Old flames!... telling the truth!!

Ok guys lets have a discussion today on a topic which i feel the show has opened up this week....

Old flames and lovers......

There are many things on occasion we keep secrets and do not want to tell our partners and lovers...

If you had a secret lover like Shiv would you tell your partner or lover??...escpecial as the relationship had ended???

Why would you bring up the past if you are happy with your present and your partner means the world to you?

Guys a general debate on a sentive topic and please respect each others view...😳

Kat

Okay, if it was the beginning stage of my relation, then I might tell him abt it(since I believe tht there shudn't be any secrets like those and my past shudn't be a matter to husband), but then if I am like way into the relation with a baby and all, I might won't tell them abt it, as I don't think an old flame matters tht much, and there is no use digging up the past like tht. If I am to tell, then I wud tell them in the initial stage not after 7yrs of relation.
Just my point of view.
P.S: And I won;t be having an extra marital affair like Shiv did for sure!! And awesome topic👏 👏 👏!!!

two fundamental things in a marriage are understanding and trust..

i will put more emphasis on trust..

to start a new life, i think there should not be any dark secret lying in the cupboard...

be it the husband or wife both should tell wat ever past relationship they have had and i think this will make the marriage and the trust on each other more concrete..

well if i had a lover like shiv and i married someone else i would have told my partner about my past cos once i have vowed to share my life with him there will be no turning back..i will let the past go and live my present happily with my partner ..

a past can sometimes destroy a happy married life be it of so many yrs so thats why its better to clear things at the beginning of this new relationship and trust each other...

u ignite old flames and u burn, so the best thing would be to let the sleping dogs lie but in shiv Gauri's case this maybe needed as he has kept the unsureties for too long and it will be better if it was out in the open between them. He should kno Gauri, u remember she is the one who painted the potrait for him when it got burnt and don't believe him coming out with the truth will harm their relationship infact it may just turn it into unbreakable bond. 😳

Its rather funny - but when i told my husband before marriage - he was so much in love with me that i guess he dint even bother lissening to me, but now when i mention anything abt my past - he goes like when why how which why dint you tell me before and no i dont wanna hear it.
anyways if you are in a serious relation and you are planning to marry the guy then may be if you tell him abt your past there is no harm - then again not telling him would not be lying either.
i love him too much so i dont even bring out the topic coz i dont wanna see him hurt.. simple as that.
Coming back to your questions:
If you had a secret lover like Shiv would you tell your partner or lover??...escpecial as the relationship had ended???
yeah no harm in telling him before marriage.
Why would you bring up the past if you are happy with your present and your partner means the world to you?
never - stay away from my past and never ever waste my today and spoil my coming tomorrow becoz of my past.
Good topic by the way!

Respect!! to u guys for posting 👏 👏 ....some cool comments!! great!!

A very sentive topic......😳

My thoughts on the matter ...was in a rush this morning and did not give me mine......

In a relationship as well as love trust is very important as this binds you and your partner together.... 😳

Many ppl i hve come across are open and tell there lovers everything about there past as at the end of the day they know where there stand and if their lover loves them then they will except them for who you are regardles...

But is some case many are afraid to tell there lovers... like shiv as they fear that they will loose what they love the most and cause pain... the past is best buried and it was a different life.....

So because the people we love are all different the resposility really lies with the individual with the past to tell or not?

In Shiv case he always wonder "What if?" but the realization of living a life without Gauri in his life confirmed how he really felt....

kat i completly agree wth ur pov on shiv.

but in reality ...it depends on the persons nature but not if he is educated or not.it depends how the person takes it ...i mean the past of his or her spousce.....some may accept her or his spousce with open arms with their past and some even though they accept them they cant live in peace so ultimately it will land up in disolution of marriage.according to me it only depends on person to person and their nature.

and letting past again into our present is totally silly thing as we by our own hands destroying the peacefull marital bliss of our own.