It's ideally good for a woman to defend herself against harassment herself. But when it is practically not possible today, how could it have been possible then?
Radhika, Yes it is practically, not possible today,, But jodha, said to Bakshi, Say on talk freely, when HB, & all females were sitting in Bakshi Hozara, But Bakshi, not used this situation.Actually, BB, is too much Inscure, +attached +dependenant to her Husband. Or its a reality in 21 cen,;;;;;;;;;Ruk & Jodha HB, salima contains a strong willpower, But BB, afraidness is lacking her will power, & she is going or Mind confusion, jone.
The problem here is that the perpetrator is a member of the family - an ESTEEMED member of the family.
Agree.If he had been an outsider, Jodha would have killed him by now. But he is Jalal's brother-in-law. Even JAlal himself holds back from punishing his brothers-in-law. Then how can Jodha go ahead?
Yes, Jodha , sure, present this matter than DEK, or Matter result, sure clears or comes, but we will see Monday episoode, clearing this situation, Then moto of this track will be slove.Whether we like it or not, women were, and still are, conditioned to think of their husbands like God. Like someone rightly pointed out, they had no aim in life except to get married and devote their lives to their husbands and kids. If the husband died, they killed themselves too. Even if they lived, life s toowas colourless for them.
This, is real practically situation, we can't deney this. Improvement is coming, But improvement coming is not easy, thing, practically tough, but efforts are carring own, 16 or 21 cen;;;;;;;;;;;;;So HOPE OR IMPROVEMENT IS BEST WEAPON., But Actions, also going to start, This is a, Little Breathe.I do not want to go into details here. But when my father died, the rituals that my mother had to go through made me cry for days. This is NOW. I shuddered to think - is this what a woman is worth at the end of a day - a piece of nothingness without her husband???
Sorry for your Father, but yes Rituals, Which comes, thats also very painful., Even not tolrable,;;;;;;;;;Once i asked my grandMother, Why rituals very tough, after Husband, death,
Her ans was,;;;;;;;;;;;;Acc to her, Female , should realise, Now your life iis going to be tough, bigger then rituals, this is a start. ;;;;;;;;;;But is't it not realty, even 21 cen, I know its wrong, i recalled, Raja, rammohan ray reforms;;;;;;;;;;;why needed, because he knows, Conservative society., But i asked, My grandmother Widow, at the age of 20, but Her will power was very strong, Her ans was, This is the Key, to Live a Life.without this you can't survive.
In my neighbour, a 20 years Girl, became widow, two childs. Every one is saying, please, arrange, this Girl second marriage, but,;;;;;;because child will go to her Mother, so this decesion, not taking her inlaws.;;;;;;;;;;so this real situation, in 21 cen. but changing also coming, we ca.n't deney that.
Even today, harassment by family members and even incest is alive but kept hidden. In any corner of the world.
Agree, but Real truth.Like you said, the woman is considered to be at fault even if the husband is abusive or deserts her.
Bakshi is mentally weak and not up to the challenge of standing up to her husband. This is the bitter truth. It's not a question of physical strength but mental.
Yes, BB, is mentally weak;;;;;;;;;;;;;;i think, she knows, sharrif has no chance to improve.Jodha is herself pregnant with twins. She has already undergone more than her fair share of torture during her pregnancy. She cannot be expected to burden herself further to help Bakshi here.
Actually, jodha is creating space, directely, or indirectely, or BB not using, cause, of loosing her husband;;;;;;;;;;;;;;;Reality is thiis, Her husband is not her, but she not accepts thiis. butn. ques is not wrong Right, ques is she not wants, any step, against sharrif.If Jodha were to visit their hojra at night, SD can do anything - a man who can use a secret tunnel to visit her hojra or touch her in front of his wife, can do anything. At that time, the royal family will question her vigilante attitude. Even Jalal will ask her why she undertook such a risk instead of informing him.
Agree, i think,jodha understands, Sharrif, intansions. she is Quite, but soon we will see, Jodha, Ragvanci awater.Anyway, it's not lack of guards or maids. It's a matter between a husband and a wife. At night, who can dare to enter the bedroom of a couple to check on them? No one.
Agree, Sharrif knows, BB is weak, or he is misusing thiis point.Bakshi has never been nice to Jodha. Even in th Ratanpur Qila case, she had let down Jodha badly in front of Jalal.e again maligned Jodha's character in the FP case. Since she learnt of SD's interest in Jodha, she has been resentful of her and rude, even forgetting that she and her husband have been taken back into the family fold only because of Jodha's efforts.
Agree,But BB should little strong,. She is leaving all things, Bhagan, Bhoorese.she is more creating space for Sharrif.I would say Jodha, for her age, has shown extraordinary maturity in behaving in a friendly and helpful manner with Bakshi, in spite of all this. How much more out of the way can she go for Bakshi?
Further, the royal family has generally looked askance at Jodha's efforts to be kind / helpful to anyone. When neither Bakshi nor her family welcomes Jodha's interference in her marriage, how can she jump in, at the cost of upsetting her own marriage and other relations?
I think, if Our friend, or Anyother Positive is creating space, One step, comes, desesion by Own, so front person can help you. But if we withdarw, how can he or she help.But here responsibilty goes to Two.
1, Front person should be Brave, Because he or she knows, Which person they helping, Is very weak, Mentally+Physically.
2, Weak person should show some faith, Then probelm sloving is long Process, but you will reach,
effort Jone, But if Victim, not want to use these things, Helper Duty, is also very tough then.
So lets see, This a Team work, Or Everyhuman Right Work, wants to Handle delicate+Understanding +patiance Manner. Or Long chain behind this.Then resultes will come, to Start;;;;;;;;;;;;;;;;But, this procees will take more time.But now things are doing to sort out this problem. Its a Poistive, thing.
Edited by ayushimehra - 11 years ago
