can't expect her to forget everything he has done just because he claims that he loves mukti now..she cant be sure that he's being honest or its just one of his new plan...in a way I think Prem deserves it 😭 after everything he has done to Prerna and her family..he needs to be taught a lesson..he needs to suffer as much as Prerna and Mutki have...he needs to correct his mistakes..and after all this i hope Prerna and Mukti will forgive him and Prem and Mutki will live happily ever after.. 😊
I love Prem but that doesnt mean everything he does is right...I'am with Prerna!! and I hope this time UD becomes Prem for good..

i m with prem because prena is only doing this to get her husband back ( taking advantage of mukti) which is not good.
so me on prem side

OK, for what they're worth, here are my two cents:

I am a premika, as most of you know, but some people here seem to have the idea that all premikas blindly follow Prem wherever he leads us and "support" him in everything he does. Not so. I HATED Prem/UD during the rape track and it took me a long time to get past that.

I think its the whole "One death is a tragedy, one million deaths are a statistic" syndrome. We all KNOW everything that Prem has done is wrong, but sometimes we tend to gloss over that (right or wrong, that's what we do). But when I remember individual instances of his nastiness (the scene where he humiliates Mukti at his party during the rape track, the scene where he insinuates that she is lying about her rape, the scene where he fights against Prerna bringing her back home), then, even now, my blood boils and the feminist in me wants to kick him to high heaven! So, its not that we don't KNOW of his mistakes, its just that, as time goes on, we group all his crimes together and gloss over them.

Let's just get one thing straight: premika or no premika, I can clearly see that Prerna is NOT being SELFISH. She has NO reason to trust Prem, esp. after everything that he has done during the five years that she was not there. She could have forgiven him everything - she DID forgive him everything, but the fact that he broke her family (and HIS) apart, the fact that he mistreated his FATHER, is something that she may never be able to forgive. She knows that a lot of it is the fault of others: Aparna, Komo, even to some extent, herself. In the beginning eps of this leap, she acknowledged that KOMOLIKA used her son to destroy her family, she KNOWS that he is easily influencable (is that even a word?! 😉 ) and she called Komo up on that. She blamed KOMO for sending "this nautanki" (Debo) to her house, she blamed KOMO for using Prerna's own son against her.

But, at the end of the day, can we really say that ALL of it is Komo's fault? When Prem was a child, he was kidnapped - not his fault. He grew up with Aparna for a mother, learning about revenge and materialism and disrespect - not his fault. When he first came to Bajaj House, he made a lot of mistakes, Prerna and Anu and Bajaj all misunderstood him and that hurt him and turned him - not his fault.

But this? Can we really assume that Prem is so naive, so malleable that he didn't know what he was doing? Prerna doesn't know that Prem had found the proof against Debo and could have stopped her from going to jail, but WE know, and we know that he did NOTHING. So, can you blame Prerna for being just a little selfish for the first time in her life and wanting her husband, the father of her children back? For ONE son, should she forgoe ALL her other kids - Sneha, Tushar, Doris, Mukti, Kuki, Vishaka and Kasak (where are they, btw?). If she doesn't support Prem, she is selfish? What would happen if she supported Prem NOW over everybody else?

Secondly, Prerna HAS NOT ACCEPTED Komo's offer of making Prem marry Debo. Where, in that confrontation with Prem, did you ONCE hear the word "Debo"? Prerna merely told him to stay away from her family and Mukti - if she doesn't want Mukti-Kul's relationship to break, it is because she DOES NOT TRUST Prem - she cannot know whether he is telling the truth or lying to get something; she doesn't know whether, if he truly DOES love Mukti, he will ever be able to keep her happy: after all, his character is such that he can change his mind and do anything at the last minute. She is looking out for her daughter, because she believes that Mukti will remain happy with Kul. How is that being selfish? If she were selfish, she would tell Mukti to break it off with Kul and marry her son, but she wants what is best for her "adopted" daughter, not her biological son.

Just because Prem is in love, it doesn't mean that he DESERVES that love - if I am "with" Prem today, it is only in the sense that I want him to PROVE to Mukti and Prerna that he HAS changed. I am on Prem's side only for him to pay for his mistakes and to resolve them. Prerna is right in her place, and if I were her, I would do the same. We have only seen Friday's eppy where Prem confesses his love for Mukti. Now, we have to see him rectify his mistakes against his mother, his family, because even for Mukti, that family is more important that her love. She would do anything for her Choti Maa, and if Prem cannot or will not make it up to his mother, then I can guarantee that he and Mukti will NOT be getting together any time soon.

As a premika, of course I want to see PM together - but not at the cost of Prerna and her family.

I am with Prem if he wants to pay for his mistakes and make it up to his family, and I want Prerna to give him another chance, but that will only happen when he gives her reason to trust him again. So what he needs, with the help of his Dad Basu, is to find a way to show Prerna that he is changing (I wouldn't say that he HAS changed completely) and if after all his efforts to make it up to her, Prerna does NOT forgive him, only then, will I even remotely begin to disagree with her.

Sorry for the bhashan, as usual! 😉

vasu woho u beat me to it yaar totally agree with u us premikas are not siding with prem becuase were condoing what he did were siding with him because we want to see him change and recity and atone for his past crimes and mistakes hopefully people understand this now 😊

well prerna is not wrong with all that hatred but seeing prem in this condition...my heart totally melted so causing me to choose his side...i hope he gets mukti

im 100% on PREM's side!! and definitely against PRERNA! 😡

Agree wholeheartedly with Vasu & Shweta...& esp with Sukhi. All teh characters have made mistakes...& all of us, at some point in time, have glossed over them....but there should be some limit. I know Bajaj has done a lot of mistakes too...I also didn't liek the way he photographed Prerna wen she was unconscious...there are many things abt him which I don't like...I don't post abt it, but neither do I defend him in those things.

And Sukhi, I don't think anyone could have expressed our feelings for parents better than you....parents are even gr8er than God...everytime I think of the mother-son relationship f Prerna-Yudi...the only scene that comes to my mind is when she fell to his feet begging for forgiveness & this guy backed off 😡 ....Grrrrr...I'll kill myself if my mother even folds her hands in front of me