Parents in kzk

Although Prerna has a full right to be angry, I do think that she needs to give the whole situation a thought before taking any steps. she is not a 22 year old girl, who can just break all relationships with her husband and start a new life. Mr. Bajaj and Prerna share many more relations than just husband-wife. She must think about their children. They are grown up and have their own problems in life that yet need to be resolved. As Madhvi said that her decision to get divorce can ruin so many lives, not just the lives of her children, but also madhavi, Vinit and Tanisha's as well. She thinks that once Sneha is married, she doesn't have to worry about her. But just think what Sneha's in-laws would think if the whole matter came out. What about Kasak? Don't they both realize that Kasak needs their attention? Have they even once sat down with that girl and asked her what she has gone through? Mr.Bajaj and Prerna need to help Kasak start a new life. And now even Tushar needs both mom and dad.

I mean sometimes I think that Ud is right in pointing out their flaws. Why didn't Anu, Prerna or Bajaj ever bothered to look for Prem during those 20 years? Or were they expecting him to show up one day and say i am your lost son?

Ofcourse, the divorce would resulting in suffering for all. But their kids would have to suffer for no mistake of their own. Look at the story of kzk. Bajaj did not give priority to tushar, cooki and Vishakha. Look at them now they are leading lonely live when they all could have a family. He was so caught up in his love for Prerna that his kids became his second priority. Then after anu-prerna got married, they both got caught up in the blame game and in their own problem. And Prem1 paid the price. Sneha paid the price when Anu and Prerna got divoreced. Now it is Tanisha's turn.

I am not pointing fingers at any one character. Forget about the blame game. The point is not about who was responsible for Prem1's death or Tanisha's birth. The real issue is that they all put their lives above their childrens and their family. Just because you give your kids all life's necessities, hug them every so often and tell them "i love you", does not make you a good parent. Parents put their children's well being above their needs. But Prerna, Bajaj and Anurag have failed to do so.

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i just cannot agree with prerna this time...i understand her anger, her pain...i am with her...but her decision to go for a divorce is something that i cannot understand...she needs to think abt this more deeply considering that she has spent 20 years with this man and have 6 kids!

but then there comes time in a woman's life when she just can't take it anymore...first anurag ditched her, she got pregnant, then accused her for the pregnancy of sneha, bajaj forced her into marrying him and making her a mother of 3 grown up children, and bajaj and his kids taunting her always, and now this...she is so hurt and so shaken that she just wants a way out...she wants to just get rid of all the men in her life and just live for her children... but then again if so a divorce will destabilize the kids first and foremost...difficult choice!

besides that maybe this was bound to happen to bajaj...maybe this is his destiny for playing tricks with her in his earlier age...maybe it is time for him to pay for his mistakes...

i am not going to comment abt the kids...in kzk the kids were never important...they were there to create complications among the lead characters...and just be there for the sake of being there!

I m wid prerna dis time.I don't know wether she is doing right to divorce him or not but i m wid her.Bajaj has alwayz suspected here.Prerna said very right thing to bajaj tht 20 saalon tak aap mujhpe tauhmat lagate rahe lakin aik baar bhi apne girebaan main jhaank ker nahin dekha.She was so right.And now she is totally broken.She have lived wid a man for 20 years,she loved him,she trusted him and suddenly she comes to know tht the man she trusted the most has another daughter.After knowing this that too after 20 years of marriage,obviously she'll go mad.I mean she have completely lost it.She is in a situation jahaan she herself don't know whats right and whats wrong.

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i have a question i used to watch this drama long time ago but now i started watching it again why prena and anu are separate? can someone plz tell me that? if they got married the why they got separate again?

why prerna is not marry Anu. and who is the girl with Anu? i confussed.

ya it's wrong thing to do at this age. Why didn't she divorce him when she knew that mr.bajaj has three childern?

Hey,

First of all, a wonderful post from indogirl as usual.
I agree with lots of what you said, but i disagree in some areas.
If you take divorce, but take it out of the context of the show and its circumstances, sometimes, its best that two parents who fight 24/7 to divorce, for the children have a bad example of what a relationship is and they will only suffer, whereas, having two happy parents who are divorced are better off, studies have proven this to be the case, provided that the parents are good single parents.
However, what prerna is doing is in the heat of the moment, she is angry, and her anger is justified, but divorcing a man who has clearly been there for her for 20 years, is what she's forgetting, she thinks 20 years of her life were a lie, but the love bajaj has shown for prerna is not fake nor is it misdirected
I thought it was interesting prerna is angry at anurag, we only show feelings and care about people who we care about, and it proves again that she cares for anurag not the romantic way but another type, or else she would not be hurt...but i don't think she should be angry at anurag since when he asked her to marry bajaj, he wasn't aware of madvhi and bajaj's relationship, and afterwards when he did find out, sneha was in the hospital and it wasn't a good time to tell, and later, he realized it wasn't in his place to tell prerna.
It's true bajaj never was a good role model for all his children especially the ones he had in his first marriage with mainka basu, though i am not questioning his love for his children, because he truly loves, but love is not the only thing in life we ought to treasue,
again, if i take the issue out of its context, one realizes that these children are grown up, and they should realize if two adults want to divorce they do have the right, these kids are in their twenties, though putting it in the context of the show, Tushar needs his parents, kasak needs her parents though i doubt she needs them together, and sneha for a whiile so she can keep face with her in-laws.

not making too much sense, oh well, its exam time, i can't think out right.

Originally posted by: jessie

Hey,


However, what prerna is doing is in the heat of the moment, she is angry, and her anger is justified, but divorcing a man who has clearly been there for her for 20 years, is what she's forgetting, she thinks 20 years of her life were a lie, but the love bajaj has shown for prerna is not fake nor is it misdirected

Exactly my point. She needs to sit down and give it a thought. She cannot jump to conclusions like this. This is what she did even for Anurag after leap. She would jump in and attack him without getting her facts straight. She takes big decisions without thinking about anything and then repents. She should try to find out the whole truth. Even today when Madhavi and Anu were trying to explain to her, she was not listening. She doesn't like to listen to explanations. In order to punish Bajaj, Prerna is ruining so many other lives.

Gr8 topic Indogirl!
Prerna is known for taking such hasty decisions..and big ones to it..and later repenting and crying over spilt milk all her life.
But I do agree with you whole heartedly that Bajaj has always given Tusshar,Koookie and Vishakha second priority and Kasak seems to have just vanished from the scene!! Every one has simply forgotten about the poor soul!!!
Hmmmm...a good parenting course is due long time!!!