DOTW XI - Failing Marriages - Page 2

Originally posted by: lil_isha15

awesome questions!!! 👏Thanks, Isha!

Originally posted by: inavars

good discussion Anu!👏

Thanks, inavars!

Originally posted by: NUKUTTY

Can the factor, which is causing all the failing marriages, act as a real life villain too? That is , in real life married couple's life?

Hope its clear now, misangelic!😃

Thought thats what you mean ..........all the factors i looked are what could happen in a real marriage so yes they can be a villian in real life married couple

😃 did you like my answers? what you think of them

Originally posted by: NUKUTTY

If Ranveer and Rashi had got enough time before their marriage, and had they known each other well before he had tied the knot with her, do you think their kahaani would have been different?

I think if they did have time to meet each other and get to know each other a little better, then ya maybe their relationship would be different now....

Are they made for each other? Or do you think somebody else is her Manzil?
I think they are made for each other, they both look soo cute together, I believe that after a little more time Ranveer will realize that Raashi is the one he actually loves. Ranveer is Raashi's manzil, without a doubt.😉

Will Ranveer have to go through all those painful moments Jai had to go through?

I think overall, becuase of all the pain he has caused Raashi, he deserves to go through all the pain he gets!!

Will it be "happy days are here" for them any time?

I don't think so, atleast not yet, after a few more months or so, maybe Ranveer will start to understand Raashi properly.

Pia and Pushkar

1.What, other than Pia's stupidities, is the reason for their failing marriage? Where did the two go wrong?

I think the reason their marriage failed is because everything in their case happened way too fast....they didn't wait a long time, I think they needed more time to understand each other properly

2. Hadn't Pia met Jai at all, would their kahaani have been different?

Ya everything in Kasamh Se would be soo different

3. Are they made for each other? What makes you think so?

I don't think they are made for each other, becuase Pushkar deserves some one much better!!!

Jigyasa and Aaditya

Divorced they are, but her concern for him has been confirmed when he was supposed to be stabbed yesterday.

1. Did Jigyasa make a big mistake by divorcing him?
I think Jigyasa made a huge mistake by divoring him!

2. Are they destined to be together?

They are destined to be together!!!

BIG QUESTION

Love marriages, (according to me) don't succeed at ALL. Only marriages which have ups and down , can last long. Do you agree? Is shaadi necessary? In't there a risk of all shaadis failing?

Not all shaadi's fail, it depends if you mind someone who you are compatible with....

What is common between all the factors that are leading to the above mentioned leading factors?

I actually don't know....I think trust and understanding each other plays a big part in relationships....

Can this common factor act as a real life villain too? That is, in all our lives?

It can def play a factor in real lives....if you don't find someone you can trust than you won't be happy in that relationship!!!

Originally posted by: Misangelic

Hey Nutty, here are my reply to your lovely questions.

Ranveer &Rashi

It was only in the 11^th hour that Rashi came to know who her Jeevansathi was to be. She never got any chance to study her future husband or even know what he would be like.

1. If Ranveer and Rashi had got enough time before their marriage, and had they known each other well before he had tied the knot with her, do you think their kahaani would have been different?

A. Can't really say, now can we because the circumstance were such that they had to get married in haste as Raashis father had put pressure on Jai and his family that his daughter will get married then Anu will to Rohit. If no such pressure was there to get married, Ranveer who was a bramachari till then would still reamin a bramachari till now.

2. Are they made for each other? Or do you think somebody else is her Manzil?

A. They are definitely made for each other. Ranveers shown as a very religious and a family oriented guy, and Raashi too is as they say the perfect match for our Poojari, she is caring and loving towards the family , religious and a good cook too. What else does he need more then that. 😃

Thus it answers your question if somebody else is their Manzil and I think no. They are our Jai and Bani in the making and the creatives are doing the needful now and showing us that.

3. Will Ranveer have to go through all those painful moments Jai had to go through?

A. Not really, Jai and Banis case was completley different from Ranveer and Raashis. Hope he does not have to go through all the pain that Jai went through and I don't think he will unless he has tones of secrets hidden just like Jai.😉😛😃😆

4. Will it be "happy days are here" for them any time?

A. Looks like happy days are on the way for Raashi and Ranveer at last. Ranveer is changing for the good it seems and is more caring and concerned towards Raashi, thus like and love will be growing soon between them as it happened between Jai and Bani and thus happily ever after, Ekta style.😃

Pia and Pushkar

Pushkar-the dream husband. Quite foolish at times, but still, a caring partner .

Pia, the queen of foolishness(I would say they are made for each other that way).

1.What, other than Pia's stupidities, is the reason for their failing marriage? Where did the two go wrong?

A. Not undersatnding each other at all and respecting each others feelings. Both expecting different things from their marriage, thats what went wrong.

Pushkar expecting Pia to be more homely, understanding, selfless etc and Pia expecting Pushkar to provide her with all that she wanted in life and more, being the selfish person that she was , which was not quiet unrealistic as she was not super rich from birth.

2. Hadn't Pia met Jai at all, would their kahaani have been different?

A. If not Jai then someone else who was super rich would have done for her. In the beginning she even accepted Mohans proposal for marriage. For her money, status and fame was all, love was never there in her equation for a happy married life.

3. Are they made for each other? What makes you think so?

A. No they were never made for each other at all. Poor Pushkar, had to lose out on so much for one he loves where as Pia was not worth all that he went through and is going through because of her. Pushkar should move on with life and find someone deserving of his love and affection. And leaver Pia to her fate.

Jigyasa and Aaditya

Divorced they are, but her concern for him has been confirmed when he was supposed to be stabbed yesterday.

1. Did Jigyasa make a big mistake by divorcing him?

A. Yes she did, as Aditya is such a loving and caring person and a complete contrast to her flamboyant and sarcastic personlaity. They complimented each other.

2. Are they destined to be together?

A. Could be, most of the time they are togehter when any pooja or such is done, only in parties or generally they are shown to be divorced, but when it comes to their childrens marriage or pooja they are always shown as a couple. Quiet confusing if you ask me.

BIG QUESTION

Love marriages, (according to me) don't succeed at ALL.

Not all of them fail. Marriage is something that one has to work at.

Only marriages which have ups and down , can last long. Do you agree?

Ups and downs are part of marriage. Every marriage has their share of ups and down as its life. How we handle or coup with them strengthens our marrige or weakens the bond. As I said above marrige is something at what the two people bond in holly matrimony for life have to work at.

Is shaadi necessary?

Shaadi being necessary depends from person to person. In some or mostly all culture especailly Asian cultures marriage is necesssary if one wants companionship, kids and intamcy in ones life, thus marriage is the legal and holy way to acheive all this and more.

In western countries marrige is not necessary at all, one can have sexual relationship, intimacy, companionship, kids without the shackles of marriage.

Thus marriage being necessary depends on ones own perspective, if one thinks its a shackle or confinment or too permanaent a commitment to trust someone with or fate worse then death then he/she will always say that marrige is not necassary .

In't there a risk of all shaadis failing?

No not at all. I have answered too before that marriage does not becaome a success by just sitting and letting things happen or just because it has to be one. Both the partners have to work at making ones marriage a success, lasting etc., be it an arranged mariage or love.

What is common between all the factors that are leading to the above mentioned leading factors? Can this common factor act as a real life villain too? That is, in all our lives?

Both the partners have to respect, trust, care, love and undersatnd each other, needs, wants, desires, feelings, emotions, family, dreams etc. They have to communicate with each other on a regular basis to solve any misunderstandings and problems. There should be complete trust and honesty in a relationship to work. In a marriage both the partners has to respect each other individuality and work as a team too.

All this and more makes for a successful marriage.

Marriages fail because both the individuals or one of them takes everything for granted and does not respect, undertand, communicate with one another. Both wanting separate things in life in general, having alot of expectations from on another that they can not fulfil, no trust, understanding, compasion, love,etc at all. Considering or looking at oneself as individuals and not as a team. In a marrige its Us and not I or me, me, me and me only.

Loved answering your questions and hop you love reading them too.

Love

Krishna

Anu,

Interesting questions. Incidentally I intend to shortly post an article on the impact of the parents marriages on their kids in KS.

1. If Ranveer and Rashi had got enough time before their marriage, and had they known each other well before he had tied the knot with her, do you think their kahaani would have been different?

No, the real problem is that Ranveer for whatever reasons has problems with women in general and matrimony. R-R would never have volunatrily got married, whatever be the reason.

1. Are they made for each other? Or do you think somebody else is her Manzil?

Ranveer is a strong personality and if he can get out of his negative influences (his Mom) nothing will actually prevent him from being a good husband. But if he can't Pushky can be a good bet for Raashi. I think Pushky has realised that hormones are no substitute for a life partner.

1. Will Ranveer have to go through all those painful moments Jai had to go through?

It is entirely of Ranveer's own makings. Raashi has nothing against him, there is no PR or any other baggage of the past with him. The day he wants, he can start a happy, normal marriage with her.

1. Will it be "happy days are here" for them any time?

I have a feeling, yes.

Pia and Pushkar

1.What, other than Pia's stupidities, is the reason for their failing marriage? Where did the two go wrong?

Actually, almost 99% of the fault lies with Pia. Pushkar did little wrong as a husband, sure he expected her to make some compromises to adjust to his family, but any hubby would do that, no.

The only real fault of Pushky is that had he done the decent thing and made a clean breast of things with JW they may have married under decent circumstances and not have had to face the financial troubles (Pia's POV that is, their lifestyle was no worse than most middle class couples) that precipitated the failure of their marriage.

2. Hadn't Pia met Jai at all, would their kahaani have been different?

Maybe, maybe not. Certainly had Pia married Pushky without being proposed to by JW first, there is a possibility that they may have been happy together, as Pushky had a decent paying job with Walia Ind. and he was also intended to be one of JW's heirs.

But if by some perverse chance Bani/Rano had ended up marrying one of the Walias or any other tycoon, Pia would have again got a bit restless and resentful.

3. Are they made for each other? What makes you think so?

No. Pia is actually made for one but herself. She would have made a bad wife for anyone be it JW or Pushky or anyone else. Pushky would have been a good hubby for anyone, Bani/Rano/Raashi/Anu.

Jigyasa and Aaditya

Divorced they are, but her concern for him has been confirmed when he was supposed to be stabbed yesterday.

1. Did Jigyasa make a big mistake by divorcing him?

Yes, I don't see what she has gained by divorcing him. After all even if she had been married to Adi, she could still have been sponging of her bro.

1. Are they destined to be together?

Yes, bcos of the kids if nothing else.

(Love marriages, (according to me) don't succeed at ALL. Only marriages which have ups and down , can last long. Do you agree? Is shaadi necessary? In't there a risk of all shaadis failing?)

I think that is too sweeping a comment to make. The reason love marriages sometimes fail is bcos the partners are infatuated rather than in love with each other and view each other thru rose tinted glasses rather than realistically. If such marriages are made without parental approval as is sometimes the case, parental support which boosts failing arranged marriages is also missing.

The ingredients for a successful arrnaged marriage and love marriage are all the same.

Unlike in serials, in real life it is marriages which have the minimum number of ups and downs which have the best chance of succeeding.

Is shaadi necessary? I guess not. And risk of marriage failing- there is a risk involved in staying single too.

Rgds,

Priyanka