Bani’s Double Standards?

Hello Everyone!

I was wanting to make this post a long time back… but I was plain lazy to do so😡. But I decided to out it up now.

The fact that Bani changed her view on the accident when she realized her mother was involved cannot be termed as Double Standards. She did say that it was an Accident and Accidents do happen and now she is unable to forgive Jai for the same Accident. But i feel on both occasions were different and shouldnt be compared.

Coming to her reaction to Ranvijay's Wife's death. She reacted very strongly when she realized it was a case of murder. The way Sandy had build up the story, Jai came across as a Cold blooded Murderer who could do the unimaginable and Jai choosing to run away than face her only made her anxious about the Raaz. When she confronted Ranvijay, he told her a Lie… but with a lot of human appeal. Must hand it over to him he was pretty convincing… (though he should have thought twice about the fact that his wife is indeed alive😡😆.) It wasn't Bani who said 'Wo ek Accident tha aur main uskeliye kisse ko zimedar nahi dehrata.' It was Ranvijay! Bani merely repeated the same... in a sense of relief. If u do take this as a truth for a moment, then the person who holds the right to forgive or Punish Jai is Ranvijay. And he said he has forgiven Jai. Bani is just an outsider to the entire episode. The only way she is linked to it that she happens to be the wife of the man who on the wheel when the accident happened. There was nothing Bani could have said or done… simply coz the man wronged in this occasion has taken it as twist of fate and moved on. He doesn't blame Jai for it, he has no criminal proceeding against Jai… What option, or should I say right does Bani have to change his opinion on that front? May be if Ranvijay did say he wanted justice and wanted Jai behind bars or something to that effect Bani might have been in a dilemma… but when there was no battle between heart and the mind, between Love and Ethics…her heart and love won over the situation. She probably assumed that the matter is better off closed coz opening it will freshen the wounds caused by the accident. She saw Jai suffering from guilt… so she asked him to let it go.

Now coming to Bani's reaction when she came to know the truth(I can bet this is not the ACTUAL truth!) We wondered how bani could go back on her word. But then in this case… Bani was the one who has been wronged! She is probably the victim of the accident much more than her mom was. She has to decide if she can forgive Jai or not. In this case it is not only the Accident. It is about the repercussion the accident had on her life and that of her family. They have been through some traumatic times not for days, weeks, months but for 7 years! May be Bani did manage to fill up th place of her mom.. but her own life was devoid of any love and care… and somewhere here was the man who is responsible for it. It wasn't just that he was involved with an accident... but she had this blind trust on Jai which seems to be broken😭. Coz the way the story was presented to her it did come across as if Jai was a sinner! He tried to pay her father…that came across as if Jai wanted to bury the issue using his money and power than face its consequences. (But I do believe that Jai went through the legal procedures! Bani doesn't know I suppose😕!) He did everything possible to hide the truth from Bani, he yelled at her, threatened her, coldly told her she shouldn't interfere with his life… what did it go to prove? He was hiding a crime… ONLY WE know Jai wanted to save Bani from pain… Bani doesn't know! The incidents that happened in connection with the revelation of the truth were life threatening and it went towards blowing up what was an unintentional Accident into a fully blown up conspired murder of sorts! Even though it was an accident the reactions and aftermath of that incident was like that of a murder.

And to top it Jai had behaved as if he had done nothing wrong to her family… infact blamed, accused and humiliated her family at every step. And Bani's point is 'WHAT right did Jai have to accuse them when he is a far more a sinner'

And lets not forget that there wasn't be time for it to sink into Bani. She is too confused and emotionally broken to be making any judgment. She is completely torn between her sense of justice for her family and the love she has for this man. And she knows that Jai loves her more than his own life and she loves him just as much… what does she do now?😕

Too many incidents have happened in a span of 4 days that she cant cope with. First they were faced with a life-death situation and both of them chose to die for eachother, with eachother. Their love for eachother came to the fore. Then the truth came out and they lost eachother all over again. Then came the news of Bani's pregnancy, and ultimately the final blow came with Jai's death drama. She really doesn't have that kind of time or space to be able to think logically. It will be wrong on our part to hold her for what she said before!

And as far as I see Bani does see her mom's death as an accident, despite what she says. Coz if she had thought it was indeed a murder she would have told her sisters atleast in not got Jai arrested! By keeping the truth to herself she is covering up for Jai… which will put her in the same platform as Jai is today, if her sisters find out at some point in time. She is going to be accused of being selfish!

How can u get urself to run into the arms of a person, when that very person is responsible for wrecking ur life at different stages… even though unintentionally?😕 It isnt so easy… and to expect it from Bani is not right. It has been hardly 4 days… the girl hasn't even had the time to take stock of the situation… it is IMPOSSIBLE to think rationally at this point in time. So lets go a bit easy on her.

By now I think all must be wondering what has gone wrong with Anu, how is she supporting anyone against Jai. No I am not against Jai. How can I ever be… I can come up with a reasoning even for his most atrocious behaviour😆. Even now I am on Jai's side. I know Bani has her reasons to be angry or even HATE Jai, and I find her reasons valid. Now all I want for Jai is not forgiveness, but a chance to redeem himself of the crime he unintentionally created… and I want Jai to win that chance… and I am with him in this mission. Jai has to win back the Love, respect and trust that Bani seemed to have lost for him… or that has been overshadowed by his gory past.

Bani won over Jai by being herself with her patience, silence and unconditional Love… now it is Jai's turn… and he will do it in his style…by being Jai Walia. And I think all agree Jai's charm will do the trick yet again. I can confidently challenge Bani to try and ignore/resist Jai's charm😉😆 (Atleast, coz u cant Hate him!)' If what we saw on Friday is just a teaser… then I am geared up for a roller coaster ride with Jai in control. 😃

Hold this post against me... mera koi barosa nahi hai... if i see Jai even in little distress all my reasoning will go with the wind! 😆

Now i want Jai to charm his wife and win her Love, respect and trust back... And hopefully Jai will do it is style and at the end of it we are all a bunch of proud Jai's fans. All the Best, Jai!

I took a long time to make this post and finally made it. Phew!
I have given my reasons to justify Bani's change of stand... what do u think? Can Bani's change of stand be termed as Double standards... coz ultimately it was a Loss of a life... be it that of a stranger or her mother!

Will wait for ur answers.

Catch u al soon

Lots of Luv

Anu.

anushka

i agree with you 100 %

and abt jai exactly bani won him over by silence but he is jai walia and he will express in his own style....thats zara hatke unexpected😉

I agree with you Anu, most of us hold this entire turn of events and Jai's sufferings to bani. But, as u mentioned, this girl had to experience a far greater share of wrong doings during the past four days and on top of that, we have Jai acting like a kid, whose fave strawberry lollipop has been taken away. 😉

We need to give Bani more time to come out of the situation and I want Jai to win back her trust 😉

Anushka,

You are right about Munni's double standards. But still I wouldn't blame Munni unless she stretches her hatred and coldness to Munna too far, too long. But if she does, I will have to show her the mirror.

I know I am digging up old ghosts but remember she hit Ranveer on the head with a statue when he threatened to show Munna Pia's CD. She could have killed him. So if she is willing to kill someone with what authority does she hate Munna who killed someone (or so he believes) by accident. It was a dark, rainy night and it is not extraordinary to have an accident. And of course someone who stands under a lamppost on Park Road on a night as bad as that deserves to be bumped off (Just kidding).

Sure, Munna kept his role in Kirans death from her kids but if Munni blames him how come she does not blame her Pa, who moreover sent his daughters to Munnas house (Personally I believe that was because Pa Dixit knew that Munna wasn't responsible for Kirans death). And why does she let off her Pa for falling apart after Kirans death- many men who lose their beloved wives still make wonderfully strong parents- my own uncle for example. And speaking off secrets didn't she conceal Pias attachment to Pushkar from Munna - even after her elopement.

Yes, the only thing that I find fault with Munna is his treatment of the sisters even after knowing what he had done to them. I will be fully behind Munni if she upbraids him for that.

Don't misunderstand me. I love munni as well as munna- they are incomplete without each other.

Rgds

Priyanka

i wont label bani's reaction as double standards...

but i hope she doesnt stretch this cold war too long

very nice post.yes,i also think bani's behavior definitely can't be termed as double stanadards.u put it up so well.it could not have been said in a better way. 😃

Hi anu

Here is my views in response to your post. I already posted it with the heading mentioned below. What I feel I wrote it in my post.

Why bani keep calling jai a murderer?

I don't know why she keep calling him by that word after the secret revealed. We all as well as she also knows that that was simply an accident due to which her mother died and which involve jai. Accident is not an intentional act and jai didn't want to killed her mother. Murder is an intentional act. It involve some purpose to do so. While here we don't see any purpose for which jai had to killed her mother and bani knows this very well. Then why all the time utter that stupid word? What she wants to prove? She never gave a damn look that all the time she was safe in pushkar's office guest house but jai put his life in danger for her to such an extent that anything could have been happened with his life. Typical ekta's serial female character.

Also when ranvijay told her false story that on 29th june, an accident occurred on park road and in that incident, his wife was hited by the car which was driven by jai and she died in that accident. Remember guys bani's reaction? Her reaction was that of a relief. Relief with thought that jai wasn't a murderer. That was simply an accident. She even went to jai and consoled him that she knew the park road secret and she knew that ranvijay's wife was died in that accident and car was driven by him. But he didn't have to feel guilty as "accident happens in anybody's life." (I remember one of our KS member written in her post for bani's this quote that "bani remember your quote and we will remind u at the time of defending jai when the actual secret out". Exact word I don't remember) She also apologized him for taking jai as a murderer.

Now with the actual secret out, ranvijay's wife's place has been taken by bani's mother. Other content remain the same like accident, car hitting and jai driving the car. But now bani's mother involve, as per her point of view, jai became a murderer with immediate effect. Then there was no accident happens in anybody's life and bla…bla…bla…… With second thought it means that if anyone died in an accident which involve jai, that remains an accident but if any person died who is a near ones to bani in an accident which involve jai then jai become a murderer. How disgusting. She is typical ekta's serial heroine.

Again in the hospital she told jai that he always hide the truth from her and always play with feelings of others. Oh bani think twice before speak. Jai never hide anything from you except park road secret and that too for your sake. He knew how much you would be hurt when the secret will be out. So he cares for your feelings. But what you did with him in the past? (sorry guys repeating the same old incidents )You knew very well that how much he would be hurt, even though you hide the pia-pushkar love affair from him and took pia's place in the lagna mandap. After that you hide anu's pregnancy from him and never trusted him and took that blame on the ground of family pride and creat havoc in the family, then hide rano-sahil's love affair from him and so on…… I must congrats you that despite of all these, you darely said that jai has the habit of playing with the feelings of others. BANI WHO PLAY WITH WHOME.

I like bani but all the ekta's female character has the ability to put their thoughts in such a way, no matter how wrong they are with their thoughts, with water tank in their eyes that other person agrees with them and feels guilty for their doings even though they are right. All female character of ekta are sati savitri and nearer to god almighty who never do anything wrong.

Bye
Take care guys
surahi

Originally posted by: majumdar

Anushka,

You are right about Munni's double standards. But still I wouldn't blame Munni unless she stretches her hatred and coldness to Munna too far, too long. But if she does, I will have to show her the mirror.

I know I am digging up old ghosts but remember she hit Ranveer on the head with a statue when he threatened to show Munna Pia's CD. She could have killed him. So if she is willing to kill someone with what authority does she hate Munna who killed someone (or so he believes) by accident. It was a dark, rainy night and it is not extraordinary to have an accident. And of course someone who stands under a lamppost on Park Road on a night as bad as that deserves to be bumped off (Just kidding).

Sure, Munna kept his role in Kirans death from her kids but if Munni blames him how come she does not blame her Pa, who moreover sent his daughters to Munnas house (Personally I believe that was because Pa Dixit knew that Munna wasn't responsible for Kirans death). And why does she let off her Pa for falling apart after Kirans death- many men who lose their beloved wives still make wonderfully strong parents- my own uncle for example. And speaking off secrets didn't she conceal Pias attachment to Pushkar from Munna - even after her elopement.

Yes, the only thing that I find fault with Munna is his treatment of the sisters even after knowing what he had done to them. I will be fully behind Munni if she upbraids him for that.

Don't misunderstand me. I love munni as well as munna- they are incomplete without each other.

Rgds

Priyanka

First of all Welcome to the forum. Hope u r having a good time around.

You said it... I wont blame Bani unless she stretches this far. Even i was holding on her attack on Ranveer as a trump card to pull out when she got mean with Jai... hope i never have to do that!

I dont want this to go for eternity. I hope the actual truth is out soon!

I cant see Jai suffering for long... all my so called reasoning will go to the dogs... even if he sheds a single tear.

Luv

Anu.

Very well written Analysis Anu!!! 👏

I totally second you on this, Bani's reaction to the whole issue has been surprisingly very calm and within the realms of reasons, considering the magnitude of the situation!

Agreed that Jai did not deliberately murder or kill Kiran and that he did try and save her also, but at the same time, Jai can never disown the fact that he hid such a huge truth from her! How could Jai propose marriage to Pia, when he had this big a past to hide from the three sisters????? Fine, Bani was totally incorrect when she tells Jai that he shouldn't have married her when he knew that their past was connected in such a way, considering that Jai never wanted to marry Bani in the first place, but then he had proposed marriage to Pia and was all set to marry her, isn't Pia also Kiran's daughter....The same woman whom he had killed, albeit accidentally!

Jai's bigger crime was hiding this truth from Bani rather than the actual crime! But yes, at this point of time, Bani is so shattered that, whenever she sees Jai, she can only see the man who had killed her Mother and broken her family into pieces. Logic never works infront of Emotions!

When did Jai behave logically with Bani? Why did he keep making Bani pay for what Pia and Pushkar did to him? Since Jai was much infatuated with Pia even after he had married Bani and she had married Pushkar, he couldn't get himself to hurt her, instead he chose to direct all his ire and anger towards the most easily available target, his Wife!

Considering all that Jai has made Bani go through till date, I think she is still taking everything very well.

Can't really talk about how far Bani will stress her anger for Jai. Bani doesn't hate Jai, else she would have never come to see him in the Hospital, she doesn't want to take any revenge from him, else she wouldn't have left him in the first place.....I think that Bani is still the victim and the only way she is trying to protect and distance herself from Jai is through her anger towards him, which is more than justified!

From what I know, Bani is not going to become a second Kashish or Parvati Bhabhi who will be wreaking vengence, she will just turn herself off from Jai and just plain ignore him, till he goes crazy! 😉

Serves him right, if you ask me and knowing Jai, he is the last person to sit and wallow in self-pity, the more Bani distances herself from him, the more he will try and win her heart back! 😃

Cheers,

MT

i agree wit all of u i think u have all made valid points gd subject btw