infedility of the body or the mind - Page 4

Originally posted by: queenkumar

he did try remember when they were in the hotel and she said I will forgive u for anything...

ye di is right.. during there romantic dance at the hotel.. she said so.. angad tried so much to tell but kripa didnt give him a chance😡

wow.... 👏 👏 👏 lovely reply .... I am touched by it .... But have to say , cant change the way I feel abt this....

I supp u r rite when u say that its not all black or white and that forgiveness does come (eventually) but I think that when u expect 'too' much saintliness from ur man & there is a slight slip up, your world does come crashing down... In fact such slip ups end up shattering people - actually women more than men .... So All I am saying is that u shd draw the line but be prepared to change the markings a/c to the curve balls life throws at you.

Plus, u didnt really address my point: That don't u think, men are being unfaithful to us in everyday lives as well when they fantasize abt other women .... That is infidelity too isnt it ??? And when we can deal with (and easily forgive) that mental infidelity, I guess a trangression precipitated by unusual circumstances should be treated with a lot more understanding & dealt with accordingly.

And when I said that women shd be prepared for such behaviour I did not mean being prepared for a lipstick smear everytime your man comes home, rather being prepared to accept an explanation (logicall or otherwise - that is a diff question) upon seeing that lipstick smear instead of thinking the worse abt ur man ....

And maybe I am being too cynical here... But I still feel that a man can luv u insanely and still be unfaithful to you .... I have seen it happen and I accept that as being part of him being human .... and like u put : Not being entirely cut n dry!

I 'd want my man to be faithful to me: YES Thats a given But then if lines do blur on the way, then I'd be prepared to deal with it by taking my rose tints offf....

Anyway .... LOVED UR POST ...😉

Ufff, T.....

U have my already overworked, overtaxed brain working extra overtime, but in a good way. It takes my mind off all these confounded Figures and balancesheets that refuse to balance. 😕

Originally posted by: Angad_Diwani

wow.... 👏 👏 👏 lovely reply .... I am touched by it .... But have to say , cant change the way I feel abt this....

I supp u r rite when u say that its not all black or white and that forgiveness does come (eventually) but I think that when u expect 'too' much saintliness from ur man & there is a slight slip up, your world does come crashing down... In fact such slip ups end up shattering people - actually women more than men .... So All I am saying is that u shd draw the line but be prepared to change the markings a/c to the curve balls life throws at you.

I'm not saying expect saintliness from your man.....everyone has faults, but it is a very cynical way of thinking to "expect" your man to slip up. I think whether you expect saintliness or not, a "slight slip up" (and I don't see such transgrassions as slight) is going to devestate you no matter what you expect or look out for.

Originally posted by: Angad_Diwani

Plus, u didnt really address my point: That don't u think, men are being unfaithful to us in everyday lives as well when they fantasize abt other women .... That is infidelity too isnt it ??? And when we can deal with (and easily forgive) that mental infidelity, I guess a trangression precipitated by unusual circumstances should be treated with a lot more understanding & dealt with accordingly.

Hmmm....you have a point here. I'm groping in the dark here to give you an answer, so don't axpect any epiphanies.

I guess one of the reasons we can deal with (and easily forgive) that particular mental infidelity, is because we know that it is just fantasy. Like you said before, they fantisize about models, hollywood / bollywood women, and these women are unatainable to your average Joe. Knowing that nothing can come from these fantasies, maybe that eases things a bit.....jut a wild shot in the dark here. And don't we women fantisize about hollywood / bollywood men. Don't we also drool over some studly dude on t.v, it is just that Fantasy. For us and for them.

hmmm.... hafsoo... epiphanies or no epiphanies .... u do make good arguments even when groping in the dark !! 👏 Admire that ability in you ...

Ok... will admit that women too are guilty of fantasizing abt other men ....and that is precisely why i said what i said .... that, like it or not .... men and women are BOTH unfaithful to each other in one way or the other. S0 expecting 100% faithfulness is like reaching for the stars isn't it???

I C it this way: u r calling my glass as half empty wheeras, Me I am seeing it as half full--- AND --- This is the icing --- I dont expect it to be totally fully 😆 coz that's life... So I'd say i was not being cynical, rather pragmatic.... 😆