How can love be wrong. - Page 4

Originally posted by: myvoiz

Don''t u remember what Niti said, "new things shock you. if you accept it it will not bother you". But acceptance of new things will take time. And every person is different so they will take their own time to accept it. For so many years now, majority did not even know about the existence of the possibility of anything other than heterosexual relationships. And that too is taboo at so many places-girl guy falling for each other at their own free will. Then to isme kitna time lagega aur. Besides you can't even blame someone for not accepting something within our time-frame as long as their ideology is not leading to torturing and making life hell of those who want to live differently. So its gonna take time and besides a lot of other factors also govern its acceptance or non-acceptance. ok please tell me what's the difference between getting used to something and accepting something? Have we got used to it or have we accepted it?Or is it the same? I am confused? Media has given a lot of exposure to homosexuality so now we are aware and

comfortable with its existence but witnessing an actual serious love story or relationship on screen, this is a first. Abhi to, i still shy away from watching intimacy or really bold scenes between girl and guy itself(specially if your family is around), then gay love story will take time. Its not about right or wrong. But getting used to something that is new and not that common does take time. only difference that a flexible and open mind will get used to and accept it faster. Right or wrong. i don't have any opinion about the morality of it . What i know is not wrong is a person wanting to live their life in their own way as long they don't hurt themselves or others . I feel actually bad when i see that Raghav and Cabir have to live in so much fear when they are not hurting anyone and want to live in a particular way. Coz who are we actually to tell someone what to do or what not to do as long as we are not getting affected by it. We don't have that right. Only friends, family and people getting affected by someone's choices have that right. And big deal yaar, romantic relationships-heterosexual or homosexual, your love life is just one aspect of your life. It is not your entire life. It is not your identity. There are other and much more important aspects to your life and much more that makes your identity and defines you.

Originally posted by: .AbhIyalicious.

Im sorry im pretty sure people have posted about this but THIS LINE. It just gave me so much. My heart drooped , melted , reacted , felt like it was going to sink. True. How can it be wrong? Afterall , it blurs human made boundaries.How can it possibly be wrong. *Sigh* I cried with Cabir today. A lot is happening. I wanna write a little about Mukti too. You know the way Mukti looked at Hrshad and the tears that immediately caught her eyes , the way Charlie portrayed it was spot on and beautiful. It hurt my heart seeing her that way. Hopefully Alya is gonna get her out of those pills. She's hallucinating Harshi now. Fab 5 need each other desperately right now. They are each other's home yaar. Why are they hiding from their mirrors , their reflections , their homes. I just don't understand and yet understand where they are coming from . But its like the weight of each individual's problems in their life is making them forget the strength they have as a group , and as long as I remember that is not fab 5. They come to each other every time they have individual problems to find shelter in a collective manner , in a group. Suddenly the root of what they are is fading away in its importance. Also , somewhere I find the timing of everything wrong. Just when Cabir and Mukti are going through so much , you have MaNan already realizing and almost confessing what they have.I dont know i just think that it's not the right time amidst all that is happening you know. The only beam of light within the dark shadows of what everyone in fab 5 is going through, is Dhruv and Alya. They really lighten up my emotionally driven heart due to what is happening with Cabir , and Mukti. So symbolic how he called Alya beautiful before he could say that to his puppy crush, Nandu, and that also cause he couldn't see the hurt and resentment on her face for Manik. Dhruv Alya need each other.Moreover it's meant to be and I don't care what people say , I love them together , as friends and as possibly more in future. 😊

But seriously food for thought , so many times in our life we fall for people who we think, who people around us think is not meant for us and we ignore that feeling inside us for them, even though it bleeds our hearts.So many people do that.I have done that. But Cabir's innocent and desperate question does make us think ,doesn't it?Banda yaa bandi jo bhi hai jaisi bhi hai..how can an emotion like love ever be wrong?

Originally posted by: myvoiz

Don''t u remember what Niti said, "new things shock you. if you accept it it will not bother you". But acceptance of new things will take time. And every person is different so they will take their own time to accept it. For so many years now, majority did not even know about the existence of the possibility of anything other than heterosexual relationships. And that too is taboo at so many places-girl guy falling for each other at their own free will. Then to isme kitna time lagega aur. Besides you can't even blame someone for not accepting something within our time-frame as long as their ideology is not leading to torturing and making life hell of those who want to live differently. So its gonna take time and besides a lot of other factors also govern its acceptance or non-acceptance. ok please tell me what's the difference between getting used to something and accepting something? Have we got used to it or have we accepted it?Or is it the same? I am confused? Media has given a lot of exposure to homosexuality so now we are aware and

comfortable with its existence but witnessing an actual serious love story or relationship on screen, this is a first. Abhi to, i still shy away from watching intimacy or really bold scenes between girl and guy itself(specially if your family is around), then gay love story will take time. Its not about right or wrong. But getting used to something that is new and not that common does take time. only difference that a flexible and open mind will get used to and accept it faster. Right or wrong. i don't have any opinion about the morality of it . What i know is not wrong is a person wanting to live their life in their own way as long they don't hurt themselves or others . I feel actually bad when i see that Raghav and Cabir have to live in so much fear when they are not hurting anyone and want to live in a particular way. Coz who are we actually to tell someone what to do or what not to do as long as we are not getting affected by it. We don't have that right. Only friends, family and people getting affected by someone's choices have that right. And big deal yaar, romantic relationships-heterosexual or homosexual, your love life is just one aspect of your life. It is not your entire life. It is not your identity. There are other and much more important aspects to your life and much more that makes your identity and defines you.

Originally posted by: .AbhIyalicious.

I mean ill timing . i dont visually like to see wrong timing i guess when you know more about characters than the characters know about each other... its too nail biting , but yes its very ill timed.

Originally posted by: .AbhIyalicious.

Originally posted by: myvoiz

Don''t u remember what Niti said, "new things shock you. if you accept it it will not bother you". But acceptance of new things will take time. And every person is different so they will take their own time to accept it. For so many years now, majority did not even know about the existence of the possibility of anything other than heterosexual relationships. And that too is taboo at so many places-girl guy falling for each other at their own free will. Then to isme kitna time lagega aur. Besides you can't even blame someone for not accepting something within our time-frame as long as their ideology is not leading to torturing and making life hell of those who want to live differently. So its gonna take time and besides a lot of other factors also govern its acceptance or non-acceptance. ok please tell me what's the difference between getting used to something and accepting something? Have we got used to it or have we accepted it?Or is it the same? I am confused? Media has given a lot of exposure to homosexuality so now we are aware and

comfortable with its existence but witnessing an actual serious love story or relationship on screen, this is a first. Abhi to, i still shy away from watching intimacy or really bold scenes between girl and guy itself(specially if your family is around), then gay love story will take time. Its not about right or wrong. But getting used to something that is new and not that common does take time. only difference that a flexible and open mind will get used to and accept it faster. Right or wrong. i don't have any opinion about the morality of it . What i know is not wrong is a person wanting to live their life in their own way as long they don't hurt themselves or others . I feel actually bad when i see that Raghav and Cabir have to live in so much fear when they are not hurting anyone and want to live in a particular way. Coz who are we actually to tell someone what to do or what not to do as long as we are not getting affected by it. We don't have that right. Only friends, family and people getting affected by someone's choices have that right. And big deal yaar, romantic relationships-heterosexual or homosexual, your love life is just one aspect of your life. It is not your entire life. It is not your identity. There are other and much more important aspects to your life and much more that makes your identity and defines you.

Originally posted by: charminggenie

@Bold and in Black,

I was done stating my opinion before I read where you mentioned how we flock around to defend Manik .

Read the highlighted lines of your own post, see the hypocrisy which we have been calling out upon. Manik's feelings which have been building since day 1 is regarding as frivolous, unnecessary and ill-timed . Even though he has been constantly being the only one who has been for Cabir in all his worries or has been protecting/.covering the group since long. While you give clean signal to Alya and Dhruv who have not even realized what they want. I like Alya and Dhruv together as friends for now because they are being their individual self together, are they ready for any relationship? No because there is much to grow up for them as well . Alya who though growing beautifully away from her bubble, kept a secret that might not save Mukti on time. So she still has a long way to go as far as being mature is concerned. Dhruv constantly needs guidance , he is still on a shaky wicket, so should he also give up on his individual space and just relegate back in the gloomy back?

okay. let me say this for the last time. I dont have a problem with their relationship blooming midst everything , I had a problem wih he way the screenplay today was partricularly timed regarding the scene. They are i dont know , in my opinion also too old to do the catching and running dupatta thing which I know is done in plenty shows and movies but that does not mean I like it , I find it immature but anyway its indian tv I get it, having such a scene against such serious issues happening to others I felt was the lack of sensitivity on the cvs part regarding the screenplay. I have said this plenty a times before but I dont understand why for one character i have to constantly defend my opinion and justify when you guys ar generalizing my views and making something else. So yes I will call that overtly defensive. Manik ke baarey ek bhi bhool why cant we write? If we have a problem we will...this is a free place.No character is perfect.This was not even about them it was about the scene timing. The reason I have no problem with Dhruv Alyas progression is because just like you said , they have no idea in itself that it is happening which makes it all the more beautiful cause midst teir current and future heartbreaks they unknowingly have stumbled upon each other for support or shelter. Thats what I meant.

You just said Manik basically has no right to live his individuality and personal life , while Cabir, Mukti , Alya and Dhruv are free to do so? Cabir is settling his new equation privately as he should, there are things he need to understand and realize before he can confine in fab5 . Except Mukti who basically has not even realized what is happening to her , all of them needs this time apart to figure themselves and what they want.

I never said that , you thought I said that. I never stated or believed that he has no right to live. Its smiply your assumption of my opinion. Mukti somewhat knows what she is getting herself into but she canot find any other escape either , it is a helpless situation for her. she feels suffocated and pills only feel like a solution to her , which is obviously wrong.

Should Cabir stop loving or being with Raghav, hey because , Mukti is pill popping or should just be the joker like in the past who faked his feelings and new emotions behind the mask? If as I feel you would rightly disagree with it, then why isolate any other character too.

I never said Manik should stop loving. I didnt mean that even. Anyway.

Does being individuals prohibit their growth as a group or disrupt their bonding - Nope. They were using bullying to cover up their vulnerabilities when they were together which made them a bit toxic, now is their time to face their own issues and fight for themselves . This does mean when one of them will be down and out , they will forget everything and rush to protect each other.

You made an accusation basically mentioning how we made this topic all about Manik, probably the lines you wrote yourself seemed like a blur now.

I made an accusation because whatever my topic was became solely about Manik in the comments , I have a right to be irritated o one point being blown out of the proportion.