reason behind separation of ramdhari and his wife - Page 4

Originally posted by: LadyMacbeth

John 909 n Parm , interesting discussion , but you know what I feel a bit angry with Ramdhari that he shows soo much care n love to Prithvi who has no blood connection with him and is so indifferent to her own one n only child that is Meera's well being . 😡 How can a father be soo cold n even kinda cruel to his own blood ? His own daughter ? Now he has even given the permission to Prithvi to do whatever he wants for taking revenge against Meera , I can't really digest it .

I agree to some extent. I don't understand why he released Prithvi from his vow from protecting Meera, that makes no sense to me at all. However as for him being indifferent to Meera I think it still has to do with what happened 20 years ago and I think if he shows any kind of care towards her at all everyone will start to wonder if perhaps she is his daughter. I think he wants to stay indifferent so people will not question their relationship. Pisses me off too but I'm sure there is some reason behind his indifference.

As for the love he shows Prithvi, from what the Pundit said I am assuming Ramdhari has had the care of Prithvi since he was a baby so I only think it is natural that he show his love and concern as one would for any adopted child. I believe if you are going to adopt a child there should be no difference in the love between an adopted or biological child.

If on the other hand Ramdhari was just Prithvi's benefactor (as in just made sure he had bare necessities taken care of - food, shelter, education, clothing) than I would definitely be a little more po'ed but he considers him a part of his family, his adoptive son (or so at least that is what I have understood of the story so far - my hindi isn't up to par) so I am actually very happy with this aspect of Ramdhari's character. I would actually consider it very unnatural if he did not show this love and concern for him.

It would be great that he show more feeling for Meera (other than the regret I saw on his face when he slapped Meera - this is the scene in the vehicle where you see him looking at his the hand he slapped her with) but again I think there is definitely a reason behind his indifference and I think it has to do with not wanting anyone to know that either his daughter or wife are alive.

Originally posted by: LadyMacbeth

I agree with you now Parm , he's afraid that if villagers come to know that Meera is his daughter , they might harm her . And I think he trusts Prithvi a lot n knows that he'll never actually hurt Miu , he's not that type of guy , so he thought the promise is not needed anyway , because Miu is now living in the Haveli , in front of his eyes .

Yes I think so too. Villagers, bhaku or any other family member. I think though the problems/any harm would be meant for her mom but would filter over to her since she's there.

As for Prithvi, yes he does trust him a lot in fact more it so it seems than his own blood relatives that live in the haveli...


I also think his hands are tied a lot and he has to handle things very differently because he is a sarpanch of 12 villages rather than just a mere dad who could afford to just think about himself.

thanks for sharing a very interesting idea.

Originally posted by: Hamlet53

thanks for sharing a very interesting idea.

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Originally posted by: LadyMacbeth

John 909 n Parm , interesting discussion , but you know what I feel a bit angry with Ramdhari that he shows soo much care n love to Prithvi who has no blood connection with him and is so indifferent to her own one n only child that is Meera's well being . 😡 How can a father be soo cold n even kinda cruel to his own blood ? His own daughter ? Now he has even given the permission to Prithvi to do whatever he wants for taking revenge against Meera , I can't really digest it .

Originally posted by: john909

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prithvi is extremely loyal and he respects him. why wouldnt he love him? meera herself has invited this trouble. she was not forced to come or live at haveli. she came to this village without even trying to know anything from her mother. she could have atleast tried to know, what exactly happened from her mother. that would have given her a better idea on how to deal with situations at village. we all dont know the real reason behind separation of ramdhari and his family so u cant blame him completely. so far giving permission to prithvi is concerned, i would say meera deserves it coz of what she said to prithvi infront of the whole village panchayat. she said that in his own home infront of the people he cares about. he didnt do anything to her in return coz of his promise to datta thakur.datta thakur released him from that promise coz of the disgusting accusations of meera. he knows prithvi wouldnt breath a word or lay his finger on her even if she tried to kill him that day. i like her strong attitude and behavior but sometimes it is better to look before you leap. meera went all emotional over her mom's last wish but she didnt plan on how to tackle such delicate situation in a way where nobody gets hurt physically or emotionally. asking village people to talk about personal life of a person they worship is really a far fetched idea considering this is a village. so if she really wants to sort this out, she gotta talk to her mom first and hear her side of the story.

Hey John,

I have to agree with you about the fact that Meera should have talked to her mom about everything first (something most of us would do) however going by her character in this show this is not how she does things. She just wants to see her mom happy and does what she thinks her mom needs/wants rather than asking her. Just like when she was trying to find a new husband for her mom before she knew about Ramdhari and her mom's wish. Looks like she just went after that idea half cocked, she has not bothered (as far as I know) to ask her mom anything about her dad all she thought was that her mom needed someone after she was gone. I think that is just strange considering her mom was terminally ill so how would she create any kind of relationship with a hubby in such a short time?

I think that the same happened with her trying to fulfill her mom's wish (although it is very sweet of her to do so and we know she did it out of love for her mom) she still went off half cocked with the idea that she could bring her father home with her. She has no knowledge of him, no idea what kind of man he is/was, no idea what separated them, whether he is still single or with another family etc. She just wanted to see her mom's wish come true. I still think after all the times that Lakhu has tried to attack her or give her to her men to do with her as they please she should have left. Any sane person would have. No one wants her there, her father, Prithvi, her father's family, the villagers etc. and they have all caused problems for her and have not wanted to help her in her quest in any way. It would have been much better just to go home and try to find out from her mom what happened. What a normal person would do, however having said that, this is a show for entertainment. Where would the drama and excitement be if she just went home😆.

BTW, I also like her strong attitude however I also agree that she is very emotional, especially when it comes to her mom.

Originally posted by: Parm.

Hey John,

I have to agree with you about the fact that Meera should have talked to her mom about everything first (something most of us would do) however going by her character in this show this is not how she does things. She just wants to see her mom happy and does what she thinks her mom needs/wants rather than asking her. Just like when she was trying to find a new husband for her mom before she knew about Ramdhari and her mom's wish. Looks like she just went after that idea half cocked, she has not bothered (as far as I know) to ask her mom anything about her dad all she thought was that her mom needed someone after she was gone. I think that is just strange considering her mom was terminally ill so how would she create any kind of relationship with a hubby in such a short time?

I think that the same happened with her trying to fulfill her mom's wish (although it is very sweet of her to do so and we know she did it out of love for her mom) she still went off half cocked with the idea that she could bring her father home with her. She has no knowledge of him, no idea what kind of man he is/was, no idea what separated them, whether he is still single or with another family etc. She just wanted to see her mom's wish come true. I still think after all the times that Lakhu has tried to attack her or give her to her men to do with her as they please she should have left. Any sane person would have. No one wants her there, her father, Prithvi, her father's family, the villagers etc. and they have all caused problems for her and have not wanted to help her in her quest in any way. It would have been much better just to go home and try to find out from her mom what happened. What a normal person would do, however having said that, this is a show for entertainment. Where would the drama and excitement be if she just went home😆.

BTW, I also like her strong attitude however I also agree that she is very emotional, especially when it comes to her mom.

Originally posted by: john909

ya thats exactly my point. i have to agree though that if she would have gone back home we would have been able to watch such entertaining sequences. lol esp bhakhan moments with /regarding meera. sometimes it is hard me to draw line between being emotional and emotional fool for meera. she is self declared smarty (remember she said that to prithvi recently). i am not saying prithvi is dumb, its just he has that villager's innocence in him and he never pretends or try to play games, he is like a straight arrow and very simple. that is why meera has an upper hand over him when it comes to tricking him. anyway do you think meera will be able to stop the shraddh? do you think she should?

i think her mom should find out what she is upto and she should come to the village instead meera creating another drama by stopping shradh (also prithvi being blamed for it falsely as he is given the responsibility now) and being proven wrong yet again by the villagers and her father. things would spice up too if her mom comes there.

LOL @ Bold 🤣 Self-declared smarty 🤣 That she is!

I don't think Prithvi is dumb either and I agree there is a difference. Where you are brought up definitely makes a difference in being able to trick people. When you live in a small place like Prithvi does you know everyone around you so you know what they are like and your are less likely to have someone try to pull the wool over your eyes like Meera did to get into the haveli. It's something he wasn't expecting as he does not know her.

I do think the shradh will be stopped but what reason Ramdhari will give for not attending is what remains to be seen. Having seen today's epi and knowing that Bittu is in the ICU we know she's not going to show up but if that hadn't have happened I still don't know whether she would have personally shown up because of what happened 20 years ago may prevent her from personally coming there. However, I do think she would have sent Aakash in her place to bring Meera back if she knew as no one would no him there.

Guess I have to wait until tomorrow to see if the shradh takes place (if they get that far in the epi that is, could be extended for another epi or two as wel).